Latest Posts by grymalkyn - Page 4

I have fallen down a rabbit hole I thought was long buried.

I grew up with Harry Potter and it was the light of my shitty childhood and no shitty author or poor takes is gonna take it away from me. Fuck everything.

At the artist alley...

ig: zeewipark ♡

At eleven forty-two with the signal overdue

And the passengers all frantic to a man

Drawn for Elder Cats Appreciation Week! I drew Rumple too because she was in the screenshot I referenced and she looked so cute 🤍

🍵 Chickadee Chai, brewed fresh just for you!

Masterlist

Autistic Reader

🐭 Class 1-A with an autistic classmate

🐭 Armin with an autistic S/O who special interest is the ocean

🐭 Class 3-E with an autistic classmate

🐭 Autistic Cadet who grow up with Eren, Mikasa and Armin

🐭 Sakura, Tomoyo and Shaoran helping an autistic classmate

🐭 Shy autistic!reader trying to befriend the Sailor Scouts (Usagi, Amy, Rei, Makoto & Minako)

🐭 The Forger with an autistic child

*takes a swig from a rum bottle like a pirate but when you look closely you see that its actually an iced latte in there*

This is Lore. They live in the walls and hidden spaces of a castle; making friends with the little beasties that scurry about; eats honeysuckle, violets and rose hip from the gardens. They also enjoy spying on the human inhabitants and drawing the ones that are the most interesting.

This is the sort of content modern Tommy would consume:

helpful venn diagram for autism creatures

Why do neurotypical people have all these unspoken rules. Why is it considered proper social interaction to be fake. They’re so weird

This might be an unpopular opinion but if you’re mean to someone for being awkward, having weird interest, being a picky eater, speaking in a monotone voice, etc, and they later end up being diagnosed with autism, you are, in fact, still ableist. People shouldn’t have to have an official label or dx to be treated like human beings, and the fact that you’re more worried about the social connotations and disapproval you may face for being mean to someone with the autism label rather than being worried that you were cruel to someone who can’t help it says a lot about you.

i got a New Planner which means that i will suddenly and miraculously become organized despite this technique never having worked in the past

I don’t think that a lot of people know what ABA/masking “therapy” actually does to autistic children.

(ANALOGY) If you’re taking a pan out of a hot oven and it hurts your hand, you’ll scrunch your face up and go “ow!” But then someone else comes along and tells you to be quiet, and then force you to keep taking out and putting back in the pan, until you don’t react when you do it. It still hurts, of course, but you’ve been conditioned to not react whenever you are burned by the pan. You could’ve used an oven mitt or had someone else get the pan for you, or maybe just not have done it at all, but you were told for years what the “right way” to take the pan out was. And now you’ve built up callouses, and take the pan out the exact way you were trained to, unconsciously ignoring your pain. It still hurts, but you’re not supposed to do it another painless way, and instead continue to hurt, because it’s all you were taught to do.

ABA doesn’t make autistic kids’ lives easier, it makes the parents’ lives easier, because now they won’t have to listen to their child telling them that they’re in pain. Your child is upset and hurting, but it’s too “hard/stressful” for you to acknowledge and help them.

WE ARE NOT AN ANNOYANCE OR A BURDEN. WE ARE YOUR CHILDREN. WE ARE NOT A BROKEN PUZZLE THAT NEEDS TO BE PUT BACK TOGETHER.

We are people, we have thoughts and feelings, and we feel pain. But we keep it bottled up inside because showing love and care for your child is apparently too “difficult” for you.

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Holy shit this post blew up real quickly

I see a lot of talk about how neurodivergence evolved and stayed in the gene pool because it was somehow ‘useful’ to our ancient ancestors. While I don’t necessarily disagree with this theory, I would like to propose an alternative. A theory that we already have physical evidence for. Humans just love each other and care for each other. Don’t you think that a species that cared for it’s people while they recovered from broken bones, or nursed their elderly well beyond their ‘usefulness’ would leave a member out because they didn’t make eye contact, or couldn’t stay focused on a particular task, or whatever other trait you associate with neurodivergence? I really don’t.

