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I’m jus being honest
On the side note, it’s okay to not like and/or be uncomfortable of said ship (but don’t send threats or anything of the sort). You’re still valid.
For those of you who think that their paras or daydreams are cringy and are a bit ashamed of sharing things about them, please don’t.
Our paras, paracosms and daydreams are primarily for ourselves, they don’t have to appeal to anyone else.
Instead of making fun of people who do things at an older age that are normally done younger ( like getting their diploma or GED, learning to drive, even learning to read ) how about you:
don’t
adults, while forcing all children above the age of 5 to sit still, be silent, and obey orders for 7-8 hours a day with minimal breaks, reducing their exposure to fresh air and sunlight to almost nothing, forcing them to alter their natural sleeping patterns to increase productivity, and repeatedly telling them their self worth depends on their being able to follow these instructions perfectly for 13 or more years: kids these days are so lazy! they never go outside! they never want to do anything! clearly it’s not because of us!
gentle reminder
it’s never too late to do what you love, or to try and find what you love
Reminder to myself and all self shippers
Don’t feel forced to stick to the canon.
If you want to take into account just one part of your f/o’s story, do it. If you don’t want them to be dead, keep them alive. If they are married/engaged/whatever, make them yours.
Even if they are a villain who want to destroy or dominate the world, they love you. Even if they are a king/queen and you a simple civilian or servant, you’re their queen/king. Even if they’re an evil creature, they’ll protect you.
Don’t feel unworthy of their love and adoration just because of the canon.
If you want to mix different stories and universes, you can. This is all about your imagination. Do whatever you want. Create your own universe.
What's your take on 19 year olds trick of treating?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I’ll hand out candy to an uncostumed 48 year old man. i don’t give a single shit. i love halloween and want everyone to have a good time lmao.
OMG PLEASE REBLOG THIS IF YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD TO GO TRICK OR TREATING AND THAT IT IS FOR EVERYBODY OF ANY AGE
PLEASE I NEED TO PROVE THIS THING TO MY MOM
Stop Making Sense - 1984 (Directed by Jonathan Demme)
The Setlist [BONUS] - “I’d like to introduce the band by name.”
Hey! Do you have any tips on how to cope with the loneliness that comes from not being actually able to hold your partner? ;-;
hey there! this is always a tough one and a LOT of people struggle with it in terms of these sorts of relationships. it was really tough for me in the earlier stages of my relationship, too.
it’s different for everyone, of course, but there’s multiple things you can do to bridge the physical gap. “proxy items” are really helpful, i find, and can be almost anything you feel fits. some people have the stereotypical body pillow or plush of their f/o, but others simply associate a plain pillow or soft object with the f/o and hug that. it’s always a good idea to have something soft you can hug, and if you consistently think of this object as some aspect of the f/o or just them while cuddling, it can really help in creating an association and making it feel as though they’re with you.
it’s possible to create that association with other things, too. i wrap myself in a specific blanket that reminds me of my partner if i need a hug, and holding something small to fiddle with like the charm of a bracelet if i’m out and about works for holding hands. ultimately the idea is simply to think of the physical contact you want in conjunction with a specific situation or object until those things get associated in your head and bring the same comfort.
imagination helps, too! just relaxing for a bit and visualizing these things can feel pretty good, especially if you have a vivid imagination. there are techniques for improving your visualizations you can find all around the internet, and they’re great for creating an experience that’s strong, even if it’s not physical.
this should absolutely be taken with a grain of salt, as well, but some people report that lucid dreaming helps with this. in a lucid dream, you’re aware you are dreaming; with practice in cultivating this awareness you can consciously shape the plotline of your dreams and participate in them actively. it’s not for everyone, and it can be quite a process to master it enough to control your dreams. there are multiple techniques of varying ease concerning it, some of which involve attempting to force sleep paralysis (for the record, i wanted to mention this method specifically to say it’s potentially extremely distressing and to avoid it). there are a lot of resources on that, too, if you want to look into it - lucid dreaming is just fun in general, anyway, if it’s a good fit for you!
there are more things than this, of course, but those are what come to mind immediately for me!
-mod moon
Do you ever read a piece of your own writing and just go oh damn
Anyone else only in their 20s but feel like they are running out of time to get their life together??
While watching some little kids, I discovered a kid-sized play structure that had a game with a roster of sapient characters but only in a parallel dimension where it was just me and the game, and the characters told me they existed as a way to bring joy to children through this game (which I'd never seen before), and they usually just talked with each other to pass the time.
hey! it’s been a while since i’ve written any resource posts, and this is a little more of a positivity post than a resource, but hopefully it will be helpful.
i’ve seen a lot of selfshippers/fictos talking about why and when these practices are acceptable and when they “cross the line.” in my opinion, i think some of these statements can create an uncomfortable or even implicitly hostile environment for certain mentally ill selfshippers and fictos, as well as reinforce ideas the community is trying to fight. these statements, even given various nuances, boil down to a few core ideas a number of people in the community seem to hold. the idea seems to be that “selfship is OK because it is just for fun/a coping mechanism, and selfshippers can still date in real life. because selfship is just for fun/a coping mechanism, taking it too seriously inherently means a loss of touch with reality, which is a personal fault.”
