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“A star can never die. It just turns into a smile and melts back into the cosmic music, the dance of life.”-Michael Jackson | August 29, 1958-∞

Today, June 25th, marks nine years since our King was taken away. Although you’re gone, you will never be forgotten. May your love, your legacy, and your music live on forever. We love you, Applehead. 

About Those Types Misconceptions

INFP: They’re fierce - INFPs often remain silent and are very observant of other people and what makes them who they are, but this apparent softness hides a very passionate drive to do what is right, and if ever a situation or a person does not align with their principles, you will definitely know about it - do not underestimate them.

ENFP: They’re very analytical - Yes ENFPs can seem a little crazy and like they’re constantly fooling around, but it is to be remembered that this type is extremely perceptive of their environment and of ideas, that they dissect carefully and draw conclusions from. They have true depth, and labelling them as shallow would be a big mistake. 

INFJ: They’re quite independent - It may sound strange but INFJs are quite independent. They strive to help people to be better individuals and to make the world a nicer place, but they follow their own rules and will not hesitate long to react if you go against them. Harmony is their priority, but don’t you cross them. The difference with INFP is that INFPs will simply see this other person who does not conform to their vision as not really worth their time, INFJs on the other hand trying to change this person’s mind-set for a kinder approach, etc.

ENFJ: They struggle - ENFJs are probably the most disorganised of all J-types, and they take on sometimes way more than they can carry. Even if these guys try to help people as much they can, sometimes it isn’t enough and that can go against them. The bubbly stereotype does not apply to all ENFJs unfortunately, since they can get depressed easily, and thereby stop their advising functions.

INTP: They really care - INTPs can sometimes seem off and uninterested, but this most-likely comes from a system of self-defence to prevent them from harm, as they may have been previously neglected for their ideas or conceptions of the world, and have been misunderstood. If an INTP likes and cares for you, there is nothing they would not do, and their aloofness is not to be taken as pride or smugness (although sometimes they like to be ;) and they genuinely care. 

ENTP: They’re just feeling half the time - ENTPs are absolutely mind-blowing master concealers. Their emotions get triggered by the littlest things, and they spend a lot of their time, if not almost all of it, concealing what they perceive as weaknesses under fair amounts of witty comebacks and confidence. These people are actually great empaths, but their chosen priority being logic, they often toss those feelings away for later, and often avoid them until it’s too late.

INTJ: They have feelings - Similar to ENTP, except INTJs truly master their emotions, and manage to chanel them instead of shutting them away. INTJs have a good deal of feelings, except they don’t necessarily feel the need to talk about them, and prefer rational advice when considering their emotional needs, which is seldom given. INTJs openly reject the myth that they lack feelings, and may feel even more misunderstood when they have the impression that they are expressing them, as sometimes they do, but in ways most people don’t perceive because they are seemingly so small, which can be hurtful. 

ENTJ: They’re understanding - I’ve said this already, I’m always quite awed by ENTJs, but once you get to know them, they are truly open people. More than once have I heard them give relationship advice, and try to help people understand concepts with detailed explanations and diagrams, they strive for a more efficient and knowledgeable world, which can be seen through a sometimes devoted attitude.

ISFP: They’re not always kind to themselves - ISFPs may appear as charismatic, different, inspired and like they like themselves quite a bit (and that is absolutely great) but sometimes, when their creativity lets them down for example, they have the impression that they are now devoid of their identity, and may feel lost, and even over-criticize themselves. They need to be understood and comforted in their unicity and worth, almost as if they possessed Fe but not quite.

ISTP: They can feel quite lonely - ISTPs love peace and quiet and alone time, but sometimes loneliness can become quite painful. Composing only 2% of the overall population, ISTPs often feel like few if any people actually understand them, and that it may be easier just to crawl back onto themselves and create a shell to self-sustain instead of socialising and creating bonds with people. 

ESFP: They’re nostalgic - Living in the moment is often a way for ESFPs to have peace of mind, as their brains are involved elsewhere. Their need for company and action is their way of escaping their responsibilities, that remind them once again that they’re adults or growing into adults now, and that means, for them, that fun is almost over and that they’re going to turn into “boring people”, or be coerced into becoming “normal people”, which their Fi has difficulty dealing with.

ESTP: They value your opinion greatly - ESTPs have strong views on many subjects and they are also very passionate individuals, but boy do they need to be validated. It’s not a bad thing, of course, it’s simply a little surprising (although it shouldn’t be) that someone under appearances so outgoing and frank and sometimes even careless may need approval that what they are doing is good, and that they are accepted.  

