Little Ghoul

here's a little reminder that no one can read your mind or see your "weird" or "bad" thoughts and daydreams! mind readers are not real, and your inner world is entirely private. your thoughts and daydreams are not embarrassing or bad, and they do not define your morality!

everyone who keeps saying shit like "sounds like something a mind reader would say" or "mind readers are real actually" i will eat you to death and enjoy every minute of it. not the time or place

CUTE PEOPLE LOVE LOGGING ONTO THIS SITE. cute people love reading this post. cute people love drinking water

shoutout to the aromantics who don't feel love at all. shoutout to the aromantics who feel love deeply but not in the way society wants us to. shoutout to the aromantics who are repulsed by romance. shoutout to the aromantics who are romance positive. shoutout to aromantics who have conflicting feeling about romance. shoutout to aromantics that are neutral about romance. shoutout to aromantics in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who aren't in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who are also asexual or aspec. shoutout to aromantics who are allosexual. shoutout to aromantics with conflicting identities. shoutout to aromantics who are questioning. shoutout to aromantics who are in relationships. shoutout to aromantics who are happy not in a relationship.

shoutout to every aromantic person reading this because you are valid and a welcome part of the queer community no matter who you are or what you identify as. you are so loved and appreciated <33

Tips for writing flawed but lovable characters.

Flawed characters are the ones we root for, cry over, and remember long after the story ends. But creating a character who’s both imperfect and likable can feel like a tightrope walk. 

1. Flaws That Stem From Their Strengths

When a character’s greatest strength is also their Achilles' heel, it creates depth.

Strength: Fiercely loyal.

Flaw: Blind to betrayal or willing to go to dangerous extremes for loved ones.

“She’d burn the whole world down to save her sister—even if it killed her.”

2. Let Their Flaws Cause Problems

Flaws should have consequences—messy, believable ones.

Flaw: Impatience.

Result: They rush into action, ruining carefully laid plans.

“I thought I could handle it myself,” he muttered, staring at the smoking wreckage. “Guess not.”

3. Show Self-Awareness—or Lack Thereof

Characters who know they’re flawed (but struggle to change) are relatable. Characters who don’t realize their flaws can create dramatic tension.

A self-aware flaw: “I know I talk too much. It’s just… silence makes me feel like I’m disappearing.” A blind spot: “What do you mean I always have to be right? I’m just better at solving problems than most people!”

4. Give Them Redeeming Traits

A mix of good and bad keeps characters balanced.

Flaw: They’re manipulative.

Redeeming Trait: They use it to protect vulnerable people.

“Yes, I lied to get him to trust me. But he would’ve died otherwise.”

Readers are more forgiving of flaws when they see the bigger picture.

5. Let Them Grow—But Slowly

Instant redemption feels cheap. Characters should stumble, fail, and backslide before they change.

Early in the story: “I don’t need anyone. I’ve got this.”

Midpoint: “Okay, fine. Maybe I could use some help. But don’t get used to it.”

End: “Thank you. For everything.”

The gradual arc makes their growth feel earned.

6. Make Them Relatable, Not Perfect

Readers connect with characters who feel human—messy emotions, bad decisions, and all.

A bad decision: Skipping their best friend’s wedding because they’re jealous of their happiness.

A messy emotion: Feeling guilty afterward but doubling down to justify their actions.

A vulnerable moment: Finally apologizing, unsure if they’ll be forgiven.

7. Use Humor as a Balancing Act

Humor softens even the most prickly characters.

Flaw: Cynicism.

Humorous side: Making snarky, self-deprecating remarks that reveal their softer side.

“Love? No thanks. I’m allergic to heartbreak—and flowers.”

8. Avoid Overdoing the Flaws

Too many flaws can make a character feel unlikable or overburdened.

Instead of: A character who’s selfish, cruel, cowardly, and rude.

Try: A character who’s selfish but occasionally shows surprising generosity.

“Don’t tell anyone I helped you. I have a reputation to maintain.”

9. Let Them Be Vulnerable

Vulnerability adds layers and makes flaws understandable.

Flaw: They’re cold and distant.

Vulnerability: They’ve been hurt before and are terrified of getting close to anyone again.

“It’s easier this way. If I don’t care about you, then you can’t leave me.”

10. Make Their Flaws Integral to the Plot

When flaws directly impact the story, they feel purposeful rather than tacked on.

Flaw: Their arrogance alienates the people they need.

Plot Impact: When their plan fails, they’re left scrambling because no one will help them.

Flawed but lovable characters are the backbone of compelling stories. They remind us that imperfection is human—and that growth is possible.

messages for those with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HPD

you are loved, valued, and important.

the people in your life care about you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

i'm glad you're here today.

your needs matter. your feelings matter. your limits matter.

Reminder that:

Neopronouns are entirely valid.

It doesn't matter if neopronouns are "cringe" or "weird". In the eyes of someone who dislikes a group of people, everything about them will be "weird". Why not have fun while being weird?

Neopronouns can be hard to use or understand, but they do get easier with time.

Neopronouns being confusing or new does not mean someone can insist on referring to others with the wrong pronouns. (Of course, don't get hung up on calling someone the wrong pronouns by accident, but especially don't hateful.)

Neopronouns are not limited to anything at all. They aren't exclusive to nonbinary people, they aren't only for people who present a certain way, they aren't for people who also use xenogenders. They're not closed. They can be used by whomever.

Neopronouns can be anything. Nouns, consonants, vowels, entirely new words, symbols, emojis - they're what you make them.

Neopronouns are constantly evolving. Their entire existence is based around being new. You can use neopronouns for yourself, learn about the history behind neopronouns, practice using neopronouns, create neopronouns - everything is free to do forever. Be cool and have fun.

IT'S GOING FURTHER!!!!!!!!

AHHH, IT'S BEEN DONE

thank you to all that have contributed, your efforts are sincerely appreciated!

although, even though i hit the max... I AM NOT STOPPING!! IM KEEPING THE BOOPING ALIVE AS LONG AS I POSSIBLY CAN!!!

i will say also, absolute shout-out to YOU!

crown of boops goes to you, frankly -- couldn't not have done it without you 🫶

npd otherkin culture is actually being god/deitykin due to psychological reasons linked to my npd and feeling hurt when people say "god/deitykin dni." like i'm sorry that i'm mentally ill? i don't know what you want me to do about that.

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Let's say goodbye to 2024, and welcome in 2025, because...

Happy New Year, everyone!

Onto a new one! (Hopefully, this time we might actually get around to fulfill our resolutions..)

Best of luck and wishes for everyone!