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All three holes need to be trained, He said. The aim is to do it all at the same time, all to the limit. So did i.

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102 reasons female orgasm denial is the best

Feminists have promoted orgasms as a liberation for women but it’s the exact opposite. Orgasms make women slave to their desires, always craving for immediate reward. Freeing them from this burden opens their mind to the fulfilling role of anal only sluts. 

Found this here and could not agree more : 

I like to be denied and I’m proud of it 🙂 I’m also a woman and a feminist so I find it a bit disappointing that looking around one only finds smut and information on denial and chastity for men. So here are my reasons for denial rights :

1. I have no moral right to enjoy the same pleasures as a Dominant man. 2. I have no right to refuse pain, discomfort or frustration from my Master. 3. Permanent Orgasm Denial is safe and sane and is therefore fully within the rights of the Master. 4. Slaves have no automatic entitlement to pleasure. 5. Whether I orgasm or not should never be my decision. 6. Dominants should have the right to orgasm whenever and however they choose. 7. I have no physical need to orgasm and therefore no right to.

Service 8. Orgasms make me unwilling to serve and obey and are therefore counterproductive. 9. Denial makes me more subservient and willing to do domestic work. 10. Denial helps me to see all forms of service as being of equal importance. 11. Denial helps me prioritize service to others above pleasure for myself. 12. Denial makes me easier to train and control. 13. Denial makes me more willing and able to quickly get up and continue serving after being used sexually. 14. Denial makes me more eager to find a Dominant to serve and submit to. 15. Denial allows me to serve fully without expectations of my own pleasure.

Downsides of Orgasms 16. Orgasms make me bossy, manipulative and self-serving. 17. Orgasms make me bratty, disobedient and demanding. 18. Orgasms make me spoiled, greedy and needful. 19. Orgasms make me selfish, lethargic and unsubmissive. 20. Denial prevents mood swings caused by fluctuating sexual arousal and the highs and lows of orgasms.

Better in Bed 21. Being aroused makes me more fun to play with. 22. Most Dominant men prefer to fuck a very aroused submissive. 23. Being very aroused makes me more eager for and responsive to sex. 24. Denial makes me a better sex slave as I am not distracted by the hope of my own orgasm. 25. Denial allows the Dominant to focus on his own pleasure during sex. 26. Denial allows the Dominant to enjoy sexual relief without the pressure of being required to perform. 27. Denial gives Dominant an additional way in which to pause and enjoy my suffering. 28. Denial makes me equally happy to be used in my arse or mouth or to be cum on. 29. Denial makes it easier to accept being used by others when a Dominant requires it. 30. Being denied ensures that I have less self-imposed limitations and expectations about play and sex. 31. Denial helps me give complete sexual control and obedience to those who Dominate me. 32. Denial ensures that I am physically ready whenever and however a Dominant wishes to use me. 33. Lack of submissive expectations about pleasure ensures that the Dominant does not feel judged, compared or rejected sexually. 34. Denial makes me see sex as a privilege and not a right. 35. Denial allows the Dominant’s sexual preferences to take full priority. 36. Denial helps me focus on the pleasure of the Dominant instead of my own physical sensations. 37. A lack of concern for my pleasure and satisfaction gives more options to those who use me. 38. Denial reminds me that my preferences are not the limit of how I can be used, sexually. 38b. Denial makes my pussy tighter, giving more pleasure to my Owner.

Benefits to the Relationship 39. Denial will help me bond with my Master by establishing a constant feeling of connection, submission and control. 40. Denial ensures my faithfulness and commitment as casual partners are unlikely or unable to offer the orgasm denial that I need. 41. Permanent Orgasm Denial is an intense, rare and unique experience which will ensure a deep and powerful bond between me and those who enforce it. 42. Denial ensures a contented submissive who is not anxious about her own pleasure. 43. A happy Master is essential for a happy relationship.