ISFJ: They’re strong - ISFJs may constantly be trying to please everybody and adhere to everything, but deep down, they know who they are. They know what they like, what they dislike, what they are willing to tolerate, and what they are not. They are capable of enduring so much without ever complaining, and are truly inspiring people, who can talk about anything they set their mind to. 

ESFJ: They’re insecure - Organisation and procedure are the ways in which ESFJs try to live by, but it can also truly hide a very anxious nature. Planning is what ESFJs do to prevent lack of resources and preparing ahead to survive is a way in which ESFJs feel that they are under control. Their bubbly nature shows their need to be loved and feel like they have worth. Don’t rely too much on them, although they really want to carry your load with, or even for, you.

ISTJ: They feel misunderstood - Nobody is as organised, structured and rigorous as ISTJs, and the world’ s messiness can be quite overwhelming to them sometimes. That feeling that they’re the only ones holding it all together and getting everything done for everyone can make them feel like they’re being used or that people don’t appreciate them for their true worth, for what they are deep down. 

ESTJ: They doubt a lot - ESTJs may appear very confident and they may be your bosses most of the time because they’re great administrators with a plan based on sound facts, but the truth is ESTJs are almost constantly questioning if they’re doing the right thing, and the fear of failure is very much present. 

Anjelica Huston as Eva Ernst/The Grand High Witch in The Witches {1990}

Tom Tom Club is an American new wave band founded in 1981 by husband-and-wife team Tina Weymouth and Chris Frantz, both also known for being members of Talking Heads.

Tom Tom Club - Genius of Love (1981).

In case you motherfuckers forgot, Tina Weymouth is one of the best bassists of all time and nobody gives her enough respect.

Inhale & Exhale

Here’s a list of resources I’ve discovered while on my own meditation journey. Take some time to tune out while tuning in to your heart, soul, & deepest desires. Experiment, find what you like, breathe, & simple BE!

Meditation 101

How to Meditate

Ten Important Tips

This is Your Body on Meditation

How Meditation Changes your Brain Frequency 

8 Excuses For Not Meditating That You Should Ditch Immediately

Different Types of Meditation

Breath Meditation

Proper Breathing in Meditation

How to Meditate Daily

How Meditation, Mindfulness help ease Chronic Illness

Guided Meditations

Fragrant Heart *One of my favorite websites, filled with numerous free guided meditations covering a range of topics/intentions such as “stress-relief” & “self-esteem”.

Channeling the Universal Love

You are Enough

Deep Relaxation

New Beginnings + Into the Ocean

Free Guided Meditations

Audio Dharma - Guided Meditations

How to Meditate in One Minute

A One-Minute Meditation to Silence your Mind & Calm your Energy

Deepak Chopra & Oprah 21-Day Meditation Challenge

Meditation Apps for iPhone 

Headspace.com - Meditation & Mindfulness 

Take a Break! - Guided Meditations for Stress Relief

Silva Meditate

Buddhify

Smiling Mind

Calm - Meditate, Sleep, Relax 

Meditation Apps for Android

Buddhist Meditation Trainer 

Calm - Meditate, Sleep, Relax 

Headspace.com - Meditation & Mindfulness 

Mental Workout 

Dharma Meditation Trainer 

Simply Being Guided Meditation

Meditation Tunes

8tracks

Healing Sounds - Tibetan Bowls for Meditation, Relaxation, Calming, Healing

Meditation Playlist

Relax & Sleep Meditation

Meditating not your thing? That’s cool, try these alternatives instead! 

Mandalas

Mandala Coloring Sheets - Click, Save, Print, Meditate

Yoga Video Masterpost

How to Meditate Without Meditating

6 Alternative Forms of Meditation

Namaste and happy meditating :) x 

hey losers! picture this!

your fave is thinking about you. they can’t help it … they’re trying to think of something else, but you’re really all they can think about.

their heart is racing, blood running to their cheeks. they clutch their chest, run their hands across their faces, laugh nervously … they’re short of breath, they can’t stop thinking about you.

they picture you, your smile, your laugh. they picture you next to them, holding them, squeezing their hand … kissing them? they hide their face in their hands, in embarrassment, but they can’t help but smile.

gosh, they love you so much.

Describing Voices

Does your character have a particular voice type in mind? Do they have an accent? Are they monotonous? Does their voice grate? Is it silky? Sultry? Low? High-pitched? Do they slur? Stutter? What in the world is the difference between some of these? Here are some links below to help further identify your character:

Words to Describe Someone’s Voice ~ With definitions of each

An Article About Describing Voice ~ Includes some thought-provoking questions to ask yourself and some exercises

Voice Types ~ Describes and gives examples of types like soprano, alto, etc.

