“Darling, darling. I live in you, and you would die for me. I love you so.”
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Lucas Tønnesen as Daeron the Daring and Harry Gilby as older Joffrey Velaryon/whoever Stark y’all will forever be ✨fabulous ✨
This is how we are NOT going to wait until the new year (or a new whatever) to be the best version of ourselves, we are going to change now.
When you want to change, change. Don't wait for anything.
There are about 100 days until the new year. That is 3 months. You can get so much done within that timeframe.
But with the "new year" aside, please know that there is absolutely no rush to improve. It can be July and you can still decide to "reinvent" yourself. This is just a fun thing to do and keep track of.
Not a "challenge" but a way to stay accountable for your goals for a better you.
୨୧ Here is how we are going to absolutely kill it!
1. Pick a number of goals (3-4, both small and large) for every aspect of your life.
Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, professional, personal.
Physical: 10k steps a day, working on being sober, moving your body around more, getting into bed earlier, reducing screen time, cooking healthier meals, brushing your hair, wearing the nice clothes you're saving for a "special occasion", trying out new looks and clothes, venturing out new styles, upgrading your basic hygiene routine, celibacy, drink more water
Mental: writing down your thoughts, keeping track of your emotions both negative and positive and what triggers them. Get rid of the negative triggers and bring in more of the positive triggers.
Emotional: getting in touch with a therapist, dedicating a journal to release you emotions instead of bottling them in, talking to friends, anger management
Professional: working 1 hour or more of deep work to improve your skills, networking events
Personal: find your old hobbies, discover new ones, pleaseee get a hobby. seriously! trying out new restaurants and cafes, complimenting people and be open to making new friends.
Spiritual: meditation, prayers to yourself or religion you are a part of, nature/solitude walks. These are super important, it brings you peace of mind and a time to really be with yourself and be at peace after your jam packed days
Finance: learn how to budget, no impulse spending, learn how to invest, find a way to increase your income
Important habits to have: waking up and going to bed early, planning your next day, having a set routine and freedom to change it to fit your priorities
Important skills to build: time management and how to focus better
These are just some ideas and I know looking at this list can be overwhelming so you need to remember and understand that you are not going to be doing every single one of these every single day. You are going to pick a few from each category (and seriously, if you think about it, I discuss this in the next section about time blocking, it really does not take a lot of time. Trust me.) and include them into your daily routine.
2. Setting up reasonable time blocks for these goals. Revamp your schedule to fit your goals around your life.
Getting up early is how you get more done in a day. Yes, you can reach your goals even with a full time job.
I work almost 12 hour shifts every week day while taking care of kids, my dog, basically running a household and I still get so much done.
So you've picked your goals. Great. Now take a look at your schedule and figure out what things are taking up most of your time. Is it a long commute? Spending too much time scrolling on your phone? Waking up late? Going to bed late?
Example of time blocking/a schedule:
☆ Mornings:
4am-5am: exercise, pray/meditate
5am-7am: study
8am-4pm: get ready for the day and go to work.
during your work break, you can read a book, get steps in, meditate, have a nice meal.
☆ Evenings:
4pm-5pm: get back from work, eat, catch up with family or have alone time
5pm-7pm: review any notes, clean, meal prep, attend a class you may have, do laundry
7pm-9pm: plan the next day if you have appointment or deadlines, shower, go to bed
Assess how you spend your time and utilize it. Instead of scrolling on your phone during your free time, spend time with your loved ones (pets, kids, partner), instead of staying in one place while you're on a call, walk around to get steps in, there is always a way to implement your goals into your daily life.
Notice how I say fit your goals around your life. You don't want to be taking away important things like errands, jobs, school, being a parent just meet your goals- no. Use your time wisely. That's all. You can fit them.
On the larger goals like taking up a class/large skill, like dancing and painting. On fridays, you'll have dance class and on other days that you have free, you'll be painting a piece or reading your anticipated book, learning a language, trying out a new recipe, planning the next day, taking a spontaneous art class, etc!
Weekends.
Because I work a lot, I like to use weekends to really do deep work. Intensive study sessions. And because I deep work (work with no distractions) I don't need to study all day. I'm getting so much done in little time that I'll be done by the afternoon and I can go out and do errands, get all dressed up and have a nice day out in the city, or just have a relaxing day by doing chores, watching a nice movie and more!
3. Setting up a system so you can actually stick to those goals.
Keep a journal to keep track of what you did today. If you didn't reach a goal that day (and that's okay), ask yourself why? and how does it make you feel? Then take action on what you can do to reach it tomorrow.
Switching. We all know it’s best to not push yourself so hard. For example, don’t do intense exercise everyday. Walking and dancing throughout the day counts as exercise too, so by switching (depending on YOUR goals), you’ll have time for your other goals as well. Here is an example: on a rest day of no exercising, maybe that day is the night I have a ballet class. That is exercise as well. So instead of exercising in the very early hours of my day, I can use that time instead to do more studying OR have more time doing something else.
which means I can do one do the following: spend more time with my pet, read a few pages of my book, make a new recipe, etc.