Sure, maybe it was useful to have someone around who didn’t mind making arrowheads all day, or who knew absolutely everything about all of the local flora and fauna, or who keyed in on every little distraction. At the end of the day, though, these people weren’t kept around because they were useful, they were cared for because they were loved.

being autistic and using “big words” or sounding unnatural in conversation is like. i am different from everyone else and no one really understands me, so im trying my best to communicate and be understood by using very precise and exact language even if it doesn’t “sound right” in informal settings, so that i might bridge the gap in understanding between us. but now im weird AND talk funny.

one of my least favorite neurotypical customs is how long it takes to leave somewhere. My mom will be like “alright it’s time to leave” but we stay like 10 more minutes because people can’t stop talking. We get two feet before stopping again. We stand in the doorway for 5 minutes. It’s annoying and stressful and puts my brain in constant waiting mood.

This still blows my mind

As an autistic person, I don't much like tone indicators (e.g., /s, /j, /nm, etc) for a very simple reason. They just replicate my issue with tone in a new medium.

IRL, I have to memorize tones and what they mean, then when I hear words, I need to retroactively change what I think they mean based on the tone.

With these "tone indicators", I need to do the exact same thing. Memorize the little weird acronyms, then when I read words, retroactively change what I think they mean based on the acronym.

Instead, can we actually SAY the words we mean, in the sentence? So instead of:

"hey when will you do the dishes /nm"

write:

"hey, not mad just asking, when will you do the dishes?"

If we really *must* use some kind of indicator, can we change it to a word in parentheses, like that meme? I often do this with short phrases or jokes, such as, "lol I hate you (affectionate)".

It’s okay if you as a disabled person are not independent. It’s okay if you need help doing even the most “basic” of tasks. You’re not less of a person, or less worthy for it. You are not any less lovable, and you certainly are not a burden.

It’s absolutely vile that there are people who believe no longer needing help is the absolute goal of living with or treating a disability. Independence isn’t the goal. Happiness is, quality of life is, being able to enjoy things day to day is. If you need a helping hand to get there, that is more than alright.

Did anyone else have trouble in school when teachers would ask you to highlight the “Most Important” parts of an article or something and you being ND would proceed to highlight the entire page, because you couldn’t tell what was more important than the others? And to you every single word on that page was the “Most Important”?

I felt this…

Autism

ADHD

Hunger

My 10yo had a couple events at our place today and one friend was going to be coming for both, with five hours in between. To save his parents driving, I offered that he could stay through, but explained when I made the offer that my kids need a break from social time or they'll get drained, so could their kid bring a book or something over for some alone time in the middle of the afternoon for my introverts to recharge? His parents happily complied and I've been chatting with the kids about it. "I'm worried that you guys are having a ton of fun right now because your battery is still charged, so you're not taking a break—I want to make sure that you don't crash and need a recharge right before the party starts tonight, because at that point you won't be able to take your break to recharge." Both kids very seriously listened, agreed, and have been having their chill time separately. One's reading and one's watching YouTube.

Can you fucking IMAGINE learning this kind of energy management, which is so important for neurodivergent people to avoid shutdown/meltdown, before your 30s?

“empathy” is not a synonym for “good person”. some of the kindest and most respectful people I know are low empathy. and lord knows there are high empathy dicks out there.

being a good person is a choice. the amount of empathy you have is not.

autistic children are not naive for saying the world should change if "life isn't fair." autistic children deserve to grow into happy autistic adults who can look back at a happy childhood. autistic people do not deserve trauma.

Autistic Inertia is an autism experience that makes it hard to start, stop, and switch tasks.

It somehow doesn't get talked about enough - so I made this comic!

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Also, if you want to read the research study I based this comic on, it’s right here!