What Would You Say Were The Most Important Aspects To Snag A Good Husband For Yourself?

What would you say were the most important aspects to snag a good husband for yourself?

things in my control

I take good care of my looks and always make myself look nice on a daily basis. even if I'm just chilling at home, I'll do my skincare routine, brush my hair, and wear something that doesn't look sloppy

I stay in shape and keep my body nice. I'm a young lady in my twenties and looks matter. you have more options when you look good

I knew I wanted to get married so I was looking for a husband instead of any other dating arrangement. eyes on the prize, choose wisely

I carried myself in a way that said "I am a wife" and acted accordingly. the energy you put out there on the dating scene matters. I know what kind of marriage I want so I worked on becoming that wife early. it was just a matter of finding the husband that matches. stay ready so you don't have to get ready.

I know what I want, I know what the kind of men I like want, and I know how to win

I'm good at reading people and making judgements on those around me. I don't get involved in any capacity with men who are not viable options from the get go

things out of my control

location. NY/MA is ripe with options as far as well to do men are concerned. yes, living here was a choice but I'm sure it was easier for me to get someone like my husband here rather than if I lived in the middle of randomville USA. that doesn't mean it's impossible, there's just less options. but fret not. every city has rich areas. nice big houses in nice neighborhoods where the white collar men work. they need wives too!

things kinda sorta in my control

I take care of my looks, but my baseline is what it is. I am naturally pretty so even on my worst days, I'm not doing too bad

99% of my friends are married or on their way there which kept me in a circle of people where love flows and advice is worth taking. it's nice to have examples of what does and doesn't work right in front of you

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2 years ago

getting ready for dream girl summer 🌸🫧

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a post on getting through the summer flawlessly as a dream girl <3

getting through summer looks like… basking & glowing in the beautiful sun, traveling, going out with ease, having fun, being messy and more. so let’s begin.

♡ categories: 

what does your ideal summer for this year look like? ideas, moodboards

physical: summer essentials, what to wear, makeup looks, luxuries, summer reads and bucket lists. 

mental: mindset, wellness, reads and bucket list ideas

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  ♡ what’s your ideal summer? ♡

you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so decide what your mind and body needs. is this a time for healing? or is this a time to be adventurous?

do you see yourself in nature, enjoying the silence after a chaotic winter and spring? or going to parties, hanging out with friends, meeting new people and trying so many new things?

or why not both? 💋

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some bucket list ideas:

spend more time outside than on your phone

have a morning routine. don’t lose structure in the day. switch it up for summer and make it fun.

make a list of nice restaurants in the city to try out

plan out picnic dates

buy disposable cameras and have them developed at the end of summer!

go skydiving

go to a fancy hotel bar and leave the place with someone’s number (or many)

go on late night drives!

explore a random city

try out new foods

most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.

                         physical

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♡ summer essentials

sunscreen duhh, is a must no matter the season, especially for summer.

⤷ apply sunscreen before you go out and reapply ever 2 hours. look for products that are: lightweight & nonsticky, don’t leave a white cast, spf 50++

anything from sol de janeiro ugh <3

waterproof jewelry

sunglasses

sea salt spray

shimmer body oil

after sun care

your signature scent for summer (scent recommendations below)

pack light and smart with makeup if you’re one to touch up: lipstick (can be used for your eyes and cheeks also), eyeliner, etc.

hair clips/ties

qtips for makeup smudges

mini fan to cool down

small wallet

have fun and unplug but if it’s a must, carry a portable charger if you didn’t charge it in the car or before you left the house.

tissues (for sweat, blotches)

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♡ outfit essentials

sundresses

mini !! skirts !!

mules

bikini tops as regular tops

gold hoop earrings

silk scarves

flowy bottoms, skirts, dresses

a cute cover up

patterns

mini bag

backless tops

                         beauty

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♡ warmer weather calls for natural, glowy looks

the sun is out so it’s only natural for me to want to glow when the sun is hitting my face and body ♡ i love to really highlight my highest points.

applying subtle gold shimmer on your eyelids

lipgloss!

preferably one that is hydrating, slightly pigmented to bring out the colors in your lips & glowy. not sticky. my recommendation is the dior lip glow stick.

highlighter

my favorite is mac’s strobe highlighter in peachlite. it honestly gives my skin such a beautiful and subtle pink glow to my face!! i love applying it before my makeup.

