Love Everybody Drawing How Doc Is Just Holding Scar And Grian And They Are Very Wet-looking......

i got formally diagnosed this week after years of waiting/knowing and my friend mailed a professionally custom made cake to my house

things i wish i had known when i escaped my family household and couldn't ask my parents for help

invest in a good mattress early on. there are many other ends you can save on - sleep is not one of them. this is key to how much energy you'll have throughout the day

you don't need a bedframe but you do need a slatted bed base (even if it's just pallets)

opening a bank account is easy

there's youtube tutorials for everything. how to install your washing machine, how to use tools, fixing stuff around the place. channels like dad, how do i? are a godsend

change energy provider as soon as your old deal runs out. you'll get better offers elsewhere and avoid price gouging

assemble a basic first aid kid at home: painkillers, probiotics, alcohol wipes, bandages, tweezers, antihistamine tablets - anything you might need in a pinch

and an emergency toolkit: flashlight, extra batteries, a utility knife, an adjustable wrench, multi-tool, duct tape

set your fridge to the lowest temperature it can go. the energy consumption is minimal in difference and it'll give you +4/7 days on most foods

off-brand products are almost always the same in quality and taste, if not better, for half the price

coupons will save you a lot of money in the long run

there's no reason to be shy around employees at the bank/laundromat/store; most people will be happy to help

vegetarian diets are generally cheap if you make food from scratch

breakfast is as important as they say

keep track of your budget in a notebook or excel file - e.g. rent, phone and internet bills, food, leisure so you'll have an overlook on your spending over the months

don't gamble

piracy is okay

stealing from big stores and chains is also ethically okay

keep medical bills and pharmacy receipts for tax returns

also, file your tax returns early

take up a hobby that isn't in front of a screen. pottery, music, going for a run every now and then, stuff that'll keep you busy and sane

and most importantly... you're allowed to get the stuff you want. treat yourself to the occasional mundane thing. a good scented candle. a bath bomb. that body lotion that makes you feel like royalty. the good coffee beans.

you're free and you deserve to be happy.

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skipping jumping AND hopping btw. if you even care.....

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you know the piece of art in my last rb made me realize why i dislike most disability related art. and it's that a large portion of it (especially on here) has messaging about ableism. like in the art itself it will have quotes regarding ableism. which is cool and fine, but i am SO tired of the constant trauma and reminders of trauma around my physical disabilities. for once i want to see someone like me just exist. i want to see them happy and peaceful.

it reminds me of how people finally started to view LGBTQ trauma p*rn movies. we as queer people are traumatized constantly. ENOUGH media about queer trauma. where is the queer JOY?

i feel exactly the same about disability portrayed in media/art and otherwise. where is the JOY?

Do you have any recommendations for Welsh singers? The only ones I know (other than Tom Jones because who doesn't know him) is MARINA.

thank you for the ask! as decided by tymblr itself, these polls show some of the top internationally known (?) welsh artists. BUT, here are some personal recommendations from yours truly:

Adwaith

an all female post punk indie rock band from carmarthen. their songs are really catchy, cover a range of genres, and satisfy the urge to be serenaded by a choir of angels with electric guitars and synths

Candelas

an anonymous tumblr user told me about candelas recently, and I can't get enough. they're an award-winning rock band from llanuwchllyn, and sing in both welsh and english. if you're gonna listen to any welsh band, listen to them

Catatonia

the myth, the legend, the one and only. they're my mother's favourite band, so listen to them for my mam, please. if you like alternative rock from the post-britpop days of the mid-90s in cardiff, with a front woman who sounds like she smokes 50 packs a day, then you're in luck

I realise this isn't a very genre-expansive list, but hey, I like them!

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I come from a culture that has no nudity taboo - nudity is not considered inherently sexual, or somehow traumatising to witness. What that means in practice is that there is a clearly drawn line between sexual and non-sexual nudity. There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a sexual context, and nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a non-sexual context. However, it is 100% inappropriate to be nude in a situation where it is not obvious from context whether this is sexual or not.

I've seen random kids who briefly escaped from their parents bolt across a public park buck-ass naked after they were playing in the water fountain and their parents were in the middle of changing their kid from wet clothes to dry clothes when the small nudist escaped. Changing your small kid's clothes right there in public is ok because there is obviously nothing sexual about a child whose clothes got wet. But although people will have baby pictures of their kids in the bath or just running around the house like that because sometimes little apes hate clothes for some reason, it's considered common sense to not share those pictures on facebook mom groups and such, because you have no way of knowing who's seeing them, and that blurs the line of context.

It all boils down to the clearly defined context. Bathing nude in the same sauna with five of your co-workers at the office christmas party? Clearly nonsexual, therefore completely fine. Your friend-with-benefits inviting you to come over and opening the door in nothing but a doggy collar and the most porn-scented perfume? Clearly sexual, therefore completely fine. A woman checking her breasts for lumps in the gym lockers just before or after a shower? Clearly non-sexual, therefore completely fine.

But if you went to the bank today and there's some guy who walks in and immediately strips naked, doing his banking business wearing nothing but a deep smile and being clearly very content with this situation, you have no way of telling whether he's getting kicks out of this or not. There is no contextual reason for him to be nude. Therefore, that is inappropriate.

Then you go home and post on tumblr - as one does - going like "there was some dude completely fucking buck-ass naked in the bank today. That was fucking weird and I wish he had not done that." And someone immediately swoops into inform you that actually nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate, and there are cultures out there that have no nudity taboo. It's not fair to call somebody a freak for something like that, maybe that guy was just finnish.