So I Was Watching Tommys Stream Right? And Wilbur, Like Real Life Wilbur The Person, Brought Up An Interesting

so i was watching tommys stream right? and wilbur, like real life wilbur the person, brought up an interesting point. and that’s why is tommy lonely?

and i found that interesting because its a fair point. why is he lonely, especially from a writers perspective, which is what wilbur was asking from

because tommy is sad, theres no arguing about that. and he has ample reason to be sad, but to claim hes lonely is a different story. hes been visited by people almost everyday (mostly dream, but the others visit too, and also PM him) and also he keeps getting presents from people whenever they come and visit him

tubbo is basically the only person who hasn’t come to visit him, but wil also pointed out thats kind of a vapid reason for this extreme loneliness hes feelling, which is true

but i think its more the sudden lack of attention that tommys feeling. he, as a character, has essentially been the Main Character for the majority of the smp lore. yes, other characters have been important, but tommy has gotten used to being the centre of attention. hes gotten used to and dependent on the power of being ‘important’, and now that hes an option, for tubbo and for everyone else, he doesn’t know what to do (dream also fits into this in a way, but ill have to get into that in a different post lol)

hes realizing hes not the priority to other people, and im pretty sure thats just completely upended his worldview (remember, hes the “hero” that always comes out on top, that everything works out for) because hes facing consequences for his actions, and they suck. like they’re not fun

and its different from the first time, because now hes being exiled by himself, by his best friend, as a direct response to his actions, and people are just kinda going with it (its also a much more thorough exile than last time)

so its not that tommy doesn’t have friends, or that he is lonely because no ones isn’t visiting, or that people dislike him (which is an idea that he believes at this point), its that his ‘normal’ for how people treat him, and how they interact with him is so skewed that he only thinks people like him if he gets all of their attention and is their number one priority and is special. 

hes not used to this feeling of being by himself, and because he doesn’t know what it is, hes labelled it as loneliness