How To Visualize Your Desires Easily:

Commit to your new life.

When you become aware of how you speak, how you think and how you act, you are no longer programmed by the past.

Teach your body how your future is going to feel like. Feel the emotions in the present moment. Right now, feel the emotions you want to feel in the future. 

You can become grateful and abundant before the promotion, or before you get the job.

You can feel in love before the relationship happen. You can fall in love with your life, your body, your choices.

You can steer your emotions with your thoughts.

So if you have been waking up grumpy for the past year, start disciplining your mind to feel grateful in the morning.

Practice guided meditations to create the feeling of abundance in your life. Start a gratitude journal. Praise yourself in the mirror. Flirt with yourself. Spoil yourself. You are the captain of your thoughts. Your thoughts influence your emotions. Emotions create your life. 

Build a new personality. 

If you really did believe your thoughts create your future, you would show up and do the work. You would observe your thoughts daily and when any negative thought pops into your head, you would flip it and built constructive ones. 

All it takes is awareness and discipline. Start today. Start right now. You are capable of changing your life just like anybody else.

Sending you much love 💖

How to Smell Dreamy (Body Care Tips + Routine)

One of my Dream Girl goals is to get more invested in body care; a huge part of that is learning how to make my body smell good! (fragrance wise) I feel like I've finally cracked the code for myself, and I'm ready to share it!

In Shower

Washing order:

♡ face ♡ feminine area ♡ hair ♡ body (arms, legs, stomach, back)

♡ bum

♡feet

Face and Feminine Area

Your face and feminine area are the two most sensitive parts of your body, which is why they should be cleansed first. Cleanse your face first to avoid getting any unwanted body care products on your face.

Next, your Feminine area. Your feminine has a lot of hidden creases; if it's not cleansed properly, you can get buildup around your "inner lips" (labia minora) which will cause odor.

♡ Take a wet Q-tip and clean your "inner lips" and clitoris. If needed, use a hand mirror to make sure you're removing any possible build-up.

♡ After you are done (with clean hands) wash the entire area. DO NOT wash inside of the hole, and DON'T use a fragrance wash. Simply using warm water is the best option, but if you feel more comfortable using a wash, my favorites are the Unscented and Peppermint Dr. Bronner's Castile Soap and Honey Pot's foam wash.

Tip: If you are experiencing a slight odor, wash with diluted apple cider vinegar to help balance your PH.

Hair

Hair products and the buildup from your hair can cause breakouts. Wash your hair first, so then you can make sure everything is rinsed and cleansed off after.

Cleaning Body

♡ Start by washing your entire body with SOAP. Girlies... Dove is not soap. Dove is a "moisturizing beauty bar with a mild cleanser." Which mild is okay for washing your face, but not your body, in my opinion.

Of course, use what you want, but I suggest at least mixing it with soap. As always, I recommend Dr.Bronners Soap.

- Use an exfoliating cloth to clean your back. This will help get those hard-to-reach places and prevent/clear any bacne.

- Don't forget to wash behind your ears, your neck, and your belly button.

♡ Now exfoliate. You should exfoliate once or twice a week. DON'T use sugar scrubs!! Super unsanitary. I don't know much about chemical exfoliants, but I am currently using Soap and Glory: Scrub of your life - and I'm obsessed.

- Exfoliate your neck, arms, shoulder, (bum) cheeks, and legs. You can also exfoliate your armpits, but DO NOT exfoliate your armpits on shaving day.

Making body smell good (the fun part!)

♡ Use products with strong scents. I personally find that creamy body washes have stronger and lasting scents.

♡ Apply products directly to the skin to prevent them from absorbing too much into what you're using to wash.

♡ Layer your products - use products with the same notes.

♡ DO NOT immediately wash the products off - let it sit for at least 2-5 minutes, so the scent can stick to your skin.

Bum And Feet

♡ Use your washcloth to clean your bum last since it holds the most bacteria. I like mixing soap and Vagisil.

♡ Lastly, your feet. Use a foot brush and callus remover.