⤷ don’t forget your collarbones and shoulders.

there is nothing else that makes me feel like a radiating goddess walking down the street when i put highlighter on my body.

⤷ also, layering powder products on top of wet/creamy products make them more pigmented! this is why you see some people wet their eyeshadow brushes before dipping them into the product ♡

blushed & flushed or nothing!

who doesn’t love a good blushed face during the summer? just because your blush is visible doesnt mean you’re wearing too much!!!! own it!!

have fun with subtle pops of color 💋

it doesn’t have to be too crazy. keep it simple.

ideas can be:

- two toned eyeshadows

- colorful winged eyeliners

- a bold lip

nails ♡

- fun & bright colors like orange & blue

- if you want to keep it simple: french tips, nudes!

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♡ summer scent recommendations

marc jacobs perfect

delina - de marly

le labo thĂŠ noir 29

chanel chance

replica beachwalk & bubble bath

tom ford soleil blanc, lost cherry, neroli portofino, bitter peach

good chemistry coco blush

victoria secret bombshell beach

ariana grande - sweet like candy

solinotes cherry blossom

              for the mind & soul

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♡ summer reads

nothing better than a good summer read. here are some recommendations!

my year of rest and relaxation - ottessa moshfegh

it happened one summer - tessa bailey

hook, line, and sinker - tessa bailey

beach read by emily henry

people we meet on vacation by emily henry

book lovers by emily henry

one hot italian summer - karina halle

malibu rising - taylor jenkins reid

every summer after by carley fortune

the wedding crasher by mia sosa

twisted series - ana huang (twisted love, twisted games, twisted hate, twisted lies)

birthday girl - penelope douglas

love & gelato - jenna evans welch

one italian summer - rebecca serle

hands down - mariana zapata

better than the movies - lynn painter

- have fun. kisses from blushydior ♡

2 years ago

HIII OK OK SO HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS ON THE BOOK FIRST — i liked it ! keep in mind it was the book that got me back into reading + into romance books <333

I BELIEVE THAT IT WOULDVE BEEN BETTER .. IF WE GOT AARONS POV. bc i’mma be honest lina being the narrator 100% of the time made me REAL bored during some moments — that AND it took so damn long to get to the wedding AND the reason for aaron not liking lina at first had me like 🤨🤨🤨 but overall it was a fun read ! i loved the soccer game lmao

some of my fave books / books that i’ve read are …

- the spanish love deception

- terms and conditions

- the mindf*ck series

- the deal

- birthday girl

- archer’s voice

- the brown sisters trilogy

- addicted to you

- the sweetest oblivion (kinda dnf’d it ngl, but i wanna see what christian’s n gianna’s book is all abt BC …)

my tbr is actually chaos manifested into a list ??? BUT YEAH lmk what u’ve read n ur fave books bambi ! ♡ UR SO SWEET UDSGHEGD

OMFG I KNOW!! u should see my annotations, i was literally begging for a dual pov the whole time. BUT DID U KNOW WE’RE GETTING SNIPPETS OF AARONS POV?? LOOK IM CRYING

YESSS the soccer game 😭😭😭 he’s the man istgg. a man of his word, smart, athletic, a grump…. HES PERFECT. the sweetest oblivion was my first ever book that got me into romance books LOL this is so funny. AND THE DEAL OMFG. it was my first physical copy 😫

I HAVE OVER 300 BOOKS IN MY TBR. send help

i loveeee!! the sweetest oblivion, the maddest obsession (you’ll love it, i’m inlove with everyone), hook, line, and sinker, off campus series, and more 😫 UR SO LOVELY BARBIE IM SO GLAD UR HERE ( ˃̣̣̣̣o˂̣̣̣̣ )♡♡

11 months ago

getting ready for…

Getting Ready For…

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a winter post on getting through the winter flawlessly, warm, and cozily as a dream girl ♡ if you’re interested, look at my dream girl guides for summer and autumn!

my winter looks like traveling, cabin stays, new york, adventures and activities all the while staying cozy and warm inside surrounded by christmas lights, hot chocolate, candles, shopping music, and keeping to myself looking out my floor to ceiling windows with my books and loved one.

