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Thank you for your kind messages, they have really kept my will to live for a very long time. Now is the time to say goodbye to you and my life. Thanks for everything!

I am very sorry that you feel so hopeless right now that you are considering suicide! Even if you can’t really see it right now: Things in your life can go better again! There is usually no situation so hopeless that there is no reason to hope for a recovery. Think about the following three reasons why it might still be worth living on.

First reason: Your situation can change

Always remember that stressful situations, no matter how hopeless they may seem at the moment, can change and even suddenly change for the better. Even if this does not happen as quickly as you would like, you shouldn’t try to solve all problems at once, but to look at them for yourself every day.

Of course, there are always circumstances that cannot be changed, e.g. if you suffer from a chronic illness, lose a loved one through death or break up a marriage. In these cases, too, something can be done: Change your own mindset. You can either endlessly mourn what has happened unchangingly, or you can come to terms with it mentally. In that case it is easier to see one’s own situation more positively. It is also more likely to look for ways to deal with the situation than to put an end to it with drastic means. This brings you to the point where you are no longer completely helpless in a situation that seems unchangeable.

You should also never forget the following: If you cannot climb a mountain at once, you may manage it in several stages - step by step. The same applies to most obstacles in life, no matter how huge they may seem.

You can do one thing right now: Talk to someone about the situation, for example a friend or family member. Maybe he or she can help you not to see things so badly anymore.

A second reason for choosing life: There’s help!

People who care about you can be a help. These can be relatives, friends and others who are personally interested in you. If they may not always approach you on their own, you may be able to address them and pour out your heart in a face-to-face conversation.

Then there is also professional help, which you should absolutely take with thoughts of suicide. Often these thoughts are caused by a severe depression for which no one should be ashamed, just as no one should be ashamed of a physical illness. Depression is like a cold among mental illnesses. In theory, anyone can get it - and there are treatment options. If your suicidal thoughts are very strong or persistent, you should find out where you can get help, perhaps at emergency hotlines or other suicide prevention advice centres. They are staffed by trained personnel. Here are a few places you could contact:

Emergency counseling: telephone hotline (free of charge, 24 h)The telephone counselling staff listen to you well, take part in your problems and can refer you to the appropriate facilities if necessary. You can get anonymous advice here at any time of the day or night.

Social psychiatric service: It offers counselling and further assistance to people in psychological crises. Often you will find this service at the health office or you can ask for the address and telephone number at the municipal office.

Counselling centres of the youth welfare offices, child guidance centres and marriage, family and life counselling centres: these are contact points for the most varied problems in every town and municipality.

Online advice: There are many different websites that offer help.

Please do not forget that you cannot get out of a serious mental crisis alone, but if someone helps you, you can make it! Outpatient therapy also helps many to regain more self-confidence and to find strategies for overcoming their problems. It is also important to have someone you can trust and always pour your heart out to.

Here’s a third reason to go on living: There is hope!

Even if you have reached your limits for a long time, this does not mean that a ray of hope will not light up at some point. As already said, situations change, not everything stays the same, desolate and hopeless forever. Your illness can be like a long dark tunnel, whose end you cannot see at the moment. But remember that at some point even the longest tunnel will be over and you will see the daylight again. Many before you have been like this, and so it can be in your case! Even if it’s hard, make one thing your motto: “Giving up is not an option”. This attitude can help you never lose hope, no matter how dark it looks around you.

I wish you very much that with the help and support of others you succeed in overcoming your bad emotional low and that you make the discovery that it is also worth living on in your case. All the best!

Light does not mean that there is no more night, but that the night can be illuminated and overcome.

There’s a dark cloud covering the great sun you are. After it lifts, you’ll be shining.

Some people love themselves so little that they cannot understand when someone else loves them

Responsibility

As long as I do not take full responsibility for myself, I will continue to wander the world, hoping to find my happiness somewhere. But where should I look if not in me? The avoidance and evasion of unpleasant feelings increasingly reduces one's own room for maneuver. Running away cannot be a permanent solution.

Everyday life is a reality that is consciously dreamed every day - a waking dream, a clear dream. The ego that acts in this external sphere is hardly ever the initiator of its actions. And people whose sphere of activity is narrowed and limited tend to have depressing dreams.

Tell me something about your s/o!

It is so difficult to express in words what I feel for her, because she is unique to me.

She touches my heart and soul so deeply. How can I describe what she means to me? Not a single word seems to have enough content to fill these feelings.

She is the life-giving impulse that gently touches the flower in the morning and persuades it to open up and show itself in all its beauty. She is as unique as this young flower in its full splendour for me. Among all the flowers in a garden, I would recognize her because she is unique. Only her shapes and colors fit me and I would see that, even if someone else couldn’t tell her apart from her flower sisters.

She is unique to me because each of her looks hit deep in my heart. If she is sad, I feel with her with every fibre of my being. She’s totally my nature. For her I am ready to explore and experience something new, which she likes, and I'll also take her with me to areas of life that are so far unfathomable for her, if she wants me to. I want to learn to see the world with her eyes, to perceive the scent of a rose as she does and to learn to love the people she likes. If she wants me to, I’ll show her the world as I see it and share my friends with her if she wants to.

I want to share and experience all this with her because she is unique. I sincerely hope that it will be similar for her and that together we can enjoy life in all its beautiful facets and help and support each other when life becomes more difficult. Because she is unique to me, I only want her love from the bottom of my heart for now and ever.

Where does this emptiness come from? What can I do to make myself feel better? How long will the darkness last? The difficult thing about depression is that there is often no satisfactory answer. At least not fast. But how do I encounter something that has no reference? No beginning, no end?

Experience is Wisdom

Shame is often the companion of weakness, because lying on the floor it is difficult to preserve dignity. Suddenly I sense how others have to feel at such moments. You want understanding, not advice. For a long time, I was just looking at the nice feelings. I want to walk through life in a good mood. What am I supposed to do with sadness and fear? I denied myself and my feelings.

How can anyone be that cute?

I love you