Forever Trapped In The Cycle Between “I Want To Talk To My Tc Because If I Don’t I’ll Feel Like

February TC Challenge Day 3

3.) What kind of date do you think your TC(s) would love to go on the most? Where would you take them?

She gives off hiking/ forest vibes - maybe walking up to a lake and drinking wine and rowing across it, stargazing , that kind of thing

Travelling to some country we picked out at random

Or just a drive in movie

when she says i can come see her to chat anytime 🥰🥰🥰🥰

she said talking to me is always pleasant and that she thought about me yesterday ??????

Did you talk with her again about THAT movie she proposed to you ? ( the lesbian one)

yes lmaooo she said maybe she needs to watch it again (?) and recommended me way more movies

went to leave books back in to school today and she wasn’t there .

i’ve been so inactive recently for literally no reason but things with j have been going well. we had a really good conversation a while back and it got very personal on her part and also she knows i like girls now lol. but on a sadder note - i always used to talk to her every monday, but now every other one there’s a class in her room and she’s in the office which i can’t really go into :( tomorrow is a good monday though i think

I wish I could tell you, and I wish it wouldn’t be so awful if I did.

tips for anxious tc'ers

having a tc is hard. eveyone knows the feeling of going blank when youre around your tc, or stumbling and choking on your words when you try to speak to them. so i decided to compile a list of tips that i have used that have worked for me (an extremely shy and awkward person) get close to my (extremely closed off/cold-ish) tc. if you're looking for ways to start a conversation with your tc and make that leap into a more casual relationship - read on.

these tips work well for when you're both online and on-campus :)

pets.

this is a very good way to talk to your tc when everyone is stuck at home during online school. how many times have you seen a dog running across the frame in your tc's class? or heard meows in the background? if this every happens, take the leap and ask your tc (preferably after class as not to derail) what their pets name is. when i did this my tc even she sent me some pictures! it's a great conversation starter and you can ask about the pet again in the future :)

casual segways.

this one is a little trickier and more nerve-wracking and it can be difficult depending on what class your tc teaches, but making the leap is really important. to do this, you have to first be having a class discussion in your tc's class. for example, one time we were learning about how different cultures celebrate christmas. so i casually asked L how she'd be celebrating and spending her holiday. this turned into a conversation and brought us slightly closer together. asking your tc personal questions related to what you're learning is great, it shows them you're interested in both them and the class and everybody loves talking about themselves.

joining/coming to class early for small talk.

i know everyone has sat and waited a couple minutes before joining a google meet so that they aren't alone with the teacher, but joining early when it's just the two of you can create some really good conversations. it's scary and you have to be quick, but joining quickly and giving a quick 'hi! how are you?' can create a friendly relationship between you. adding in a 'how was your weekend?' can create a great conversation as-well.

advice, questions, help.

this is an obvious one, but asking your tc for help or reaching out to them for guidance is a great way to talk to them. if you have assignments or assessments in their class, you can ask for advice or for them to check on your work. the worst part about this tip is actually coming up with a question to ask, lol. you can confirm due dates, clarify details, and ask a quedtion about what to do or how to do something.

compliments (within reason)

everyone likes getting complimented, and when we're online it can be a great way to lift up your tc's mood. i wouldn't go too far with compliments, i'd stick with things like 'i like your shirt' or "cool earrings!'. another great opportunity is complimenting your tc if they get a new haircut or change something about their appearance. one time, my tc got bangs and i complimented her. this became a conversation and that was one of the first times i really spoke to her! and if you're worried about being weird or obvious, there have been countless times when ive complimented other teachers on their jewelery or clothes. its alwayd been recieved well.

speak up!

keeping engaged and active during a class is really difficult to do, especially whenever we're online. a good way to create a good relationship with your tc is engaging in their class! obviously, dont be obnoxious or rude, but answering questions and making jokes can be a great way to liven up a lesson. if your tc asks 'how are you guys' in your class and nobody says anything, take the leap and answer! it can be awkward and really scary, but trust me it's worth it. don't let your tc's questions go unanswered.

we had a test today and i was slightly late and she made me sit right at the front. and we can wear our own clothes tomorrow because it’s the last day of term- someone please tell me what to wear because I have her class

23/3/22

spent lunch with her today and she showed me a photo of her with blue hair and her family which was super cute <3

idk when i’m next going to see her though, don’t have her class to next week and i don’t want to see her too much in case she thinks i’m weird so probably will have to wait till next monday :,)

she is the most beautiful woman ever i genuinely can’t

and not to be nsfw but it’s getting warmer and she was just wearing her usual white shirt today without the suit jacket and ohmygod mommy