Ex. 4am-5am - on a no-exercise day, i can study during that time instead. 6am-7am - more time to tackle my other goals.
Create a foundation. If you have an amazing day, felt very productive and accomplished, what's a habit that really helped? For me, it's always getting up early. If I wake up late because I slept late or my alarm didn't go off, my day is thrown off by a landslide. So if you had an off day, figure out why and maybe your foundation can help.
★ That’s all!
If you have questions or need an example to jump off from, click below to read more on how I personally did my reset and how I am still able to get much more done with a full time job.
Stay safe, prospering, and amazing!
Share your accountability posts with the tag #100DaysWithDDD or we can chat through my inbox if you need extra tips, questions or want to share how you're doing/did.
I will be logging my days too, you can find my goals here.
Welcome, welcome!
Here is an example of what I did when I did my reset and still doing now with working.
I chose my goals. I was studying deeply, spending more time with my dog who I felt bad would be bored during my study hours, be more active, get through my books.
How did I start? First of all I got up earlier and went to bed earlier. I noticed that I focus better in the mornings so I would stretch, workout and started studying. Next, I would get ready (nice clothes, my face is clear, hair is brushed), take my dog out, play with him, etc and head to work. See? I already tackled so many of my goals there! Physical, personal, and professional.
Want to get more books in, want to meditate, want to journal? Listen to an audiobook or podcast while you drive, commute, or have a lunch break at school or work. Or don't. Sit in silence and let your mind wander, let those unconscious ideas come up! That's also a form of meditation and having more creative skills.
During my study breaks, I would stretch, walk my dog. Another break, I catch up with the kids, do any short tasks like laundry, mini tidying up. Any break, at all I would do micro-task.
I stopped doing useless things like spending so much time on my phone for what? If I was truly bored, I had done all my tasks but I didn't feel like getting up or doing anything, I would go on my phone... to clean out apps and my camera roll (which has A LOT of things on it I still need to get through). That's the only time I would go on my phone really. The lack of storage on my phone makes it lag- I'm heavily scolding my past hoarder self for keeping so many photos on there
If you work a desk job, get up for phone calls, take laps when there is nothing to do, just get your body moving! Stretch! There is always something to do, you just have to know how and what.
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ᰋ-what is the overall vibe of this dr? (whimsical, cozy, etc)
ᰋ-what do you always have on you? (a phone, a lighter, etc)
ᰋ-how do you get around in this dr? (by bus, walking, riding a horse, etc)
ᰋ-is there a song that reminds you of this dr? (could be the lyrics, vibe or even voice)
ᰋ-is there any drama going on in this dr? are you involved?
ᰋ-whats the view from your window like?
ᰋ-what do you smell like? what does the air smell like?
ᰋ-if this dr was a movie, what would its title be?
ᰋ-how do other people from this dr describe you as?
ᰋ-what kind of music does your dr self listen to?
ᰋ-if you had to describe your dr in 3-5 random words, what would they be?
ᰋ-does your dr self have any pets?
ᰋ-how does your dr self handle conflict?
ᰋ-whats your dr selfs favourite and least favourite memory?
ᰋ-who does your dr self dislike?
ᰋ-who would your dr self look for in a crowded room?
ᰋ-whats your dr selfs favourite posession?
ᰋ-whats your favourite (specific) part of life?
ᰋ-who from your dr would you most likely trust with a secret?
ᰋ-which lyric(s) can you relate to right now?
ᰋ-where would your dr self go to escape from the world?
ᰋ-what are your friends’ love lives like? hows yours?
ᰋ-what kind of things is your dr self doing at school/work? (projects)
ᰋ-describe your dr selfs signature makeup/scent/anything else
ᰋ-what does your dr self look forward to after waking up each day
ᰋ-what was yours dr selfs childhood like
ᰋ-what does your dr self NOT like about this dr? (are there any small imperfections?)
ᰋ-are there any big events your dr self looks forward to?
ᰋ-what are some random activities/scenarios from your dr?
ᰋ-your dr selfs go-to fun fact?
ᰋ-favourite person that ISNT close to your dr self? (a teacher, hallway crush, etc)
ᰋ-what are some random rebellious things your dr self does? (skipping class for example)
ᰋ-what are some confessions your dr self could make?
ᰋ-why do you shift there?
ᰋ-does anyone from that dr know about shifting?
ᰋ-describe your dr self as “theyre a 10 but…”
ᰋ-what would everyones halloween costumes be from your dr? (you could even do matching ones with someone)
ᰋ-how would your dr self react if they met any of your other dr selves/drs?
ᰋ-how does your dr self show affection? what their love language?
ᰋ-if every person close to you in your dr were to make a podcast, what would it be about?