♡ table of contents

what does your ideal winter for this year look like? ideas, moodboards

physical: winter essentials, what to wear, beauty products, winter reads and bucket lists

mental: wellness, book recommendations

Getting Ready For…

   ❄️ what’s your ideal winter? ❄️

like i always say: you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so what does your ideal winter look like? 

have a balance of attending holiday parties, walks in the city to see the lights, indoor shopping and staying inside, in your cozy space while keeping warm with a hot beverage and a good movie/book!

Getting Ready For…

♡ bucket list ideas

create a winter routine! make sure to get your daily fresh air, staying physically & social active and uplifted to stay away from the winter blues. wake up earlier.

pick up a new hobby

spend more time away from your phone

make it a priority to avoid isolation

go skiing, snowboarding, ice skating

attend a ballet/musical

go on late night drives

take a drive to see the christmas lights

attend or host holiday parties or small gatherings with loved ones. have a game night!

try new recipes, bake goodies

most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.

♡ cozy winter habits

christmas movie marathon

playing classical music

sitting by the fireplace

making your christmas wishlist

take up crochet and knitting. make a hat, scarf, headbands, book sleeve, etc!

donate old clothes and toys

playing in the snow

wearing fluffy socks

make a new year vision board 

movie nights

try new ways to make coffee, hot chocolate…

buying christmas themed pajamas. match with your pets.

reading winter books and classics

go on a youtube throwback binge and watch bethany mota and meredith foster’s old christmas videos

keep writing in your diary

shopping or browsing through the city and malls to take in the holiday atmosphere

candlelit bubble baths

turning on the radio to listen to christmas music

                        physical

Getting Ready For…

♡ winter essentials

moisturizer. with the colder seasons come with drier skin. make sure to invest in a good heavy moisturizer that soaks into your skin well. recommendations below.

sunscreen. it doesn’t matter what the season is, spf will always be important! don’t forget your neck and hands.

a pretty blush of your choice

get a new signature scent for winter

candles

cute onesies 

classic pink silk robe

a cute winter mug for when you add in mini marshmallows + whip cream/sweet foam for your beverages

Getting Ready For…

♡ outfit essentials + my personal favorites

chanel earmuffs

santinni “an affair to remember” + “roman holiday” + “an american in paris” coats

chloe betty boots 

a cute fur + puffy jacket

black vivienne westwood leather gloves

ralph lauren cable knit sweaters

baker boy/fiddler hats

mini skirts. yes. i said it.

demonia boots (vigilance/camel line)

fur mini bags

oversized scarfs!

victoria secret silk robe

new and fresh bed sheets

knitted mini skirts

sam heidi bib puffer jacket

santinni “harlow” fur headband with bow

fur trim everything and anything. coats, boots, gloves, hats…

fur empty top hats

microfiber and leather ankle boots

leg warmers

tweed + knitted blazer and cardigan sets

moon boots

prada monolith combat boots

the arrivals moto jacket

bow tights

ugg earmuffs 

fleece tights that keep you warm and cute

hair bows and headbands

scarfs

sweater dresses will never not be my favorite

sunglasses

baggy denim 

half zip up pullovers

uggs (with bows) 

long trench coats + wool coatigans 

tote bags, small crossbodies 

trousers

the basics to layer. turtlenecks, mocknecks, wool crewnecks, leggings, long sleeves, thicker socks

and… the bear hat and scarf. i love it. don’t look at me.

                     beauty

Getting Ready For…

♡ the colder weather calls for soft, sparkly and blushy looks!

blushed and flushed or nothing comes out in this post as well! the cold look is the absolute cutest.

glittery eyeshadow and highlighters

gradient lip combos

plum colored makeup looks for the holiday season

♡ beauty tips for the colder season

gear towards creams instead of gel moisturizers. creams are heavier, gel will hydrate your skin but it won’t last you through the whole day. you’ll eventually start your skin tightening and dry mid-day.

i always go through my sheet masks fast during the winter! run the extra serum on your neck, chest and hands.