- DON'T use the same washcloth for days - Washcloths should be put in the laundry after every use.

Out of Shower

♡ (With clean hands) apply face products.

♡ Apply your scented lotion to damp skin, so it will absorb into your skin.

- Mix your lotion with perfume oil for an even stronger and lasting scent!

♡ Apply Deodorant - If you are a sweaty girl, use dry spray deodorant and apply it to all of your problem areas.

♡ Apply perfume to pulse points - Put vaseline on pulse points first and DON'T rub in the perfume.

♡ Get Dressed and then apply a generous amount of (matching) body mist all over your body.

Now you should be feeling good and smelling dreamy!

Thanks for reading

xoxo

living in a two-storey house, spending a lot of time outside, reading sitting on the grass, playing with my cat, and cooking near the big open window

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 "𝐈𝐓" 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟐

It’s always been my dream to be viewed as a living goddess. When anyone encounters me, I want them to feel as though they have just come in contact with an ethereal being. Someone who is so uniquely feminine, elegant, skillful, kind, elegant, and charming. I want them to be captivated by my beauty and enraptured by my intellect. There is no spell that can accomplish this. Only dedicated and precise hard work. You have to be dedicated. You have to show up for yourself every day, even when you’re tired. Even when you’re sad. Even when you feel totally uninspired. Put in the work for what you want. Here is your guide.

𝐁𝐎𝐃𝐘

Consider your diet. Be mindful of how much you’re eating. Try to stray away from overeating. You should cut back on the amount of sugar and processed foods that you eat (cut back ≠ cut out). Make sure you are getting enough greens, protein and fruits.

Drink at minimum 3L water.

Incorporate daily fresh pressed juices.

Drink hot tea.

Keep alcoholic beverage consumption to a minimum.

Take daily vitamins and supplements.

Exercise 5 times a week at minimum, even if it’s only 30 minutes on the treadmill. Do something that will help you maintain your weight and your figure. The goal is to maintain a tight and toned figure.

Incorporate a consistent stretching routine into your daily routine. Stretching lengthens limbs and improves gracefulness.

Play tennis in warm weather and start learning how to play golf.

Go on walks whenever you’re not in the gym. Fresh air is good for longevity.

Get chiropractic adjustments and massages to keep the muscles limber and free of tension

Clear face and body of acne and hyperpigmentation.

Get skincare treatments that help the skin look clear, radiant, and age gracefully.

Practice consistent oral hygiene routine: whitening mouthwash + floss + scrub tongue + brush teeth + act fluoride rinse mouthwash

Get a teeth whitening kit and start drinking through a straw so you don’t stain your teeth.

Stick to a consistent bathing routine.The body should be exfoliated and shaved 2-3 times a week. Use kojie san soap to maintain skin’s even complexion. Use a yoni shower gel for the vaginal area. Use exfoliating gloves + exfoliating cloth to wash with. Scrub feet to maintain between pedicures.

Post shower (spring/summer): hempz body lotion (add glycerin) + avene body oil + dove dry spray + (pink rosa) + femme rejuv oil + perfume oil + fragrance of the day

Post shower (autumn/winter): hempz body lotion (add glycerin) + cerave healing ointment + dove dry spray (vanilla + cocoa butter) + femme rejuv oil + perfume oil + fragrance of the day

Stay on top of wellness check ups:

Physical

Vision

Dental

OBGYN

Derm

Start taking care of your natural hair. Get a relaxer with every 10-12 weeks. Get sew-ins with closures/ minimal leave out to grow hair. Box braids and feed in braids for the summer time with. Deep condition hair under the dryer whenever not in protective styles. Dye your hair back black for a more classic + natural look.