Panix.com Character Chart ~ An extremely in-depth character chart; scroll down to the Voice Quality category for examples of some of the many types of voices, ranging from aphonic to glottalized to yawny.

Vocal Qualities ~ Directly from the above link, for those who want to head straight for the quality types.

Vocal Impressions ~ Lists listener comparisons with examples from celebrities, such as Morgan Freeman and Marilyn Monroe. (example: “She sounds like… diamonds dipped in caramel.”)

Speech Patterns ~ With examples from different well-known folks

Gender and Speech Patterns ~ An interesting article about the observation of speech between men and women

Speech Accent Archive ~ A very broad archive that includes different audio samples of accents ranging from Afrikaans to Ancient Greek to Korean to Zulu. Can search by geography as well.

Speech Impediment (Wikipedia) ~ Includes links to different pages such as stuttering, cluttering, muteness, and the social effects.

What Makes A Man’s/Woman’s Voice Sexy? ~ Just what it says on the tin.

Other Words/Synonyms for ‘Said’:

Synonyms-Antonyms.com ~ Listed according to usage

TheCaveOnline ~ Includes categories and meanings for each one

550 Alternative Words for Said (HubPages) ~ Includes adverb / phrase modifiers

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Have more ideas/links? Have a question? By all means, submit your input and questions to The Writers’ Helpers!

-J

here's some f/o memes!

feel free to use, but please credit :)

When you start out a day and you think "I might not get much done today" please know that this is ok. Just surviving the day is a tremendous accomplishment and is always good enough.

Just a reminder that you are NOT responsible for anyone's happiness !!!!

It's good to be there for your friends, but you matter too. Don't push yourself too hard, okay? Your health is important.

Remember to take care of yourselves too !!!

Mervyn Peake - Illustration to Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There by Lewis Carroll. 1945

“Human beings may be the only living creatures in the entire universe who have a universal consciousness. We have a staggering sense of the immense and mysterious cosmos we are part of.Therefore, not only do we have a global responsibility to save our planet. We have a cosmic responsibility.”

— Jostein Gaarder, Oslo { via -   orange-made-the-love}

“My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.”

— Anaïs Nin

Tina Weymouth of Talking Heads on-stage looks from the 80′s

Tina Weymouth, Talking Heads (1980)

Q&A: Why your thoughts aren’t becoming things

Q: Everyone says “thoughts become things” and I’ve been thinking about only what I want. Focusing on what I want instead of what I don’t want. But nothing is changing or happening? Why? I’m really frustrated, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Also, every time I see people having what I want or are living the life I wish I could have, I get jealous and wonder why I don’t have that and therefore feel bad. And it happens so often too. How can I change that? A: This is one of the most honest questions I have ever been asked. So thank YOU for the opportunity to discuss this. The truth is your thoughts are becoming things, but the missing link is to understand your feelings become things much faster. Here’s how to master both: 1. The first thing is to make a list of your desires, and rank them from the smallest to the biggest goal. And now, make it a point to go after the biggest one. The smaller goals will be fulfilled with very little effort. This is because in focusing on a “big” goal, you are raising your energy past number 5, 4, 3, and 2 to get to 1!  2. When you think of what you want, you are no closer to achieving it. This is not the law of attraction. (I was as shocked as you are right now!) When you think of a goal, the Universe thinks “he/she wants to keep wanting it”  and so you stay in that state. The day you begin to imagine you have already fulfilled the goal, then the creative magic begins. Think of it as a 100m sprint: instead of standing at the Start Line imagining the end, put yourself 1st place on the podium accepting the gold medal around your neck! When you shift time in your imagination like this, let yourself start to feel that it could be true, it could be you.  3. What you resist, you attract too. We all have things we don’t want so we try not to think of them. But be honest about your inner mental conversations. Is there something you still feel resentment towards? A situation or a person? What are you scared of, illness or poverty? These are all types of resistance. And resistance is a powerful energy that will keep you stuck in an unhappy cycle unless and until you decide you’ve had enough. Begin today to write the following affirmation out 10 times a day, morning and night: “I release every one to their highest good and me to mine.” If it feels uncomfortable or you make excuses for delaying it, you know that is your resistance speaking! 4. Understand how your life is right now is only a product of how you used to think. You did the best with what you had. The best news is that this is a new moment of creation. You’ve asked the question because you’re ready to take responsibility for your life. Whatever you’re not happy with right now, just let it be for a while. Create one hour a day (minimum) where you write out affirmations, see your “biggest” goal in your imagination, see who you want to be in your imagination, meditate a little, and have positive/calming music playing the entire hour. The music will create a new Neuro-Linguistic Programming in your brain to get you to feel as good about your desires as you do about the songs!  5. Frustration: This one word deserves a paragraph in itself. Decide now that you will no longer let yourself feel frustration. That F word is burning your dreams and birthing jealousy towards people you otherwise love, and is making you judge yourself. Your heart and soul have waited until today for you to be kinder to yourself. Enough is enough. Frustration is a fire. When you feel it creeping back into your mind, pause and try to see who is feeling the frustration? Is it a voice in your mind? Who is listening to it? Realize you are the one that listens to your inner dialogue, you are NOT your thoughts themselves.  6. When you see others have what you want there are a few ways to go about it. You could realize that there is no end to how much you can have, and how much they can have! You can see that the Universe is showing you desires that match yours to show you its listening to you. You can realize how amazing it is that we are all here to be, do and have anything we want. When you feel any envy, just be aware of it and talk to it as you would a child. It is only your ego feeling left out and scared. The ancient ego within us all operates with a fight or flight mentality, and believes if it doesn’t get what it needs to survive then it will die. It’s as simple as that. However, this is a lie and deep down you know it. Somewhere within your feelings, your gut, you know that life is about to get very good for you, and every single person you have the honour of knowing.  Conclusion: There’s work to be done to live the life you want, as you can see. Read over this a few times, and begin to take the action listed. And each day, imagine you’re at Day One and try again. The action is easy once you start. Also, try to cut out every negative book, song, TV show, film and piece of news in your life for 30 days. This negativity detox is essential as you begin to change your thinking. Also try to read The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, he will be a good friend to you right now.  Note: If anyone at all has any questions then please feel free to inbox me. I shall answer in this anonymous format so we may all benefit. 

