Domming A Sub From The Bottom And Teasing Them Lightly While They Fuck You, Chiding Them For How Desperately

Teasing Tactics

Teasing is the most delightful part of chastity play. Don’t cheat yourself by skimping in this area. Indulge in it liberally and you’ll be rewarded and he will swoon. Women are natural teases so it’ll come easily to you. But in case you’re wondering where to start, here are a few ideas to get you started.

Beginners

When you’re just starting out with chastity the teases don’t have to be complex. His head will be exploding with WTFs and TCBRs (This Can’t Be Real) so often that the slightest hint of teasing won’t go unnoticed.

There. All locked up. You’re in for some fun!

The fact that his little guy won’t be having any fun is not lost on his fevered mind. Variations on this that you can use all the time are, “Have fun!” “Don’t have too much fun!” “Enjoy!” “Enjoy your month!” etc.

Are you going to thank me?

Thanking you for taking away his favorite toy will seem insane and hot. He won’t know which but he will thank you.

Hmm, is that a banana in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

The fact that you can feel his bulge but his bulge can’t feel you is a mind trip. He’ll wish he could act but he’ll be thwarted.

Is there something I can do for you?

He knows you obviously don’t mean that but he want to ask for it anyway. Make sure he knows not to.

It’s Friday night! I wonder what people are doin’ tonight, don’t you?

Reminding him he’s not like other men and doesn’t enjoy the same freedoms is very empowering for you and diminishing for him. Try it often. Other variations, “Guess we don’t need these condoms anymore. Maybe my friend Mary’s husband could use them.” “

Do you ever wish you could just bend me over and…?

Of course he does and reminding him every hour doesn’t help! And neither does bending over in front of him every chance you get. ;-) Other variations, “Sometimes a guy just has to take what’s his.” “Don’t you just want to break out of that thing and ravish me?”

Wish you could have played with me tonight but alas. Guess I’ll have to make do with the Hitachi again.

Continuing to have a healthy number of orgasms while he goes without is a great way to illustrate the proper balance. Stating that you wish he could join when it’s your will alone that keeps him locked is a nice irony.

Middle Stages

The big threat that scares chaste men who have gotten a few months into the lifestyle is that it has gotten out of their control. They fear it may eventually become permanent and there is no way they can stop that from happening. Use this to great effect.

We’re going to be on the road when your release day comes up. Guess you’ll just have a dry February this time.

The ease with which you casually throw away the orgasm that he has been hoping for over the past weeks will blow his mind.

I can tell by the look in your eyes that you want out. Tisk tisk. That’s going to cost you.

Adding time for the tiniest of infractions lets him know you mean business and you’re not to be trifled with. “Ask again and I’ll double it.” “You’re five minutes late. Too bad for you that’s going to be an extra day.”

I haven’t decided but then again I haven’t given it much thought

Uncertainty is a great weapon. Let him wonder. Let him stew. Never let him know what he can expect. “Don’t think too much about it. I haven’t.”

Do you ever wish we didn’t have to do this whole routine with unlocking and relocking?

Hinting at permanence can be very scary for him and very exciting. “What’s the longest time you could handle? What if we doubled it?”

I was doing some math. Do you realize you only have XXX orgasms left in your entire life? Maybe less.

Knowing the exact number can seem so finite.

Advanced

Eventually the chastity will become his life and his passion. At this point you don’t need to tease him about it anymore. It’s what he wants more than just about anything. At this point you can tease him about how far he’s fallen, what he’s lost, what he’s given up and what he’ll never have again. Erotic humiliation is a curious kink that women find baffling but most men understand intrinsically.

After all this time in that little cage, I wonder if your penis is still the same size.

Size. The universal insecurity. Poke fun at his size and you’ll get him growing futilely in his cage. Other variations include, “Last time you were out you seemed noticeably smaller. Did I do that to you? Oops! Oh well. No, I won’t let you out so you can try to recoup.” “You used to fill me up. I guess it’s just as well that you don’t anymore since you’re not going to have that opportunity much more.”

That guy over there, the tall one. He’s hot. I would totally love to…

Cuckolding is either a genetic weakness in some males or a socialized weakness in all males. in any case, many men are wired so that when their mate is presented with a sexual opportunity with another man, something flips inside and they suddenly become vicariously aroused. It’s probably an evolutionary pressure release valve that kept tribal men from killing each other over infidelities. But in modern times it means you can twist men that much more.

That guy’s hot, don’t you think?