Objectification 44. My sexual organs, including the clitoris, should be at the service of Dominant men at all possible times. 45. Sex is for the Dominant’s pleasure, not the slave’s. 46. It is not appropriate for a slave to lose self-control whilst serving a Dominant. 47. A slave’s body belongs to her Master and He decides how it is used. 48. My holes belong to those who use them and are for their pleasure only. 49. Serving anally and orally will help me focus on the pleasure of those who are using me. 50. My body can be used to give pleasure, enjoyment, and satisfaction to others, even when I dislike what is being done with it. 51. Denial helps me appreciate the utility, femininity, and submissiveness of my body.

Better at Taking Pain 52. Denial makes me more willing and able to take pain to please others. 53. Denial accustoms me to the reality of slavery that is physically painful or difficult. 54. Denial makes me desire pain to deal with the sexual frustration.

Altruism 55. My orgasms do not benefit anyone else and are therefore unnecessary. 56. My own pleasure is irrelevant to how much pleasure and satisfaction I can give to others. 57. Slaves are inferior to Dominants and do not deserve to orgasm. 58. Denial of orgasm is a small price to pay for the privilege of being Owned and enslaved. 59. Denial helps me to enjoy service and submission in their own right, and not just as payback for sexual pleasure. 60. Both parties working towards the Dominant’s pleasure creates harmony of purpose and avoids conflict of interest. 61. Denial helps me to appreciate the beauty, dominance, and eroticism of the male orgasm. 62. My denial pleases and arouses Dominants who enjoy this fetish. 63. Denial prevents me from favoring only the sexual and s&m activities which are likely to cause me pleasure. 64. Denial makes me more willing to try things that may not be pleasurable or desirable for me. 65. I am more useful as a slave when my enjoyment is of no concern to myself or others. 66. Denial makes me less judgmental about serving and pleasuring others. 67. Physical arousal caused by denial enables me to pleasure more men, making me more useful as a slave.

Submissive Mindstate 68. Denial helps me to see myself as a total and permanent slave. 69. Sexual frustration is a constant reminder of my submission. 70. Denial causes me to remember and focus on the non-physical and non-pleasurable aspects of submission. 71. Denial trains me to give up control of my body, even when single. 72. Denial helps me appreciate the power and privileges of Dominant males. 73. Denial shows Dominants that I am willing to serve and be obedient. 74. Orgasms are unnatural and unsubmissive for slaves.

The Pleasures of Denial 75. Sexual frustration makes me emotionally happier and more subservient. 76. Extreme arousal is fun to play with! 77. Permanent Orgasm Denial is a great reward which I should seek and hope to experience. 78. Denial is an amazing gift of arousal and control from a Dominant and should always be treasured and appreciated. 79. Denial gives me freedom from my own sexual dictates.

Denial Improves Me as a Person 80. Being denied for long periods gives me discipline and self-control. 81. Learning not to obsess about my own orgasm makes me a better, more well-rounded person. 82. Denial saves time that would be wasted on masturbation. 83. Denial prevents me from prioritizing short-term satisfaction over long-term growth and development as a submissive. 84. Denial helps me choose Dominants on the basis of giving service rather than receiving sexual pleasure. 85. Realizing that I cannot and should not have everything I want is good for my humility.

Denial as a Natural State 86. Denial is not an irregular restriction but a natural and permanent state for a slave. 87. Women have no physical need to orgasm. 88. Female orgasms are unnecessary for impregnation. 89. My orgasm serves no biological purpose. 90. Intense sexual arousal is a preferable and healthy state for adult females. 91. Denial of orgasm has been a normal state for women throughout history. 92. Sexual arousal is designed to persuade women to accept penetration from an aroused adult male. 93. Orgasms not resulting directly from insemination are unnatural and require correction. 94. My orgasm is designed to take place only after a male has ejaculated deep inside my vagina. 95. Female orgasms are designed to prevent sex from occurring after successful impregnation. 96. Female orgasms triggered by sodomy are abnormal and should be avoided. 97. Female sexual arousal is necessary to ensure breeding, unlike female orgasms. 98. Lack of sexual arousal after orgasm is an undesirable and temporary state. 99. Anal sex is a natural alternative for those wishing to avoid impregnation. 100. It is not natural for a woman to touch her sexual organs except when cleaning herself. 101. Denial causes physical arousal and lubrication prior to sex and is, therefore, natural and to be encouraged for women. 102. My arousal serves no purpose if it does not lead to impregnation.

