Can We Stop Using "still Lives With Their Parents" Or "unemployed" Or "doesn't Have A Drivers License"

asexual sex workers are braver than any US marine

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I feel like when I say ‘relatable’ what I really mean is ‘resonant.’ I don’t want characters who I feel are like me, I want characters who have emotions so strong I can feel them through the page.

“Public libraries are such important, lovely places!” Yes but do you GO there. Do you STUDY there. Do you meet friends and get coffee there. Do you borrow the FREE, ZERO SUBSCRIPTION, ZERO TRACKING books, audiobooks, ebooks, and films. Have you checked out their events and schemes. Do you sign up for the low cost courses in ASL or knitting or programming or writing your CV that they probably run. Do you know they probably have myriad of schemes to help low income families. Do you hire their low cost rooms if you need them. Have you joined their social groups. Do you use the FREE COMPUTERS. Do you even know what your library is trying to offer you. Listen, the library shouldn’t just exist for you as a nice idea. That’s why more libraries shut every year

Sometimes it's not even hateful criticism that hurts the most.

I've received comments on fic that's explicitly tagged as self-indulgent, fic that I've written and shared for the sole purpose of making myself happy, only to be told all the ways it's lacking.

This has never been done in an overtly rude way, but it still hurts.

To be told that a character I wrote in a specific way, simply for myself (FOR FREE), is frustrating, weak, underdeveloped, etc. is extremely hurtful.

Not because the criticisms aren't valid, but because I didn't intend to upset anyone with my interpretation, nor did I write MY INTERPRETATION with anyone else's specific tastes in mind.

I adore receiving comments but for someone who already struggles to find the time/motivation to write, that shit's depressing, disheartening, and makes me never want to type another word as long as I live.

Nah, fam. It's not about "taking" criticism. It's about the fact that unless a writer asks for it specifically, it's a dick thing to do on a website that is rooted in community.

If a writer wants critique they will ask trusted friends or professional associates (in the relevant field). When a writer shares a fic on AO3 it's not necessarily with the aim of improving their craft (there are better places for that). It's about sharing joy.

Positive comments enhance that feeling of joy and community. Negative comments do not.

Fic isn't a product to be evaluated. If it's not for you, then you can just walk away. 😁

i make myself laugh

another thing abt me. i use the 👍 emoji very liberally. im not being sarcastic or passive aggressive im being like cool ok or thanks for the heads up or etc. to me 👍 is an innocent happy polite little emoji

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sorry for how I acted when there were multiple noises happening at the same time