legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends
any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don't have to choose what it is if they can't make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you're just gonna make food happen at their house.
friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.
someone's relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.
buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.
pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that's what they want.
people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.
legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.
Guan Shan: He Tian, can you please put the dinner in the oven at 120 degrees.
He Tian: Sure babe~
TianShan Cooking: 1 - 2
Happy New Year!!! 2024! đ¤
The year of the dragon in the woods.
one thing me n my art loving gf would do is visit galleries and play a game called âroot, loot or bootâÂ
the gist is that you would look at a group of paintings in a room and decide which figure in the painting youâd root (fuck, in Australian slang), which painting youâd loot (steal and put on your wall at home) and which painting youâd boot (punt into the garbage because itâs shit and Not Art)
a couple of things about my experiences:
1. this game is a lot more fun if youâre attracted to women because thereâs so many Hot Gals to choose fromÂ
2. if you are attracted to men, you will spend a lot of time going âwell, looks like Iâll have to pick jesus againâ as my bi gf did
3. it gets more complicated in modern art museums and you find yourself having saying, âIâd fuck the rhombusâ âyou CANâT fuck the rhombusâ âthen Iâll fuck that blue squiggle thing. whatâs it called?â âcreeping existential dread in blueâ âthen does that mean Iâm fucking the squiggle or am I getting fucked by the existential dread it represents?â âarenât we all already getting fucked by existential dread?â
4. if you play this with an art history nerd, they may decide to kill you over one of your âbootâ choices
5. you will get Disapproving Looks from other patrons who overhear your heated debates
6. itâs also the best fun youâll ever have in an art gallery
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massacres in a refugee camp do not count as a rescue mission.
Please help the family of a non-verbal autistic child (who has been losing weight because he only eats certain kinds of food, largely unavailable during this time) leave Gaza!
Just thinking about how much Robin Hobb had to do to force her OTP back together at the end of Fools Fate and being salty. It required:
-Burrich to be depicted as a decrepit old man when heâs like in his 50s and conveniently die, gifting Fitz with his family (!) as his last wish
-Fitz to finally realize and accept what âno limitsâ means with Beloved after an entire trilogy where this is a central theme and raise him from the dead because he refuses to live in a world that he isnât part of, and then for this to not matter at all because Beloved decides actually heâs just an obstacle to Fitzâs true love Molly (?!) and leaves
-Fitz not being allowed to choose what he wants, because when he tries to choose Beloved heâs told no thatâs not actually whatâs good for you
-Molly not being able to choose if she would be ok with her ex bringing along his queerplatonic life partner because itâs already been decided for her that of course she wouldnât
-Fitz getting lost in a Skill pillar for a month so he canât have a rational discussion with Beloved about it as Prilkop the conveniently located agent of Clerres tells him all about how of course their Path is finished and staying by his Catalyst will only do harm
-Prilkop convincing Beloved that he should go back to Clerres, a place where he was physically and sexually abused before running away, because apparently itâs his job to fix them, and this actually working (!!!)
-Literally everyone in Fitzâs life, up to and including Burrich and Mollys eldest son who Fitz never speaks to on page again after this, pushing him to pursue her and telling him not to take no for an answer
-Molly and Burrich (actually Nettle) being granted Withywoods and a noble title by Patience so they no longer have to deal with the obvious issue of the class divide
-Molly magically accepting that he let her believe he was dead for 16 years and abandoned their daughter because he was upset she married someone else because her role in this book is to be his prize for completing the quest
-Neither Fitz nor Molly ever mentioning or even thinking about Burrich, his foster father and major formative influence and her husband of many years and father of her sons, except for a few passing references
So yeah, in a series where the characters generally act in believable ways even when itâs frustrating, this whole plot was just contrived as hell