Invest in face masks, a good face cream and lip product.

keep hand cream and lip balm on you!

 ♡ product recommendations

philosophy - snow angel, white cherry, and candy cane shower gel (or all of them tbh)

victoria secret - warm & cozy line

o’keeffe’s - working hands cream

fenty skin + dior addict lip oil

nature republic - fresh herb peach cleansing foam

laneige - cream skin toner & moisturizer

tatcha - the dewy skin cream, water cream, and overnight repair

amlactin - rapid relief restoring body cream

crĂŠme de la mer - ultra rich cream

etude house - soonjung 2x barrier intensive cream

kopari - ultra restore body butter

♡ nails 

pale, muted colors with decos! pinks, winter blues, nude, ombre, etc.

lots of deco and designs are my favorite

i usually go for coffin but with designs i love to recreate, long almond.

examples for both makeup and nails are in the photo above! ♡

♡ winter scent recommendations

voltaire zadig - this is her

ysl - mon paris

carolina herrera - good girl 

killian - angel share & love don’t be shy

fresh cream - warm cashmere

gucci - bamboo

chanel eau tendre

juliette has a gun - not a perfume

replica by the fireplace & jazz club

eilish - billie eilish

burberry - her

victoria secret - warm & cozy

              for the mind & soul

Getting Ready For…

♡ reminders

keep up a routine and structure. switch it up when you feel called to. it can be hard when it’s cold and the days become darker but remember the feeling that comes with being active and getting things done.

take a list and write things down that you can enjoy in the winter and focusing on bringing more of it into your life for the season.

make yourself cozy and romanticize life! stock up on sweaters, get cute blankets, bake goods to enjoy and have your house smelling heavenly, play music in the background, and whatever your heart desires. 

♡ winter reads

sit by the fire or window, cuddled up in a blanket and dive into another world with bamb’s recommendations!

before the coffee gets cold - toshikazu kawaguchi

little women - louisa may alcott

murder on the orient express - agatha christie

one dark window - rach gillig

a christmas carol - charles dickens

the bear and the nightingale (winter trilogy) - katherine aden

sorrow and bliss - meg mason

sleepless nights - elizabeth hardwick

frankenstein - mary shelley

from lukov with love - mariana zapata

wuthering heights - emily bronte

six of crows and crooked kingdom - leigh bardugo

echo north - joanna ruth meyer

for the wolf - hannah whitten

disorientation - elaine hseigh cho

the winter duke - claire eliza bartlett

tinder - sally gardner

an unwanted guest - shari lapena

shiver - allie reynolds

the picture of dorian gray - oscar wilde

the overnight guest - heather gudenkauf

lapvona - ottessa moshfegh

murder for christmas - francis duncan

i want to die but i want to eat tteokbokki - baek sehee

behind closed doors - b.a paris

snow - orhan pamuk

the invisible life of addie larue - v.e schwab

lakesedge & forestfall (gothic fantasy duology)

- stay safe, warm and cozy. kisses from bambi ♡

Getting Ready For…
2 years ago
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset

♡ channel your inner elle woods and dive into your studies with a “what, like it’s hard?“ mindset

studying will only be hard if you assume it to be. uplift yourself before starting your study session. go on a rampage on how you’re the best student at your school and that you’re successful at everything you do! the only person that will be with you from the beginning till the end is you. be your own cheerleader despite it all.

♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset

♡ romanticize your studies

life is better when you romanticize it and nothing beats playing some music to level your head, looking at photos & scenes of your favorite characters studying and acing their tests! 

clean your desk, light some candles, buy cute stationary, pretend you’re being filmed, visualize how it would feel when you have straight A’s and see that perfect score on the corner of your test/exams.

make a playlist with a cute cover and choose a vibe. dark or light academia? classics? rnb? cafe jazz? make it fun. mix it all together or make multiple playlists for the different moods you’ll be in. don’t listen to lyrical music. i recommend brown noise! and going to a cafe or a library helps me focus a lot. the background chatter doesn’t ever get too much for me so it gets easy for me to tune it out.

bambi’s supplies:

kokuyo campus binder notebooks

papier planners

laohaster aesthetic highlighters - 1 & 2

tombow dual brush pen markers

0.35 pens + muji 0.38 pens

paper mate gel pens

aesthetic book tabs

kraft paper sticky notes

index card case

♡ finding a study place

i love to study at libraries and local cafes. i also use this time to go on adventures to explore my city and find hidden gems. make sure it’s a place where you like the vibe, there are no distractions. something about looking like that mysterious, studious girl who stays to herself >>>>

before you indulge in your studies, be aware of your surroundings. get familiar with the place by grazing your eyes over the area and begin :)

make a checklist of all the items you need. laptop, charger, pens, notebooks, textbooks, a book to read if you want to spend more time at the place you’re at, headphones, calculator, etc!

if you’d rather stay inside, make your area is clean of clutter and clear of distractions.

♡ time management 

now that you’ve set out a place, let’s talk about time. what hours in the day work for you? morning, afternoons or at night? what weekdays work the best for you to keep up with this schedule?

be reasonable with yourself here. pick a time where your schedule is free and you won’t be distracted by obligations. tell your friends and family you’ll be busy during those hours on selected weekdays, not everyday will be the same. life can be hectic so this is where you take responsibility. work around your appointments. make use of your time and run flash cards while you wait to get called in or you’re in line, while you exercise, get creative! 

setting time away to eat and make sure you drink enough water is not equally but more important than any other thing. take care of yourself. 

utilize your time wisely. no one and nothing is going to achieve those goals. you are. 

now, let’s actually get into how i study. 

♡ scheduling & staying on track

create a system that works for you. keep a list of all of your assignments, finals, exams, tests, projects in an excel spreadsheet organized and ascended by the due dates and the progress of its completion. here are two very simple examples i made. 

as you progress through the list, it’s always so good to see the growing checkmarks! like yes, you did that and you can continue doing so! i always advocate for keeping track of your accomplishments no matter what ♡

as for day to day classes and schedules, you can use notion or google calendar. there are plenty of cute and practical templates out there to use.

let me know if i should share mine or make some

♡ how i study, stay ahead, and be the best student i can be

the most important thing a student can do is put themselves first! find out what works for you. your strengths, your weaknesses, and obstacles you tend to come across and work around them to make the best out of it. 

we’ve already covered the topics of time and place so great! now, that you’re all set, additional things i keep in mind to make sure i am all nice and comfortable are…

making sure i am comfortable. the temperature, clothes i am wearing, if i feel safe at the cafe/library/room i’m in.

i can’t focus or do anything on an empty stomach so get a small meal before you start and keep water and snacks with you!

the most important questions of all: are there any illnesses you have that affect your studying and focus? what is something you often find that gets in your way?

as hard as dealing with illnesses gets on a daily basis, it’s easy to forget that it can affect your studies just as much. you need to work with them. i used to think i was stupid, slow, and downright crazy for not understanding material right away or for how easily distracted i got because of my random bursts of energy. then it just dawned upon me one day and i said “oh… duh?”

so, what did i do? i found out what worked for me, monitored my studying techniques and personally modified them to work better with my attention deficit.

tackle the important tasks first. low maintenance assignments like reading and writing notes on a section, annotations, and worksheets can wait if they’re easy but this way might not be for everyone. 

the reason why i advise this is because at the beginning of a study session, i have the most energy/brain power so i’d rather shift my energy towards the assignments that need more of my focus!

plan what tasks you intend on focusing on that day. look at your assignment spreadsheet. which ones are more important/urgent? due the soonest? write them out in order and follow the list.

immediately writing down my thoughts. i’m very forgetful so making this a habit has helped me so much for when i get any new ideas and remember to do something very important.

find out what learning style fits you. visual, auditory, reading and writing, kinesthetic. making powerpoints, study guides, drawing diagrams, color coding systems, interactive notes. cater your study methods to your needs. here is a pinterest board with examples!

