Dangerousangleofadream - Femdom

TL;DR

pegging is so important in a long-term chastity relationship. 1, it is a regular reminder of who has the cock in this relationship; 2, it remind him you're in charge; 3, it keeps the male ego away. it's hard for him to be stubborn and argumentative when he has a recent memory of you pegging him; 4, it simultaneously teases and denies him while providing a sexual release. remember this IS his sex now PERIOD.

always remember to put a vibrating toy in for yourself to have so fun ;)

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pegging does all the things that you need to do in order to successfully pull off a chastity relationship and let's be honest... it's a little bit of pay back for all the things he used to do to you. did he use to dress you up in degrading outfits? smack your ass until it was red? pull your hair? tie you up? call you a slut or a whore? fuck you until you couldn't walk straight? whatever it was... now it is his turn. furthermore...

it enforces that you're in charge. the one with the cock is in charge and YOU have the cock in this relationship.

it gives him a sexual release without the sexual satisfaction of penetration and having a "full" orgasm.

it keeps him horny and willing to please.

it is both a punishment and a reward.

it is a form of teasing as well as a source of teasing (more on this later)

this is his sex now, so be generous with it.

in your day-to-day life he will find it hard to be argumentative and have that male ego when you had him bent over moaning into a pillow last night. tell him how cute it is that he tries to be tough and masculine considering he was moaning like a bitch last night.

teasing ideas:

have him suck your strap-on. put in a vibrating toy in yourself and do this until you cum.

take a picture or a video of you pegging him and text it to him. tell him, "this is what is waiting for you when you get home."

use some light bondage to restrain him to the bed face down with a pillow under his hips. put ear plugs in and a blind fold on him. leave him there for however long you want. go take a bath and drink a glass of wine. put a butt plug in him and have a remote controlled vibrating cock ring on his cage that you turn on occasionally. once you're ready for some fun, mount up, turn that vibrator on full blast, and give him a the ride of his life.

while pegging him don't forget to smack his ass. leave it red. remember when he used to smack your ass? it's pay back. take a picture/video.

after you're done pegging him, detach the dildo and leave it in him. make him carry it around the rest of the day or sleep with it still in.

if/when he cums from the stimulation of you pegging him (+/- the vibrating cock ring) that doesn't mean you're done. continue to peg him. use his cum as lubrication on your strap-on or make him eat it.

peg him in fun places. the garage, the shed, the car, the backyard, camping, changing room, at work, anywhere!

dress him up in some of your lingerie or a fun outfit (maid, nurse, cheerleader, etc.). you dressed up for him… it’s only fair he dresses up for you now. take pictures and send them to him later or show him them at a later date to embarrass him.

Love on your boy all nice and good so you can make him the perfect submissive trophy husband.

..nice and strict

I Spit in your Face

Hi guys,

This is the "companion piece" to "Open Wide". I started spitting in p's face long before I first spit in his mouth, but I don't mention it so much because I see it, alongside verbal abuse, in the context of degradation sessions, which can get very dark and which I prefer to keep private - well, details about the content anyway.

I actually use both verbal abuse and face-spitting together. I've done so since the early days of "breaking him in". The one develops out of the other. You are telling a man what a worthless piece of sh*t he is and sooner or later, you realise that actions speak louder (as in the title of p's recent post) and just gob in his face.

I have tried previously to write about one of these sessions in detail, but there are two problems with that: (1) during the session, I say whatever random sh*t comes into my head, so it can be hard to remember it all; and (2) when you see it written down, it looks awful and I just don't want it out there.

Actually, there's a third reason, which is that, to be really effective, the abuse has to be very personalised; so I'd have to tell you some highly personal stuff about p which has a deep emotional significance for him. It wouldn't be right to do that; it would be a breach of trust.

I'm not talking about stuff like the size of his d*ck; I don't even bother to go into that as it's not something he's really embarrassed about. It's little, but it's not freakishly small. I go into his previous relationships; rejections; virginity and sexual inadequacy; his more humiliating kinks and events that "trigger" deep emotions.

Do I genuinely upset him? Yes, of course; it doesn't work otherwise. Do I mean it? That's tricky. If I call him worthless, we both know I don't really think that; but much of what I say is (painfully) true. It's not really about meaning so much as whether I am really angry or disappointed with him; and that depends.

Why do I do it? Well, I might be genuinely angry with him, though that doesn't happen very often. More usually, I will do it for pleasure; and not just mine - I've said before how there's nothing guaranteed to make his dick hard more than spitting in his face or abusing him. It's not just pleasure, though.

I'm breaking his ego down (what's left of it) and rebuilding it on a foundation of my approval. I plunge him into a cold, dark pool to drown and only I can pull him out and save him; he depends on me to breathe, to see the light, to feel the warmth of another human being. He depends on me to have life and self-worth.

There's also a cathartic effect, not just for him, but for both of us. He is cleansed of all those negative thoughts and emotions, provided he focuses on me; I am cleansed of mine, my selfishness and cruelty, because he loves me unconditionally, because he worships me - this very flawed human female - as his personal Goddess.

N x [Confession: p helped me with the drafting of this post]

[Rather obviously, the top pic is from menareslaves.com and features Empress Jennifer; centre pic is from Mistress Lady Renee; and the bottom one is from the unfortunately named spittingbitches.com and features a model curiously named Ebony.

The last picture is a bit yucky, but I think it makes my point about face spitting belonging to degradation play]

Thinking about grinding into him from behind pulling him as close to me as possible, cock twitching aching to be in his cunt

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