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Hello, have question regarding changelings. What qualify as one? Have be fae? Am not human, am dragon winter spirit, made look like human and raised by, but know not real parents. Resonate lot with last post, and even other things read about changelings, so made wonder if can be called one, if is "broad term" for nonhuman creatures exchanged/replaced at birth, or if is more specific to species or something similar.

@winter-cub

I don’t think there is an exact definition to changeling. We’re not exactly a species but more of a category of creatures swapped for human young. For me personally the fae aspect is a big part of my changeling identity. However, I don’t see why another creature switched at birth couldn’t be considered a changeling. I think if the stories of changelings really resonate with you, then you could use the word to identify yourself.

Wondering if other fae (or fae adjacent) can relate to this notion: we don’t seem to be social creatures. Maybe this has more to do with my particular clade, but from what I’ve observed and heard us fae don’t seem to be terribly social.

I have one companion who I seriously talk to and many more friends (I suppose they would be called) who I interact with by observing. I engage with people, but it’s always through this veil of humanity. I never interact as my real self. And I don’t really feel the need to.

I have a theory that changelings don’t require the companionship of humans since we’re something else, but that we might enjoy it since we have to blend in to some extent. However I only have my own experience to go off of, so I can’t ever be certain that this applies to others.

I’m not sure if this is purely due to the fact that I’m a changeling or if other types of fae experience this or if it’s simply my personality. Regardless of the reason, I am quite content alone. I enjoy being around people and observing as a way of entertaining myself, but I don’t seem to have the same social needs as the humans I’m surrounded by.

looking back on my childhood there are so many things that make so much sense from a nonhuman perspective. I have horrible memory, but I do know that I was absolutely convinced that I was adopted growing up. I never felt like I was a true part of the family that I belonged to. I never felt a sense of community with people.

now it’s obvious that this feeling arose from the fact that I’m not human, and that I am a changeling. I belong to another realm of existence.

there also comes my obsession with all things fantasy and fairy tales. One of the first books I ever got for myself was a huge collection of the grimms’ fairy tales. I especially loved animal stories. I identified with them so much, and it’s no wonder why.

there are a lot more examples of my behaviors being very off putting to humans, but I’m mainly focusing on my internal feelings in this post.

anyway I’m curious if any other nonhumans have had similar realizations about their childhoods.

hearing birdsong outside again is healing me, actually

WOAH me!!

Wolpertinger

Kintype drawings! Copperhead edition :3

A quick reminder: your nonhuman experiences are your own. They don't have to be 'cute' or 'fun' or 'aesthetic' and don't feel weird if your nonhuman behaviours aren't like the average experiance.

There is no average nonhuman experience, don't think too much about how others perceive your behaviours because it's no one else's business.

fellow nonhumans with worldly responsibilities (ex: job, school), how do you cope?

im working full time at the moment and have little time for myself. when i do have spare time, im using it all to recharge for work. this leads me to of course not engage with my hobbies, but also causes me to ignore my animalistic needs.

any advice would be appreciated

Definitely!! I get super alert almost to the point of hypervigilance especially if I’m tired but don’t feel safe enough to relax.

Anyone else super jumpy while sleep deprived? Like my mother and her friend are talking and I keep jumping like a scared little bat and I'm confusedd

its so weird being angelkin and wolfkin bc on one hand im like "release me from this flesh prison, you foolish mortals aren't worthy of my Holiness" and on the other hand im like "grrr awoooo!!! woof grr :3"