Start using hair perfume

Once a month, get a deluxe pedicure at Bally once a month

soft pink for spring

white for summer

french pedi with fleshy pink base for summer

black for halloween

red for the holidays

Do gel manicures at home with a gel mani kit

Milky white

Baby pink

Baby blue

French

Red for the holidays

Keep eyebrows groomed - trim them every 2-3x weeks

Get your lashes done every month and fill ins as necessary at LaLa Lash. Always go for the classic style

Keep your makeup natural. Do not paint your face. You should look as natural and real to you as possible. For night time or special occasions, of course you can do a little more like a sultry look. Your makeup should just enhance your natural beauty and the work that you’ve put in to have good skin.

Makeup routine:

Primer + powder to prep

Lighter concealer for under eyes to brighten

Perfectly matched foundation

Concealer closer to your skin tone for any other inconsistencies

Powder foundation to set the makeup

Bronzer to warm up the face

Fill in your brows lightly and conceal to clean up

A little bronzer on the lids

Lash extensions should be done but if not, lashes that look natural or mascara

Top off with a neutral lipstick or a gloss

It’s critical to keep on top of your beauty treatments so they don’t pile up and your look remains consistent.

The longest rampage for realizing you’re the god of your reality

Make it normal for you to always have everything you want

results guaranteed after reading ! (warning: may work better than expected)

Even if I have doubts, fears, anxiety, worries I know I am the god of my reality and whatever I say goes, so my affirmations always become my reality immediately because I recognize my power as the only creator. My words and thoughts manifest overnight. They change my entire reality over night. I get my results overnight. I am so powerful, I am literally the most powerful creator ever. I am above anyone and everything. I am so sure of myself, I know I can have whatever I want. I am ambitious and always get what I want because I am persistent and never give up. I am strong af and so are my affirmations. I create and remodel my reality in seconds just because I embody so easily the state of knowing I am the most powerful creator. I am convinced what I want is meant for me and meant to be in my life. The reason I embody the state of assuming I get what I want when I want it is because I trust my affirmations and myself. I am convinced there’s a special place reserved to my desire in my reality. My reality changes overnight in the one in which I’m living my dreams. I am the person I’ve always dreamt to be. My affirmations are permanent and always work. I manifest everything in no time. It’s enough for me to affirm once to get my desire, that’s how powerful I am. I recognize my power. I have the mindset of a god because I am one. It’s enough for me to just think about my desire to get it because my mind is so powerful that I naturally embody the state of a god in my reality, so my imagination is manifested in real life. My reality is how I’ve always wanted it to be. The only reassurance I need is from my affirmations because my affirmations are the only things that recreate and create my desired reality. I live in the reality in which I already have what I want. I am capable of gaining everything I desire and want. I know it’s very possible and very normal for me to have what I want and what I’ve always wanted. I am sure of myself and my affirmations, I have faith in my manifestations, I trust myself and my manifestations as the God of my reality. I am always at peace, I got rid of bad feelings like anxiety, worry, stress, doubt because now i realize my power. My power is limitless, I am limitless. I am the most powerful and influential force that creates my reality overnight. For me, doubts, fears, anxiety, worries are temporary and ineffective/irrelevant, they have no meaning, they even barely exist, they’re just an illusion. Even if I have doubts, fears, anxiety, worries my affirmations always work because my affirmations turn into assumptions as soon as I think or say them. Even if I have doubts, fears, anxiety, worries I always assume I have everything I want and desire. Having what I want when I want it, having faith and trust in myself and my affirmations have already become an assumption, that’s why I’m the most successful manifestator/creator. I excel at everything I do, I am naturally excellent and successful. I succeed at everything I do. I only manifest good things and the best and most favorable outcome for me. I focus on myself and my self concept, that’s why I’m radiant and always assume I get everything I want. I always assume the best and most favorable outcome for me. I know I always have what I want because I am God and I blindly trust my affirmations. My success is promised to me.

the fairy challenge 🧚🏽‍♀️ ( 11/14/21 - 12/14/21 )

why titled "the fairy challenge"? because fairies are magical and beautiful beings.

this challenge is for us to manifest our desires & spend more time with ourselves, getting to know ourselves better. this includes engaging in hobbies, self care, whatever manifestation technique of your choice, and receiving everything you want :)

objectives:

embody god and manifest quickly and with ease.

get to know ourselves better.

become independent in manifesting and in life.

prioritizing ourselves.

glow up

pre-challenge tasks:

+++ well, first off i want you to think of/create a list of everything you want to manifest. everything you state/make note of, we are going to manifest within this month span. also, make a vision board, even if you don’t use vision boards, still make one to feel happy about what you’re going to manifest!