my greatest concern with this has been that it is potentially rather dismissive of the feelings of mentally ill selfshippers who experience psychosis. such people DO have a loss of touch with reality, through no fault of their own - and for many, this is something they cannot “fix,” even with medication or therapy. if one’s psychosis influences them to believe in or experience something that isn’t objectively real, but this belief or experience does not cause them distress or even improves their quality of life, it is not the responsibility of individuals without the condition to denigrate their experiences or urge them to “fix” their psychosis. in a community which is vocally supportive of mentally ill people, it is the responsibility of the members of that community to support the experiences of all mentally ill people. selfshippers and fictos with psychotic conditions are just as valid in their feelings as any of the rest of us, even if their conditions cause them to experience their f/os in a way we do not.
in addition, it isn’t fair to assert that selfship is okay because it’s “just” a coping mechanism, “just” for fun, or because all fictos/selfshippers prefer (and will abandon the practice for) a “real partner.” if it improves one’s quality of life and harms no one, there is no need for further justification, regardless of whether or not it fits with what outsiders consider “normal.” selfship (and fictosexuality) is not only okay when it’s easy to justify to outsiders. appealing to standards of “normalcy” only creates acceptable targets - “we are okay because we are normal, but those people who disagree with us are not normal, and therefore not okay.” that, ironically enough, is the exact logic on which “cringe culture” operates. you do not have to be “normal” to be worthy of respect and understanding, ever.
please be open to respecting experiences you may not understand, particularly for those whose experiences are already highly stigmatized. to all the “weird” selfshippers and fictos - those of you with psychosis, those of you who take it “too seriously,” those of you who never want a real life partner - you are just fine the way you are, and you don’t need to change for anyone. as long as you’re happy and your selfships/ficto relationships make you happy, you have nothing to worry about and no one here to answer to. live your life according to your own needs and standards.
“Some people seek meaning in life through personal gain, through personal relationship, or through personal experiences. However, it seems to me that being blessed with the intellect to divine the ultimate secrets of nature gives meaning enough to life.” ~ Michio Kaku
How to EASILY overcome Daydream Crash…
So I was just experiencing daydream crash a couple days ago, and I realized some things that actually made me feel comforted.
This will be a list of ways to get over daydream crash.
1.) If you have a large stuffed animal (small works too I guess), just hold it like you’re holding your para.
The reason I thought of this was because I have this stuffed bunny that I named after my para Nesset, and this stuffed platypus that I named after Ellen. And when I hug them, it makes me think that I’m actually hugging my para’s. I don’t know if it’ll work for any of you, but it helped me when I was curled in a ball covered in tears haha. I just felt better I guess. Not to mention I always have to sleep with these stuffed animals, and since they’re about medium-sized, it makes me feel like my para’s are right next to me.
2.) Listening to music.
Now I’m not just talking about any kind of music. I’m talking about songs that would normally bring joy to your para’s. Or a song that made you extremely happy about a daydream you had. I know daydream crash is where you realize this stuff isn’t real and it can never be real, but if you think about it, you want the best for your para’s, and if anything, I’m sure all of your para’s want the best for you. They wouldn’t want to see you upset. So maybe listening to one of their favorite songs will make you happier because you know how happy it makes your para’s. Just because they aren’t real, it doesn’t mean they don’t care about your emotions.
3.) Listen to your para’s sing!
This one is kind of related to the last tip. But its kind of different. If you saw my post about how I give my para’s a famous singers voice, you should understand what I’m talking about here. If you don’t, I’ll explain. I have certain bands/singers that I listen to for comfort when I’m experiencing daydream crash. But the reason I listen to just a couple specific bands/singers is because I use those voices as my escape. Since I use Tossing Copper, and I The Mighty as Ellen’s voice claim. I picture Ellen singing those songs to me. And its extremely comforting because their voices are amazing, and mellow (mellow depending on the song). And if you have a para that has a voicelcaim. Use that band/singer as your escape! Like I said, its basically like your para is singing to you. Its the most comforting feeling ever I swear!
4.) The Multi Universe Theory!!
If you haven’t heard of the Multi Universe theory, I strongly suggest and highly recommend that you look it up!!
If you’re lazy and don’t want to, then I’ll explain! Basically what it is is scientists have studied that there may be more than just this universe. Because the universe goes so far out into nothing basically, obviously it has to lead to something. So if you think about it, these dreamverses that we have, these para’s that we have, they could possibly be real! Not to mention studies showed that “more likely than not” there are DEFINITELY more universes out there. If this doesn’t help you with your crash, I don’t know what will. I was super relieved when I heard about it.
The only question is how do we get there? They haven’t figured that out yet, but it was confirmed that they could most likely exist.
I really hope this helped some of you guys who have gone/are going through daydream crash! If you need to talk, I’m always willing to listen!
I like how most posts about being in love with a fictional character are made as a joke, and then there’s us in the corner like “lol… no, but actually though.”
-Admin Eevee
“I don’t think you understand that those characters are just fictional-”
Smooth Criminal - 88
Someone: you can’t self ship because it’s cringy and weird
Me:
@ the creators of my f/o’s media when they kill them off
I honestly see nothing wrong with self insert art.
Sometimes we just need to make art for ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with drawing yourself with your favourite characters, don’t be afraid of doing it!
I wish more people would write self insert fanfic, it’s so fun and easy to read and I hate the stigma around it.
Yoyoyo!
A lot of people have been asking me for this.
I’m not a pro at teaching stuff but I could about design for days. I can make a more detailed thing about my thought process while designing a character if it’s something that you’d be interested in… Lemme know.
i love when my mutuals r like….obsessed with things and talk about them a lot and are super passionate it makes me so happy and if yall ever feel like ur being annoying i promise you’re not it’s the best thing and it makes my heart warm
Hitachi 1980