take a self assessment quiz. if you want, check these quizzes out to figure out what kind of learner you are and what study habits you can improve! remember that you can always be more than one thing just because quizzes give you a single result. you know you!

active recall. it’s a study method to help with retention, memorization, and informational retrieval. it reduces forgetfulness all the while actively stimulating your brain rather than writing notes, highlighting text information. 

separate the topics + subtopics and in the end, when you feel confident, jumble them together.

flashcards! i love them. you can use quizlet which has a spaced repetition system where it will bring back material you got wrong so you can focus on it extensively. physical flashcards and manually having to write them out is also a form of memorization!

practice testing (not multiple choice) online or finding them on a textbook, ask a friend to quiz you or ask questions to yourself and try to answer them accurately.

pretend to give a lecture. i love this one the most because if you know the subject very well, you can pretend to explain it to a peer and even a middle schooler so that it gives you a chance to simplify the material so it’s easy for them (and you) to retain. 

while using flashcards and lecture techniques, it helps me when my adhd flares up and i really can’t seem to stay still or keep from making noise. i can walk around my room & talk aloud, walk on a treadmill, and move my body!

i study until it becomes natural for me to know the answer, not because i recognize the term.

check your work and understanding to make sure that all of the information you’re studying is correct! it won’t hurt to do a little review here and there. you never know when a mistake might’ve snuck it’s way in.

make your own study guide. (if that’s your method) for every unit and section, covering every topic. this can be on google docs and whenever you learn something new that you think is important to know, add it via docs app or write it on a notepad so that you can fill it in later.

on the go. you don’t have to do this ALL the time (or at all) but if you think you need more time to soak your mind with information but you’re on a bus, waiting in line, etc. pull out your flashcards or google docs app to quickly review. there’s no harm in that! (just make sure you’re aware of your surroundings please)

OFFICE HOURS! go to office hours even if you don’t have any specific questions or struggles! it’s always an extra learning opportunity because you can listen to teachers and teaching assistants answer questions you might have later on AND the more you attend office hours, you’ll build a connection and get to know the teachers. that is always important.

starting assignments ahead of time. don’t put off working on a project just because it’s due in 3 weeks or so. start ahead of time so you don’t stress yourself out and cram. stretch them out. plus, even if you don’t actually put yourself to work, get a feel of the materials you’ll need to know, the instructions, etc because if you have any questions, you’ll have more/easy access to teachers for help since not many people will be there at the beginning of when a project is assigned.

ADVANCE READING! this is so fun to do. you basically just read ahead on current/future topics the teacher will cover to grasp onto the information. write down any questions you have and personally ask the teacher for a more clear answer for your understanding.

i love doing this because when the time comes of the teacher covering the topic, light bulbs just keep going off in my head! it’s exciting. it gives me room for me to retain and write any additional information the teacher says.

do not multitask. remember, if multitasking has always worked for you, don’t stop! for me, it’s truly better to focus on the task at hand to strengthen skills and concentration rather than having to do 2 or 3 different things at once. efficiency is key and staying true to one task at a time is the best way to do so.

BUT when my adhd gets in the way, be consistently inconsistent. don’t unnecessarily guilt trip yourself when you suddenly feel like doing another task. go with the flow. follow whatever your brain feels like doing at the moment! MOVEMENT IS MOVEMENT.

additional tip: take breaks at certain times even if you don’t feel like it. like the advice above, it doesn’t necessarily have to be resting. it can be as simple as taking a trip to get a beverage, tidying up your area, something easy & light to keep your mind occupied and to avoid burn out.

 breaking down the assignments into sections. this defeats procrastination. it can seem overwhelming when all the information is pieced together into one so divide the tasks into small sections. 

ex. read one chapter in the textbook, start writing down terms to know, annotate. move onto the next.

study groups. it’s collaborative— a chance to ask and also help others on topics you don’t know and make connections! the smaller the better in my opinion.

don’t look at studying as something you “have" to do. it’s an activity. a choice. it can either be stressful or something you can easily get through— how you approach this will ;

participate! ask questions! don’t be afraid to ask questions and raise your hand to put your two cents in when it’s an open discussion! just do it.

focus on the now. don’t overwhelm yourself by looking at all the assignments you have due. the task you’re working on at the present moment is the one that needs the most attention and focus.

advice from others won’t always work for you. we are all different! what might work for others won’t always work for you. this is why it’s important to monitor your study sessions, habits, behaviors, and find out what works and what you like better through trial and error. 

except for when i tell you to take care of yourself. if there’s anything you should take away from my posts, it is to put your needs first. always!

