And Then When Those 7 Don’t Work On Their Problems, 7 More Appear. And So On. And So Forth. XD

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Talking to one of our dogs while we’re having a bath triggered some memories of pre-system discovery things that make so much more sense now.

Let me explain.

Valor very much enjoys stealing my towel while I’m bathing. He’ll dig around in it to make himself a little nest and then nap in the towel while I bathe.

So today I’m getting ready for a bath and I say “Oh boy, Valor! It’s time for your Favorite Thing!” referring to stealing my towel. But I know this is not actually his Favorite Thing. It is probably not even in his Top 5 Favorite Things. But because it’s something he definitely enjoys, I call it his Favorite Thing.

But that’s not what “favorite” means. A favorite implies a single thing that is liked more than all other things. People have favorite colors and movies and books and meals. And this struck me today. Examining my use of the word, I realized that I have always treated “favorite” in this way - as a way to describe something I “really really like” not necessarily more than all others. I’ve always had “multiple favorites” in just about every area of life. And I’ve always just written it off as an inability to be decisive or a quirk. Other people, at their worst, have described it as me being weak-willed, wishy-washy, or conviction-less.

But it’s none of those things.

It’s the fact that I’m plural. Of COURSE we’ve had multiple favorite movies for as long as we can remember. “The Care Bears Movie” has always been Madison’s favorite movie. That didn’t make Howl’s Moving Castle any less Aina’s favorite movie. Nor did Leigh developing an obsession with Frozen 2 make Aina’s favorite movie and less her favorite movie. But before we knew we were plural, it seemed and felt like we had multiple favorite movies. Or multiple favorite songs. Etc.

Now I’ve got thirty years of using “favorite” inaccurately to undo in myself. 🤣

We’re doing TikTok again. Probably YouTube again soon, too! We’re GalacticQuiltSystem on TikTok if you want to follow us there. :)

“Hey Quill! How are you doing?”

“Oh doing alright! Thanks for asking!”

Narrator: They were in fact the farthest thing from alright.

Are you supportive of endogenics it doesn't say anywhere and I can't tell if I need to ignore the blog or not (no offense I just don't fw endos)

Hi there, anon! We are a traumagenic system and we believe that plurality only develops through trauma. We do not police what kind of trauma is “enough” to cause plurality. We also don’t believe that all “endogenic” systems are faking (they may not have access to the memories of the trauma that they went through or they may be experiencing other forms of dissociation or mental health concerns), so we don’t go out of our way to attack anyone based on their system origin. I hope that makes sense.

Our partner and I joke about this by saying “Stand users attract stand users.”

We’ve noticed over the years that plurals tend to sorta… flock together. Even as egg cartons/pre-syscovery. As an egg carton we had a friend group that was mostly other plurals; initially all of these plural friends were unaware of their plurality, but slowly things became unveiled and they came out as plural. There were also singlets present, but A WHOLE LOTTA PLURALS TOO

Later when that friend group inevitably began to fall apart (~60-80% our fault, we got better though I swear), we branched out to other communities and interests for reasons that would likely de-anonymize me, and the rp we joined was populated nearly entirely by plurals and egg cartons.

Apparently, according to our mentor system, they have a habit of, as they put it, “accidentally hitting people with the plurality beam.” (Or, discovering a person they met was masking as a singlet, or being the snowball that leads to someone abruptly realizing they’re plural.)

So, is this something you’ve also noticed?

haha, honestly? we've noticed it too, in the past. our closest friends for about 3-5 years (a long time ago, when we were pre-system discovery as well) turned up to be plural, last i can remember. we had a best friend for about two years who was also a system, like ourselves, that we met coincidentally. in high school, said friend had a bit of experience with others questioning whether or not they are a system as a result of knowing them. we were never too public about our system, so i can't speak for us. maybe we are all like magnets. /j

but it is definitely interesting to hear of similar experiences. thank you for sharing your thoughts!

The entire system tonight. Even Fiasco.

Acquiring Trinkets and Hobby Stuff: hell yeah

Moving all of your Trinkets and Hobby Stuff to a new apartment: straight up having a bad time right now

Agere community - when you make your DNI banners, what dimensions do you use? We’d like to make custom ones for our side blogs that want one!

Someone was panhandling at a stoplight I always get caught at today. And when I handed over the couple dollars in cash I had in my wallet to him and he thanked me, I realized something.

I wasn’t afraid at all.

I had to think back. Because there was a time when I was so unreasonably afraid of homeless people that I unintentionally taught my Sheltie to bark at them because I would get so stressed out if I even got stopped next to someone panhandling.

And that was when it hit me.

That fear isn’t mine. It’s a former host’s fear. And her fear was because if people she knew could hurt her the way they did, she couldn’t even imagine what a stranger might be able to do to her.

I empathize with her fear. But I’m glad that I don’t share it. It feels like growth. In some small way.