Honeybeehero800

I like haunted houses in theory BUT I have no idea how to react when the actors speak to you. They ask me a question and I just… answer it…

The scariest part of a haunted house is the unscripted social interaction.

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To The Substitute Art Teacher - Jordan Bolton

The tough thing about boundaries is that it’s not enough to state them, you have to enforce them.

I think some folks see “setting boundaries” as a kind of magic talisman to influence other people’s behavior. “I’ll tell you what I need or can’t accept, and you will act accordingly.” And sometimes that’s what happens, and that’s great! But if the other person disregards your stated boundaries, it doesn’t mean setting boundaries didn’t work.

Because boundaries aren’t about others’ behavior, they’re about your own. If the other person’s behavior doesn’t change, then yours has to. “Please don’t discuss [x topic] with me” is a request. “If you continue to talk about [x topic] then I will end this conversation/hang up/leave” is a boundary, which you must then enact. The point is less about stopping the other person (although that’s ideal) and more about protecting yourself. And you have to be committed to protecting yourself, because no one else will be.

You have to be so committed that you’re willing to tolerate other people being hurt or angry or uncomfortable. You have to accept that some relationships might change. You have to hold onto the idea that it’s all right for them to change, because the way they were before was hurting you, and you deserve to not be hurt. You gave them a choice: maintain a relationship or keep doing the thing that hurts you, and they chose to keep hurting you, so if the situation is now awkward or unpleasant that was because of their choice. Enforcing boundaries means deciding that if someone is going to feel bad here, it need not be always and only you.

There is no magic formula that will make other people treat you kindly and respectfully. But you can learn to treat yourself with kindness and respect. That’s what enforcing a boundary is.

I've been watching this on loop and sobbing for the past 3 hours, please send help.

someone: hi

me: did you know the narrative that school shooters in the US are all bullying victims is false and originates from inaccurate coverage of one of the most infamous school shootings, the columbine shooting? in reality the columbine shooters were reactionaries who isolated themselves deliberately and followed an ideology that positioned them "above" the rest. so, a lot of school shooters are actually ideologically motivated rather than revenge motivated. no one knows this and the media paints these murderers as victims. do you want to know what the columbine effect is? also I have a lot to say about "stranger danger" as a conservative fear campaign to promote the isolated nuclear family

To post this without tagging the episode is a sin

SPIKE FINGERING BUFFY IN THE KITCHEN????? IN THE KITCHEN. IN JOYCE'S KITCHEN.

Post-series Spuffy FF Master List, part I

Master list of my favorite post-series Spuffy fics. I may need a part 2. Long list!

Post-series Canon

https://archiveofourown.org/works/12670479 A Better Man by Sunalso

https://archiveofourown.org/works/4123792 This Thing We Have by TheSigyn

https://archiveofourown.org/works/35038633 Stars for Wars Like Ours by ashcrashed

https://archiveofourown.org/works/19722949 Class Protector by GingerKI

https://archiveofourown.org/works/26410804 sea and fire and woman, three evils by GingerKI

https://archiveofourown.org/works/49949038 Everything by GingerKI

https://www.sunnydaleafterdark.com/viewstory.php?sid=1187 Shall We by Ginger

https://archiveofourown.org/works/11916345 Oddments of Bygone Times by OffYourBird

https://archiveofourown.org/works/52697296 Home is Nowhere, Therefore You by OffYourBird

Epic (50k+)

https://archiveofourown.org/works/2114268 Distance by Herself_nyc

https://archiveofourown.org/works/29101194 Bygone Days by GingerKI

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=5933 Skipping the Stone by sandy_s

https://archiveofourown.org/series/1422868 Souls in Bondage series by touchstoneaf

https://archiveofourown.org/series/9059 Long Distance to London series by Quinara

Time Travel/AU

https://archiveofourown.org/works/40915380 The Time We Had by Dusty Premise based on the Time Traveler's Wife novel. 😭

https://archiveofourown.org/works/18051587 Liebestod by Iamblichus

https://archiveofourown.org/works/41845962 Devouring Time by TheSigyn

https://archiveofourown.org/works/42813417 From That Dream's Apocalypse by OffYourBird

https://archiveofourown.org/works/34560400 Chiaroscuro by OffYourBird

https://archiveofourown.org/works/13757121 Tales from a New Body by OffYourBird

https://archiveofourown.org/works/13609386 The Darkling by OffYourBird

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=6281 Midway of Speech and Thought by TheHousekeeper

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=7271 Timelines, Schimelines by bookishy

https://archiveofourown.org/works/10719669 Collateral Damage by cindergal

https://archiveofourown.org/works/16662521 Ripples on a Hellmouth by stuffandnonsense

https://archiveofourown.org/works/58163338 Flowers Among the Morning Dews by cawthraven

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=7337 So That You Will Hear Me by cawthraven

Humor/Light

https://archiveofourown.org/works/20224240 How to Eat (A Slayer's Guide to Conquering the Kitchen or Die Trying by talesofstories

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=7720 In a Billion by HappyWhenItRains

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=6708 A Thril of Hope (the weary world rejoices) by kats_meow

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewuser.php?uid=22192 A Warm Welcome by Maggie LaFey

Dead Dove/Dark

https://archiveofourown.org/works/2101215 A Totally Random Occurrence by Herself_nyc

https://archiveofourown.org/works/1987980 Where They Have to Take You In by Herself_nyc

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=4398 Pet by Sigyn

Longue durée

https://archiveofourown.org/works/6685972 Hindsight by Toften (WIP, not updated but brilliant)

https://archiveofourown.org/works/11689914 A Different Kind of Hell by OffYourBird

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=6807 World Enough, and Time by toooldforthis

https://archiveofourown.org/works/7304137 Time by flootzavut

https://archiveofourown.org/works/19244887 Mythtaken by wolf_shadoe/twinkles

Current and updating WIPs

https://archiveofourown.org/works/58412710 Incarnate by TheSigyn

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=8581 Truth and Consequences by JamesMFan

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=8835 Masquerade by Holly

https://dark-solace.org/elysian/viewstory.php?sid=9037 Love Letters You Never Sent Me by Spikelover4ever

Why the hell was this deleted??? IT SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN DELETED AAAH. These two boys are so infatuated & head over heals for Dean. "Not my type" .... Crowley.... who are you trying to convince? "Maybe he's your boyfriend..." are we deflecting much Castiel?