I Really Do Love How A Lot Of Zutara Shippers On Here Get Super Into The Meta And Write Whole Dissertations

Nothing will ever beat the time someone on Reddit said to me, “Don’t tell me that if Griffith was standing right in front of him Guts would choose Casca over revenge” and I just replied with this

I find your lack of whimsy disturbing

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Okay so my sister just ended her 2 (?) Year long situationship and I thought why not post about it bc the details are kinda intriguing and also the situation doesn't make sense I think??? Tw: horrible descriptions of the situation bc there only sm information my brain can retain.

Basically this is about a younger (!) Guy in her class bc they started out as friends I think but tn she went out for drinks with her friends and he was there bc it was a class thing, except they didn't talk for over a month previously bc she left him on delivered deliberately bc they had a fight (I completely forgot what it was about).

So this night was the first time in weeks they talk and he's mad at her for ghosting him and they start to get vulnerable (bc drinks.) Mind you throughout their friendship they had this weird thing where it seemed like he flirted with her but then went on to go on dates with other girls? I think that was the thing? (Actually Im terrible at recounting events bc they had multiple arguments if I'm not mistaken, she's had multiple tantrums over him, ranting to me while drunk whenever she would go out with her friends).

Anyways they talk about their feelings and he basically recounts when they met for the first time at a party in the first semester of their first year and how he chugged a bottle and he noticed she looked at him and he thought smth like: yeah we could have a thing.

And from her pov it was actually a: never have I ever done x thing. So she was like judging him. But then at one point throughout the first year she develops feelings and she even tells him this night that she liked him at one point.

At one point during this night he even tried to kiss her on the mouth and she retracts. She also tells him she's seeing some1 atm (she's talking to another guy so she tries to commit to one guy at a time).

And then their argument leads to this exchange that was smth like:

Her: just tell me you don't like me.

Him: fine, I don't like you.

And now she's pissed at him for agreeing, she's not sure why, but we both suspect it's bc either A. She wanted him to disagree and say he likes her so she could reject him and retain her ego ig?? Or B. She wanted him to disagree bc part of her still likes him?

And after letting it out she kept repeating "I hate him, I hate him, I hate him." And then it lead: "I don't feel anything for him." And then: "I'm gonna fuck the other guy." And now she's trying to finish writing her paper for school bc who got time for hoes when you have homework to do.

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

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