Without a penis he’s just one of the girls now, functionally speaking. Embarrassing for him but hey, oh well. It’s nice to be able to talk freely without worrying what he might hear or think.

You know how you made me watch that girl/girl porno with you? Well Susan just told me of this hot stud flick that just came out, all guys. Even guys with guys. You game?

When access to the penis is restricted, other forms of pleasure are magnified. Homoerotic situations suddenly seem like viable alternatives to the locked straight man, much to his alarm. This will probably be the slowest and longest slide down but it will happen.

What are your ideas?

I’d love to hear them.

It was the end of a long day. Chilled wine, evening sun and boot worship.

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Feminist Task #1

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Ejaculation

There are some very interesting ways to spice up a FLR, especially when the relationship has become predictable. The beautiful thing about a FLR, is that it never has to become predictable for very long, because the very nature of power exchange, means things can change at any time. Since power exchange, is affecting both partners at very sensitive levels it can be a lot of fun to explore it deeper, to really figure out how to reach deeper into it.

Keeping a submissive, locked up, teased and denied often, will keep him submissive. However, a domme should not forget that subspace is exactly where he wants to be. It’s the best place for him to be in to serve, however, over time, he can get used to subspace, and her power keeping him horny begins to waver a little bit, because it’s what he wants. Being horny becomes his normal state of being.

This can be problematic, because he forgets what it’s like to cum, and his body no longer has the urgent need to ejaculate. Without that need to ejaculate, he may still be subservient, but his desire to push limits, will have waned, and his subservience may have become routine, or not as enthusiastic. This is normal, and often tease and denial will perk him back up, among other things.

There is a way to bring back that desperation however, to turn him back into that very desperate submissive he once was when you were discovering the joys of chastity together. In those days where his submission was half motivated to submit, and half motivated to get the reward of ejaculation. The days where the passion was at its highest peak, and the chivalry was at its highest level.

It requires applying a little bit of reverse psychology, and this can be extremely fun for the domme as well as the submissive. You see, once he has reached that plateau of hornyness, he’s no longer going to want to ejaculate, he’s going to prefer saying denied. Ejaculation to him now, is a chore.

Ejaculation means having to go through subdrop for the next 12 hours or more. He doesn’t want to leave subspace, and he doesn’t want to experience subdrop, it makes him feel down, as if he came down from a high, almost depressed even. He loses all desire to submit, and he feels empty, unfulfilled. Ejaculation is almost like a punishment for him at this point.

Which is exactly why ejaculation has become the perfect way to bring him right back into deeper submission. A submissive should be taught to remain submissive, even if they don’t feel submissive, after ejaculation. This is very difficult for a submissive to do, especially in the early days. One primary method for helping him overcome this, is to have him consume his own cum afterward.

Making him consume his own cum, means the first thing he must do, after ejaculation is perform a submissive act. A submissive act that he really doesn’t want to perform. This keeps him in the submissive mindset, even when he’s really not feeling it. Proper aftercare should then be taken after he has done this. He still wants to feel safe, and cared for.

Once he has learned to be submissive even after ejaculation, the real fun can begin after he’s used to being in the horny plateau, which can take months. After months or years of infrequent, or no full ejaculations, the reverse psychology of ejaculating him can work wonders.

Bringing ejaculation back to the forefront of the relationship can take a bit of adjusting to, but its easier if he’s been trained to be submissive afterward. Over a period of a couple weeks, to a month, a domme can increase the frequency of how often he gets to ejaculate. Perhaps in the first week, it’s two times. Increasing it up to maybe twice a day by the end of the month.

He’s not going to be in subspace for an entire month almost, but remember, that’s not up to him! What’s happening, is his body is once again getting used to ejaculating frequently, and so naturally he begins to crave that, while at the same time, craving subspace even more. He is completely at the mercy of a domme at this point.

When the times comes to be locked back up in chastity, he’s going to once again, have a very difficult time adjusting to the chaste life, and his subservience is going to drastically soar back to begging for attention, and begging to service her with his enthusiastic tongue, while also begging for ejaculation. It’s quite the conundrum for him, and its a delicious amount of power for her. She can have so much fun playing with this, and come up with creative ideas along the way.

A female led relationship never has to get boring, or dull, or routine. A little reverse psychology can go a long way! Ejaculation becomes a doubled edged sword, his best friend, yet his greatest enemy, his domme is in total control of his sexuality and he’s forever left guessing as to what might happen next!

Thank you for reading!  If you’d like to learn more about female led relationships, check out my Practical FLR book series.