+++ make a list of/create a list of everything that you like, (hobbies & forms of self care), this is what we will be engaging in during the time period. we want to keep our minds sharp and healthy!

+++ clean up your spaces! we want to be organized and ready for this month of productivity & receiving. if you are in school, do all your work and get ready for the upcoming school week. if you work, set your schedule together and organize your belongings.

+++ create an affirmation list for everything you want to manifest! these can just be general affirmations like; “every aspect of my life is ideal.” , “my body is perfect.” , “my appearance is perfect, alluring, and beautiful”. this list does not have to be long! it just needs to suit you, you HAVE to be okay with your affirmations. one affirmation you MUST have is “i am becoming the ideal and best version of myself”. (adjust to fit you just make sure it pretty much has the same meaning)

+++ create rules for manifesting ! make sure this is PERSONAL. figure out what your limiting beliefs are, then create a rule that overrides that. make this so that you for example, some of my rules are:

whatever i intend to manifest, will manifest how fast i want it to manifest; it always comes better than expected.

all manifestation methods work instantly for me, all i need to do is persist.

all my desires manifest quickly, easily, and effortlessly. i get my desires within 2 weeks; time lag doesn't exist.

i manifest instantly, manifesting is easy.

my subconscious can detect when i want something and fulfill it immediately.

+++ make affirmations for your self concept ! this needs to be personal also , target your limiting beliefs. for example, some of my affirmations for self concept are:

i am the only creator of my world.

manifesting is easy and effortless.

i can manifest anything and everything.

my life is perfect and easy.

REQUIREMENTS:

set a time limit for tumblr for like five minutes per day, stop listening to neville, don’t research manifesting any more. during this challenge you must NOT CONSUME ANY MORE INFORMATION. all the answers you need for manifesting is within you, you already know what to do. just know to apply it.

spend as much time as you can, off of your phone/devices. we want to get to know ourselves better, so we need to spend more time with ourselves. (i suggest you copy & paste this post into your notes)

BE ON TOP OF YOUR WORK!! get things completed before they need to be.

DAILY RITUALS (these things must be done daily)

engage in at least one of your happy rituals (hobbies/self care) during the day.

look at your vision board at least once for at least two minutes. i want you to look at your vision board in a state of receiving, knowing that this will be your lifestyle. DO NOT look at it as if this is something you can’t achieve, as if it’s just a dream. EXPECT WHATEVER THAT IS ON YOUR VISION BOARD TO COME.

reread your manifestation rules at least once, (time is your choice).

journal how your day went, how you manifested (how easy/hard it was, mental pressure, your doubts) & how you feel at night. if you didn’t like your day, revise it in the technique of your choice.

affirm your affirmations for your desires and self concept, before bed.

WEEKLY RITUALS (these things must be done at the end of the week friday/saturday)

tidy up your spaces and reorganize if needed.

catch up on all your work.

revise your week, if needed.

check in at 12/14/21 for the end of challenge reflection. you'll do great my loves :)

^ after posting , i manifested this showing up on my explore

I’ve decided I’m going to become a bitch, the baddest bitch actually. I’m talking waking up early, exercising because it gets my heart pumping, eating and enjoying whatever I want, working on my hobbies, channeling my mind to think about the dream girl inside me and making her become a reality. I’m putting in the work and putting all my energy and love into myself like never before. Why? Because I deserve it!