Please share this post, you never know who might need to see it. 

How To (Really!) Use The Law Of Attraction!

Powerful attracting action steps:

1. Write your goal out by hand everyday. Anything you will not write down by hand on paper, isn’t something you really want.

2. … Write out your goal with your non-writing hand everyday. This activates new neural pathways in your creative brain and tells your subconscious mind you’re serious.

3. Brainstorm different plans, however unrealistic they seem. It costs you nothing to imagine.

4. Read up on people that have had similar success. Even if their successful in a different industry, it feeds your brain with “like images” it can begin to create.

5. Stuck? Ask the Universe a question and then forget about it. Questions stir your brain to search for the answer. If it cannot answer, it will connect with Universal Intelligence to find an answer. 6. Do something that feels good. And repeat. We have desires because we think they will make us feel good. By feeling good now in whatever small way, we align with our dreams. 7. Fall asleep asking yourself one question: if my wishes were fulfilled how would I feel? Your subconscious mind assumes you want more of what you want when you fall asleep thinking about it as if it’s already done.

8. Team up with a law of attraction based Life Coach. Let them unlock your potential. If I can help, please see soulfulfilled.tumblr.com/coaching

“If you hate my story. I’m sorry, it was not written for you.”

— (via alterated)

AHHHHHHHHHH

TINA WEYMOUTH!!!!!!!!

honestly...it’s ok to just use your skills on yourself! sewing clothes only you to wear, making art to hang up in your own personal area, singing and recording songs for you only to listen to...like not everything has to be for other people’s consumption!

*opens a can of Sprite*

Here’s to all the self shippers who have F/O’s-platonical, familial or romantic-who got done dirty and fucked over by their creators. 

May we all treat our F/O’s a billion times better then their own pathetic excuse of creators

You all really need to learn to accept that the fact that you don't like someone or something doesn't mean it's secretly evil somehow.

How can i tell the difference between fictionhearted or synpath? idk which one i am...

fictionhearted: I want to BE that.

Synpath: I want to HUG that.

Fictionhearted: that’s who I am in my heart, that’s what I should be. #me

Synpath: I feel connected to that on an emotional level. I feel a strong sense of empathy for that. #same

Fictionhearted: Someone with a strong emotional or spiritual connection to any fictional character or fictional species, without believing that they are that character or species.

Synpath: Any creature, or fictional character that a person strongly identifies with or feels an empathic bond with.

-hearted is something you feel in your heart like you *should* be.

a synpath is something that you feel a connection with or empathy for, like you’re the same.

“that character has a canon partner/death/ending/etc u have to respect that :/”

me: