"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The

"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The
"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The
"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The
"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The
"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" Written By Riki Anne Wilchins In TransSisters : The

"Twenty One Things You Don't Say To A Transsexual" written by Riki Anne Wilchins in TransSisters : The Journal Of Transsexual Feminism (Winter 1994)

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1 month ago
Also A Poem From The New, Unreleased Collection. Very Possibly My Own All-time Favourite.

also a poem from the new, unreleased collection. very possibly my own all-time favourite.

1 month ago

sorry this might just be me, but whenever someone says that trans men are inherently “better” to date than cis men because they’re “more emotionally intelligent, soft, and sensitive”, all that sounds like to me is reducing them to how they were ‘raised or socialized’ as girls/women. but i don’t really know if that’s accurate so…

1 month ago
by u/elextric_lizard
Trans dude struggling with disability and masculinity, seeking advice on dealing with anger and grief
I'm a trans dude (20's) and have been feeling alot of grief and alot of anger around my own disability, i don't feel like I'm "enough" but at the same time, i feel like I'm held at a higher expectation as a man than a majority of my peers and questioned more often. it's the first time I've processed these emotions, but i don't know how to channel the anger part without falling into a spiral of self hate over anger because i feel like i can't talk about feeling angry about what I'm going through in alot of the spaces i inhabit because it's not something that people understand. I've bottled it up and it gets to the point where i get physically aggressive and argumentative and have scared the hell out of my family and friends, as well as myself. Are there ways of dealing with this that are less destructive?
u/ PanzerSloth 
(Broletariat)
Brother let me just say, as a cis man in his 30s, welcome to the club. Welcome to the tribe of man. We all struggle with not feeling like we aren't "enough", even without circumstances like yours. While I can't speak to your experience as a trans man I can tell you that what you're feeling is similar enough to what we all feel, if only deeper for the struggle you face with your identity.
But the thing is you have to sit down and ask yourself what IS "enough"?
I'm a big guy, I have tons of tattoos and a beard, I've been happily married for 14 years, I own a house and a car, I hold a steady job, I have a wonderful social life with tons of friends, and despite being monogamous I have women expressing interest in me CONSTANTLY.
Despite all of that, despite all of the boxes I have checked in my lifetime, despite all of the objective success I have achieved in my humble little existence, I still don't feel like I've done enough. The world doesn't feel like I've done enough. Some of our fellow men TELL ME I haven't done enough.
I've struggled with it for a long time. I've gone through major depressions and identity crises.
But the thing is came to realize, the thing that we are ALL told but can never understand until we experience it firsthand, is that even the IDEA of "enough" is an illusion.
"Enough" is a marketing strategy. "Enough" wants you to consume more and more.
"Enough" tells you to always do more, eat more, excercise more, travel more, fuck more, and on and on and on.
The fact that you are sitting here right now, that you are asking yourself these questions, that you had the strength to reach out and seek help, it all means you have already done enough.
You stepped in to the large confusing inner-world of your own masculinity and took charge of your exploration. You are in uncharted territory exploring unfamiliar terrain you might not have even expected to find. It's fucking scary.
But any man that takes that step and embarks on that journey is a man by default.
You became a man the second you stepped foot outside of your comfort zone. You took a step that none of us cis men had to take. That ALONE "earned your place at the table", so to speak.
Now, from here, things get difficult.
These questions you're facing and these emotions you're feeling aren't things that can be explained away. There isn't some magical answer to any of this, no matter how badly we want one or how adamantly someone promises they have one.
You are full of questions with no clear answers and emotions with no clear meaning. That means you've made it. This is it. This is what it's about. Manhood is a journey with no destination. We never "make it", but that's only because there is nowhere to make it to. All that matters is in the moment. What you do and how you interact with the world.
What kind of man do you want to be? Do you want to be a confused and angry man who lashes out at the world because you don't understand your inner conflict? Or do you want to examine that conflict and study it to learn how you can do better?
When you feel like this sit with it, examine it, run your hands over it and feel it's sharp edges. Any time you reach a sharp edge that hurts and draws blood, that's where you focus. You are a sculptor creating yourself and all there is is to chip away at those hard edges and carve yourself in to whatever shape you desire.
Just remember you aren't alone. It will be cold comfort on those dark nights of the soul, but you have brothers out there who love and support you.
Apes together strong. (heart emoji, flex emoji)

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1 month ago
He Needs Enrichment

he needs enrichment

1 month ago

No joke though watching people on here say the most basic heterosexual catholic ass bullshit is so funny straight up wymmmm you think if someone hasn’t been proposed to in two years they should break up. Wym there’s no point to a relationship without the end goal of marriage. Wym you think liking photos on instagram is indicative of wanting to cheat. Wym you think nonmonogamy is soulless. God damn lol you’re skirting the line judging of people based on body counts and saying bisexuals are more likely to cheat at that point

1 month ago

"trans men transition because they hate women and femininity" I've literally never seen a group of men who felt so guilty and ashamed of their masculinity and being male or who loved and supported women and femininity as much as trans men in my life but ok. just throw away their support it's whatever

1 month ago

i like working at plant store. sometimes you ring up someone and there's a slug on their plant and so you're like "Oh haha you've got a friend there let me get that for you" and you put the slug on your hand for safekeeping but then its really busy and you dont have time to take the slug outside before the next customer in line so you just have a slug chilling on your hand for 15 minutes. really makes you feel at peace with nature. also it means sometimes i get to say my favorite line which is "would you like this free slug with your purchase"

1 month ago
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1 month ago

there's something so reassuring about seeing you so openly outspoken in the past few days

there's comfort in a queer protective front

We are all in this together and we have more support than you know. Check this out from today in London:

There's Something So Reassuring About Seeing You So Openly Outspoken In The Past Few Days

Theresa's a pretty well known trans woman around here. But when I arrived, the protest was already in all the roads. Busses couldn't go anywhere. The police were trying to kettle but they couldn't do it. In the end, we had to start marching. Legal observers were everywhere, and I watched two chase some CSPOs carrying a camera to intercept. (Big up to legal observers, it's a voluntary role taken to by solicitors, lawyers and barristers, and they are legends.) Trans people and their allies ground the capital city of the UK to a halt.

The media will blackout and minimise today as much as possible. But if you're ever feeling like the LGBT community has no support, I urge you to go to a protest.

I'm reminded of what historian Dominic Sandbrook said if the so-called 1960s sexual revolution in the UK, that it was "in the newspapers not people's bedrooms". That most people remained sexually and socially conservative despite what 60s and 70s media would have you believe. Evidenced in 1983 when a poll reported only 17% of people saw homosexual relationships as acceptable despite it being decriminalised in 1967 (as a product of the belief the state had no right to interfere in people's private lives, not an increase of social acceptance).

But anyway! My point is: the media crafts the narrative it wants in order to sell. It fucking lies about what is really happening and it always has. UK media would have you believe we are "TERF Island", which, ok, we have JKKK Rowling and Maya Forstater (barf), et al, but the British people? Not lost yet.

I never expected to get to thirty. The LGBT community helped me make it, so every year after I owe to them. I may not have all the right phrases, words, attitudes, whatever, but I will throw down in an instant for the community. No quarter. We got this.

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