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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

I get a lot of questions about how to approach the lifestyle. Here's some suggestions that should work for everyone.

Encouraging your wife to sleep with other men, especially if it involves introducing a consensual non-monogamy or hotwife dynamic, requires careful thought, empathy, and open communication. It’s essential to prioritize her comfort and desires while ensuring that both partners are fully on board with the idea. Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to approach this conversation and encourage her without making her feel pressured:

1. Self-Reflection: Understand Your Own Motives

Before initiating the conversation with your wife, it’s important to be clear about your own motivations. Ask yourself:

Why does this dynamic appeal to you?

Is it something that excites you emotionally and sexually, or is there a deeper need you are trying to fulfill?

How do you feel it will affect your relationship, and what are your expectations?

Being clear about your own feelings will help you communicate more effectively and address any concerns she might have.

2. Create a Safe Space for Open Communication

The key to encouraging your wife to explore something like sleeping with other men is ensuring she feels safe to express her thoughts and emotions without judgment. Set up a time to talk openly about your desires, but do so in a way that allows her to explore her feelings too. When you bring it up:

Choose a time when both of you are relaxed and not distracted.

Frame the conversation around mutual exploration, not an obligation or expectation.

For example, you could say, “I’ve been thinking about ways we can continue to explore our sexual connection and fantasies together. I was wondering how you feel about exploring the idea of being with other men, but only if it excites you and feels right for you.”

3. Frame It as a Joint Exploration of Pleasure

Focus on the idea of mutual pleasure, not just your own. Emphasize that this isn’t solely about your fantasy, but about exploring her sexuality and desires in a way that excites both of you. You can say something like:

“I want us to find new ways to enhance our connection and discover what turns you on. If being with other men is something you’d like to explore, I’d love to support you in that.”

Highlight that the dynamic should be fun, pleasurable, and something she has full control over.

4. Gauge Her Comfort Level and Listen Attentively

After introducing the topic, give her space to express her thoughts. She might be intrigued, unsure, or even uncomfortable with the idea initially. It’s crucial to:

Listen actively to her reactions and concerns.

Reassure her that there’s no pressure to act on the idea unless it genuinely excites her.

Respect her boundaries if she’s hesitant or uninterested.

If she’s curious but unsure, suggest taking it slowly or discussing the idea over time rather than jumping into anything quickly.

5. Emphasize Her Autonomy and Comfort

Make sure she understands that this dynamic is about her having full control over her decisions. You can say:

“I want you to feel empowered and free in any decision you make. Whether we explore this or not, it’s important to me that you feel completely comfortable and in control.”

This reassurance will help her feel more comfortable considering the idea, knowing that she can explore at her own pace.

6. Start with Fantasy or Hypothetical Scenarios

If she’s open to the idea but uncertain about taking immediate steps, you can begin by exploring the concept through fantasy or role-play. Engaging in hypothetical discussions or erotic scenarios might help her feel more comfortable with the idea before it becomes a reality.

Role-playing or dirty talk about being with another man could be a first step in gauging her level of interest.

Erotica or films: Watching content together that explores non-monogamy or hotwife themes might help her envision the experience in a safe, fictional setting.

7. Take Baby Steps, Respecting Her Pace

If she’s willing to explore, it’s important to take things slowly and respect her pace. You could suggest:

Flirting or chatting with other men without any pressure to take it further.

Attending social events where she might receive attention, but without the expectation of anything sexual happening.

This gradual approach allows her to dip her toes in and see how she feels about the dynamic without any pressure to jump in all at once.

8. Discuss Boundaries and Expectations Together

Once she’s comfortable with the idea, it’s crucial to have a clear discussion about boundaries, expectations, and how both of you will handle emotions like jealousy. Some topics to cover include:

Emotional boundaries: How much involvement or emotional connection is allowed with other men? Is it purely physical or is deeper connection acceptable?

Level of involvement: How much would you like to be involved? Would you prefer to hear about the encounters afterward, or even be present?

Communication: Make sure there’s open and honest communication before and after any encounters to ensure both of you feel secure and understood.

Establishing boundaries will help ensure that both of you feel respected and emotionally safe during the process.

9. Reinforce Her Emotional Security

Consistently reassure her that your relationship’s foundation is strong and that exploring this dynamic won’t change the emotional connection between you. Let her know that her happiness, comfort, and security are your top priorities. You can say:

“No matter what we explore, my love and commitment to you remain unchanged. I want this to bring us closer, not create any distance between us.”

10. Be Prepared for Ongoing Discussions

As you explore this dynamic together, understand that feelings might evolve. Be ready for ongoing conversations about how things are going, whether any boundaries need adjusting, and how both of you are feeling about the situation. Encourage regular check-ins to make sure she’s still comfortable, excited, and enjoying the experience.

If at any point she expresses discomfort or unease, respect her feelings and be open to pausing or stopping the exploration entirely.

Conclusion:

The key to encouraging your wife to sleep with other men is fostering an environment of trust, communication, and mutual pleasure. It’s important to make sure she feels empowered, respected, and free to make her own decisions. Always approach the conversation with care, prioritize her comfort, and allow her to set the pace. By keeping the lines of communication open and focusing on mutual fulfillment, you can explore this dynamic in a way that strengthens your relationship and enhances your connection.

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Cuckold Hubby Training 1

Nothing too serious to begin with - but when you meet a guy you like, let it show. It’s a way of getting hubby’s imagination going and gently opening the door to the possibility that you may, one day, not be exclusive.

Of course, it could also make him want you more and spice up your relationship. Once he sees you as a flirt, he will instinctively raise his game to compete.

Start with just enough flirting to let hubby know that you notice other men, and maybe would have been interested if you’d been single, but not so much that he worries what you’re up to. Then gradually, over time, take it a little further.

Just don’t take it too far until you’re sure he’s ready for it. Too much too soon, and you may permanently kill any chance of achieving your aims. You want a supercharged sex life, not a jealous rage or relationship problems, right?

Triple Oh! (2024)

Where is from? I need to find

UPD: I found. Its movie show "Weeds"

Kat Foster leaning spread eagle over a bench with her hands bound to it and a ball gag in her mouth in this bondage scene, wearing panties and a bustier. A guy then paddles her a couple times, walking around her and occasionally stopping to take her ball gag out or put it back in.

I love how you try to appear faithful, how your eyes reveal the battle between duty and desire. How you hold your breath for a moment, as if hoping to resist, but the fire within you has already begun to burn uncontrollably. How your thoughts still seek justification, yet your body surrenders to instinct. You try to remain loyal to your husband, but the passion coursing through you always prevails.I love how you give yourself to this moment, breaking every chain, as if each touch liberates you from shame. How you beg me to take you to the edge, forgetting everything else — even your vows. You captivate me with this struggle, where what you truly desire always triumphs — me.

Well, the year is coming to an end, so it’s time for this year’s top 5 book list.

Starting with the five MMF romance books I enjoyed most.

Sugar Daddies – Jade West

Swept - Alyssa Turner

Stitches - Sam Mariano

Three to Play – Lee Swift

Roll against trust – Allyson Lindt