Femme Fatale Playbook: How To Embody Queen Energy

Living in your queen energy requires you to stand in your power and look after yourself to the highest degree in every area of life. When tapping into this higher frequency, you realize that putting yourself first allows you to show up at your best – both for yourself and others. Here are some tips to embody the queen energy you’re meant to live in: 

Put Yourself First: Remember – your self-perception becomes your public image. You need to believe in yourself before others will. Believe that you’re worthy of living your dream life which includes achieving your loftiest goals and indulging your deepest desires. Reframe any resistance. Identify as someone who lives a life of abundance where all of your manifestations enter into your orbit with ease. 

Be Honest With Who You Want To Be: Sit down with yourself (and some writing utensils – whether it’s pen and paper or a keyboard) and journal to describe your ideal self. Don’t hold back. Indulge in your wildest dreams, goals, and fantasies. Become conscious of any limiting beliefs that come to mind as you write out these aspirations. Jot them down – they’ll give you some insight into what’s holding you back, so you can bridge the gap between who you show up as today and who you’re going to be once you put in the inner work. 

Make A Deliberate Effort To Discover Your Values, Passions, & Boundaries: Figure out what matters most to you in life. What activities, topics, aesthetics, art, clothing, hobbies, sounds, movements, books, television shows, movies, songs, and types of conversations most light you up inside? Here are some resources to guide your self-discovery journey HERE, HERE, and HERE.

Build A Strong Personal Brand & Cult of Personality: I have more tips on building your personal brand, creating your persona (or ‘Dream Girl archetype’), and an ultimate Femme Fatale playbook linked HERE, HERE, and HERE.

Prioritize All Aspects of Your Health: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual. Celebrate your needs – they make you human. Eat a healthful, plant-based diet, exercise and walk daily, meditate, read at least 10 pages a day, journal, make to-do lists, declutter your space, self-pleasure, recite your affirmations, lean into shadow and mirror work, create morning and nighttime routines. Feeling in alignment is essential to allowing your magnetic aura to shine through. Find all of my tips to cultivate self-regard in every area of life HERE.

Read, Study, & Build A Strong Skillset: Designing the life of your dreams is an inevitable aspect of living in your queen energy. Stay informed, read books and articles on your industry, interests, current events, cultural happenings, history, and any other topic that brings you joy or you would find intriguing if someone brought up the subject at a dinner party. Mastering an evergreen skillset is essential for succeeding in your career or building a business. Living in your queen energy means living in abundance. While queen energy is a mindset, it is impossible to fully live in this dream reality without having passions and your finances in order. Start with my entire Femme Fatale booklist HERE and guide to building your dream career HERE.

Learn The Art of Detachment: Acknowledge what's out of your control. Living in your queen energy means you understand that it's important to work your hardest and smartest to determine the outcome of anything you can control. Otherwise, you have to let it go – people, professional opportunities, possessions. Projection, misalignment, or an undesirable fit does not deter you from striving toward your goals and relishing in satisfaction. Others' contempt and rejection serve as a cue for self-reflection and redirection.

Become Extremely Discreet Yet Utterly Shameless: Do as you please, but keep your business (or pleasure) to yourself. Privacy is peace, power, bliss, and radiates quiet confidence – the greatest telltale sign that someone is living in her queen energy. Learn to hold your own. You will be guaranteed to earn respect within seconds of gracing anyone's presence.

Maintain Proper Posture: Shoulder back, chest open, back straight. Don’t be shy about taking up space. 

Accept Compliments With Grace: A smile and ‘thank you’ pairing is the most confident and elegant response. Some more confidence and social skill tips are linked HERE and HERE.

Live Unapologetically While Displaying Radical Empathy: Uphold your boundaries. Live your truth. Never beg or settle for less.

Let go of what you don’t want. Release those thoughts. Every time you focus on what you don’t want, it’s taking you away from what you do want. Read that again. The internal chatter in your mind is either guiding you towards the life you dream of or a life of unhappiness. Awareness is key, choosing better thoughts is the answer to receiving the life you desire.

You want peace, happiness, success, abundance? That has to be your thought process every moment of everyday. Instead you get stuck in worry, fear, creating dramas in your mind. The only way to succeed is to choose better thoughts. Because with better thoughts come better actions, and with better actions comes a better life.