♡ keeping up momentum. motivation vs. self discipline.

“think of motivation as a power boost at the starting line and your foot pressing on the pedal of your car is discipline, it’s what keeps you going forward on your journey. motivation, as fleeting as it is won’t bring you far but self-discipline will.“

remind yourself of the life you want to live, the businesses you will own, the cases you’ll win, the people you’ll be able to help with your knowledge, the feelings you’ll have because of your amazing accomplishments if you just keep. on. going. 

read the “continuing to strengthen self discipline” section in my dream girl guide post. i guarantee it will help in finding what really works best for you when it comes to identifying roadblocks and how to work around these struggles.

KEEP UP THE MOMENTUM. you’ve been on top of your game so when it comes to engaging in activities that don’t revolve around school work, make it worthwhile. stay off your phone, say no to silly distractions and do something you’ll thoroughly enjoy. paint, draw, write, read a book, go on a walk! this will keep you going in doing your very best every day and it doesn’t have to be a strenuous activity! stagnancy who?

DOING ANYTHING THAT BRINGS YOU JOY AND FULFILLMENT IS PRODUCTIVE. 

♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset

♡ the most important tips of all

TAKE BREAKS. GO TO SLEEP. EAT WELL.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

DO NOT PUT THIS ON THE BACK BURNER. you want good grades and to do your very best, that can’t happen unless you TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

if it’s past your usual bedtime and your eyes are drooping, struggling to stay open, how are you able to retain all the information from that moment on? go to bed because then you’ll get a good night’s sleep and you’ll be refreshed for your next day’s class! OR if you don’t have class, you’ll be able to bounce back into studying in amazing condition.

PAMPER YOURSELF. 

good heavens, take a shower, wash your face, go for a walk, move your body, stretch, take time to just stay to yourself. enjoy the silence, play some calming music, watch a show, take a nap. your body is a temple, treat it with love. 

if you’re constantly stressed out all the while continuously flooding your brain with so much information without resting:

it decreases concentration → you won’t be able to retain any new information (so studying is automatically deemed useless) → poor sleep → you attend class and your inability to focus and overall school performance has degraded→ you isolate yourself from social interactions → fall into depression → difficulty picking yourself back up and the list goes on…

in summary, you will not be able to continue and put in your best work.

always remember that pushing yourself past your limit does more harm than good. 

you WILL crash and all that hard work will go to waste once you’re physically and mentally unable to show up for yourself.

and if it means you have to get anything lower than a 80, IT IS OKAY. nothing is worth more than your health. trust me.

♡ helpful resources

zlibrary + openlibrary - free online libraries

websites for research that is not google

weava highlighter - highlight text from pdfs and the web, add and organize notes and be able to access later! lifesaver.

99 legal sites to download literature

speechify - text to speech reader

not robotic. comes in many different voices and languages

aids in: easy reading, improve comprehension, multitaskers

adjustable reading speed

mercury reader - gets rid of clutter from articles for easy reading

grammarly - grammar and writing check

beeline reader - color gradient to help read easier

group your tabs for easy organization (for mac users: control + click)

piktochart - create infographics

spot misinformation - masterpost

desmos - free online graphing calculator

paper rater - essay scoring

pdf2go + cloudconvert - file converters

internet archive - free books, movies, software, music, websites…

slidesgo -  google slides and powerpoint templates

pomodoro timers - tide w/ white noise + otto w/ a website blocker

remember to drink water

more very helpful resources

okay my love! that’s all for this post. i wish you the best! ₊˚⊹♡ as always, here is the google doc version

— kisses from straight a student, bambi ♡

♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset
♡ Channel Your Inner Elle Woods And Dive Into Your Studies With A “what, Like It’s Hard?“ Mindset

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