I’m Aromantic But I’ve Been Dating This Girl For 2 1/2 Years Because I Didn’t Realize That I Was

I’m aromantic but I’ve been dating this girl for 2 1/2 years because I didn’t realize that I was aro until after we started dating but I didn’t break up with her after I realized because our relationship was kinda just like a friendship but with extra kissing and being affectionate anyways and we’re both ace so we don’t gotta worry about “that”.

And I’ve asked her if she’s okay with that. If it hurts her feeling when I say I don’t love her the same way she loves me and she’s said it’s cool and she doesn’t care. And the other day in ceramics class we quite literally planned how we were gonna get married.

Like I’m gonne pull up to her house on her 18th birthday, we’re gonne go down to the courthouse and get married+have her name legally changed, and then 3 years later when we’re 21 we’re gonne have a small forest wedding that kinda has a cult vibe, and then a few years later when we have the money we have a more “traditional” wedding with a bunch of differences.

Me and this girl have matching bracelets, we’ve kissed in front of her parents after a concert “for the bit”, she’s let me just kinda chew on her finger for a whole class period because I was bored. She bought me a pink 3D printed sword but it broke in the mail so she gave me a PLASTIC SWITCHBLADE.

All this to say aromantic people can be in loving relationships that work for them and nobody should have a say on if your love is “correct” or not. You’re not any less aromantic for being in relationship. All that matters is that all parties involved care for each other and communicate. If you and somebody vibe and you put the label of dating onto the relationship that’s cool and if you don’t that’s cool to. As long as Yall are happy that’s ok that matters

There no “right way” to love somebody (as long as it’s all legal and consensual) whether the love is romantic or not, the connection, care, and your happiness is all that really matters.