So I was just experiencing daydream crash a couple days ago, and I realized some things that actually made me feel comforted.
This will be a list of ways to get over daydream crash.
1.) If you have a large stuffed animal (small works too I guess), just hold it like you’re holding your para.
The reason I thought of this was because I have this stuffed bunny that I named after my para Nesset, and this stuffed platypus that I named after Ellen. And when I hug them, it makes me think that I’m actually hugging my para’s. I don’t know if it’ll work for any of you, but it helped me when I was curled in a ball covered in tears haha. I just felt better I guess. Not to mention I always have to sleep with these stuffed animals, and since they’re about medium-sized, it makes me feel like my para’s are right next to me.
2.) Listening to music.
Now I’m not just talking about any kind of music. I’m talking about songs that would normally bring joy to your para’s. Or a song that made you extremely happy about a daydream you had. I know daydream crash is where you realize this stuff isn’t real and it can never be real, but if you think about it, you want the best for your para’s, and if anything, I’m sure all of your para’s want the best for you. They wouldn’t want to see you upset. So maybe listening to one of their favorite songs will make you happier because you know how happy it makes your para’s. Just because they aren’t real, it doesn’t mean they don’t care about your emotions.
3.) Listen to your para’s sing!
This one is kind of related to the last tip. But its kind of different. If you saw my post about how I give my para’s a famous singers voice, you should understand what I’m talking about here. If you don’t, I’ll explain. I have certain bands/singers that I listen to for comfort when I’m experiencing daydream crash. But the reason I listen to just a couple specific bands/singers is because I use those voices as my escape. Since I use Tossing Copper, and I The Mighty as Ellen’s voice claim. I picture Ellen singing those songs to me. And its extremely comforting because their voices are amazing, and mellow (mellow depending on the song). And if you have a para that has a voicelcaim. Use that band/singer as your escape! Like I said, its basically like your para is singing to you. Its the most comforting feeling ever I swear!
4.) The Multi Universe Theory!!
If you haven’t heard of the Multi Universe theory, I strongly suggest and highly recommend that you look it up!!
If you’re lazy and don’t want to, then I’ll explain! Basically what it is is scientists have studied that there may be more than just this universe. Because the universe goes so far out into nothing basically, obviously it has to lead to something. So if you think about it, these dreamverses that we have, these para’s that we have, they could possibly be real! Not to mention studies showed that “more likely than not” there are DEFINITELY more universes out there. If this doesn’t help you with your crash, I don’t know what will. I was super relieved when I heard about it.
The only question is how do we get there? They haven’t figured that out yet, but it was confirmed that they could most likely exist.
I really hope this helped some of you guys who have gone/are going through daydream crash! If you need to talk, I’m always willing to listen!
Don’t feel forced to stick to the canon.
If you want to take into account just one part of your f/o’s story, do it. If you don’t want them to be dead, keep them alive. If they are married/engaged/whatever, make them yours.
Even if they are a villain who want to destroy or dominate the world, they love you. Even if they are a king/queen and you a simple civilian or servant, you’re their queen/king. Even if they’re an evil creature, they’ll protect you.
Don’t feel unworthy of their love and adoration just because of the canon.
If you want to mix different stories and universes, you can. This is all about your imagination. Do whatever you want. Create your own universe.
maybe if we, as a society, spent more time in gardens things wouldn’t be like this
do you ever look at someone and just fucking melt
The reason I can’t track my F/O’s tags, a meme by me.
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The idea that people can be completely evil and have no redeeming qualities, extenuating circumstances, or core humanity at all … That is the only place where true evil lies. The belief that some people are “evil” makes it easier for us to write them off, dehumanize them, destroy them, cease helping them. The idea of evil makes misbegotten moral righteousness possible, and justifies all manner of aggressive and hateful acts.
Sociopathy and antisocial personality disorder are just a repackaging of the age-old concept of pure unredeemable evil. It’s morality-driven dehumanization dressed in a clinical psychologist’s coat.
It is comforting to believe that people commit heinous acts because they are henious monsterous people. Such thinking protects us from wondering if we are capable of committing evil acts, if we are hateful and destructive. It also implies that ending suffering in the world is not a matter of slowly and constant reforming all our hearts and minds; it’s simply a matter of finding all the bad eggs and scrambling them.
The concept of sociopathic evil absolves us from doing the hard work of reforming criminals, remedying the precursors to crime, and examining the morality of our own actions. It is much easier to cast off the malicious as evil, disordered, defective, inhuman, exceptional, than it is to turn such a critical gaze upon ourselves.
By accepting the idea that “some people are just evil”, we resign ourselves to an overly simplified worldview where wrongs cannot be prevented, only punished, and where there is no broader societal responsibility for the sins of society’s children.
I aspire to be a woman who loves to wakes up early in the morning and loves what she does for a living everyday. Travels often, spiritually secured, and financially stable.
imagine your f/o kissing your fingertips
imagine your usually softspoken and level-headed f/o peacocking for you, suddenly padding their speech with flowery words and treating you like royalty, overflowing with latent charisma. bonus points if they later sheepishly reveal that they went to one of your more flirty platonic/romantic f/o’s for advice on how to impress you.