ᰋ-what would your dr self write about in the AITA subreddit?
ᰋ-whats in your dr selfs wishlist?
ᰋ-what would be everyone from your drs most used emoji? (even if phones dont exist)
ᰋ-what would your dr selfs reposts be?
ᰋ-what would a movie/book about your dr selfs life be called?
ᰋ-who from your dr gives the best advice?
ᰋ-what would your dr selfs password be?
ᰋ-how would your dr self do the “how many aura points did I lose when…” trend?
ᰋ-how would your cr and dr selves get along? what would you do together?
ᰋ-if your dr self had a cutie mark, what would it be?
ᰋ-what could your dr self talk about for hours?
ᰋ-how would a conversation between your dr self and your cr self go?
ᰋ-who has a crush on your dr self?
ᰋ-where could someone look for your dr self and theyll most likely be there?
ᰋ-whats your “I know a spot”
ᰋ-whats something people would be surprised to find out about your dr self?
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀tysm for the support!
hey angels! whether you’re going out with friends, going to school/uni or just looking for some tips on what to keep in your every day bag, this is the list for you. i adore being that one girl who has everything in her bag - helping my friends and loved ones makes me feel really special and positive. plus i know that regardless of what’s going on or happening to me ill have it in my bag! enjoy and i hope you find this helpful.
lip balm
spf
perfume or body spray
hydration spray
lotion
hand cream
nail polish
small essential makeup kit (e.g lipstick, blush, concealer)
setting spray
deodorant
hairspray
makeup wipes/cleanser
compact mirror
hairbrush
eyedrops
painkillers/paracetamol
tampons, pads, period cup etc
tissues
cough sweets
plasters
aloe vera or burn cream
hand sanitiser
wet wipes
gum and mints
extra underwear
snacks - especially if you have low blood sugar or iron!
floss/tooth picks
any medication you take throughout the day/may need
face mask
a book
headphones
pack of cards
journal
a magazine
digital camera
wireless phone charger
charging cable
id
student id (discounts in shops etc)
travel cards/passes
wallet
change
house keys
water/some kind of drink
extra layer or room to remove extra layer
claw clip, hair ties
stain remover wipes
pen and small notepad
coin pouch
mini umbrella
sunglasses
nail file and scissors
tea bags
hair pins
mini fan
crystals/lucky charms
thank you for reading angels! if youd be interested in a more school/uni focused what to keep in your bag feel free to let me know!
love, m.
So, I did another one. The 2025 F1 Season Beginner's Guide. Genuinely honoured that a few people requested it and sorry for all the mistakes I've missed. Please enjoy the many recycled jokes from last year and the 2025 exclusive slide "Paddock Pets".
me if wanting to make a dr out of any piece of media i consume was a crime
for so long i always felt a sense of struggle when it came to my achievements. i could reach my goals but it always felt so hard, and it usually came paired with periods of burn out and malaise. then i found out why: i was often neglecting foundational needs, living in chaos and not taking proper care of myself, and trying to zoom straight to big-picture achievements.
below is my ultimate guide to 'the good life'. the more balance you can achieve in each category, the easier and more pleasurable it becomes to reach your goals. you will still have to stretch yourself and explore beyond your limits... but it should feel relatively nice because you are supported by a nourishing lifestyle.
you deserve a beautiful, healthy, passion-filled life. here's how you get it:
physical health: create nourishing routines for sleep, exercise, and nutrition. your literal energy starts here, so if you’re trying to bring positive energy to your life and achieve success, you need foundational energy.
mental and emotional health: build resilience and develop strategies for coping with pressure and stress. take care of your mental health always, not just when you’re already spinning out.
financial stability: learn to manage your money wisely. budgeting, saving, and debt management are a must.
your home: whether you have just a bed, a room, an apartment, or a whole house, create a safe, comforting space to recharge and feel grounded.
strong relationships: surround yourself with supportive and meaningful connections - so much about ourselves is defined by those we are close with so choose wisely.
meaningful work: follow your sense of purpose and find work or projects that bring a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction to your life. remember that it may not always be paid work. if you have no idea, just keep trying things and follow what interests you, while working on the next stage.
personal growth: invest into self improvement, developing new skills, growing your knowledge and learning as much as possible.
spiritual fulfilment: find purpose, whether through spirituality, self-reflection, or a connection to something bigger.
creativity & self-expression: explore creative outlets and express your true self to find a grounding sense of joy and authenticity.
community & contribution: give back, volunteer, or participate in community initiatives to connect with a greater sense of purpose and life-giving connection.
legacy & impact: define the mark you want to leave on the world, through family, work, or contributions to society. think deeply about what you wish to leave behind and tailor your life to this goal.
play & leisure: make time for joy, hobbies, and relaxation for rejuvenation, calm, and passion. if your day to day work isn't your passion, it's so essential to find passion here.
time in nature: regularly connect with the outdoors for grounding and mental clarity.