Seems realistic

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Facts, #mood

FACETIME

I have had this craving all day So I’m playing no games

Bring all that sexy over here and mount it on my face

Not trying to be all I nice and neat

I want both of your hands filled with sheets

Matter of fact I want your hands gripping me

Pulling me into your pussy

Embrace me with your kitty

Grinding your supple mound on my full lips

Greasing my face with your moisture

Grabbing the back of my head while I grip them ass cheeks

Watching as your legs shutter from me slurping your lips

I feel your pussy squeezing my tongue as my finger slides in your ass

You moan louder as the pleasure is consuming you

Your sweet juices are all in and on my shit

I take pride in this

FACETIME

Make your wife happy

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Something you should know

This post has been sitting here as a draft for several weeks now. I’ve been brewing over whether or not to post it: I am not an expert on d/s by any stretch of the imagination, and extrapolating from my limited experience to suggest that I know something about other people and their internal workings is a risky road. 

But I’m having a rough day, a messy-head kind of day. I told DD straight off - just a simple text: “I’m not myself today.” That’s kind of code for “I’m going to disappear a bit.” But I still need to feel him close, part of things, and writing does that, too. Maybe reading this will do that for him today, if he goes online, as I keep myself to myself, cocooning and quiet. So even though I didn’t write this today it seems like a good day to hit “post.” 

It goes without saying, we’re all pretty different. People are too varied in all their weird, wonderful ways to ever be reduced to a buzzfeed top 10 list, or a one-size-fits-all label and description. But I’ve read a lot of amazing, insightful things on tumblr from a lot of amazing, insightful subs. Seriously, some of the most vulnerable, brave writing I have ever seen anywhere full stop is submissives writing on this site. And I’ve had some of the most gracious and kind conversations from women who have read some of my posts and sent me private messages, and had conversations that are at once anonymous behind our avatars and still deeply supportive, gentle and smart. 

What I’ve learned is this: there’s a lot of us who seem to operate in pretty similar ways. Even when we don’t realize it. Even when we think we’re just a one-off weirdo, there always seems to be another one-off weirdo talking about the same emotion, act, coping mechanism or thought process. 

This letter is not intended to reflect what every single sub might want to tell every single dom. But I suspect that quite a few of these, if not all, apply to a lot of us. And maybe it’s helpful - for either side of the equation - to write about them. 

Dear Doms, Sirs, Daddy Doms, and other dommy types: 

There’s something you should know. Actually, there’s a lot of somethings. This is hard for us to write, because if we subby types had our way there’d be a simple User Manual we could just hand over - a list of instructions, some FAQs, and several pages of troubleshooting. Boom. You’d know everything about how we work. Simple. Easy. No scary, revealing conversations required. 

No such thing exists, but … well, we wrote THIS instead, and it’s kind of a little bit of what you might find in our User Manual, if there was one. Like we said, just some things you should know. 

Maybe you’d like to read it? No rush of course, only if you want to. We don’t want you to think we’re insisting - oh, which kinda brings us to the first one … 

1) Asking for things from you is hard. 

Remember that time when you were doing really good stuff to our girl parts and we said “please” and you said “please what” and we said “please…” and you said “tell me” and we went back and forth like that for a minute? It wasn’t a show, a game to enjoy your dominance over us (though of course, we did enjoy that part too, and we love when you make us answer you.) But we truly struggled to get the words out - just as we do when we ask for a bottle of water, or a spanking, or a clarification on how you feel about something, or any other thing big or small. 

Why? Because asking you for things - anything at all - is really hard. Asking you for things feels like trying to take over, or it feels demanding, or it feels like a suggestion that what you are already doing to us and for us is not already amazing-ten-ways-to-Sunday. 

2) We think a lot about your time. 

Sometimes we think about your time more than we think about your sexual needs, your emotional needs, or anything else. Because your time is the well from which you water us. We know that we are, ahem, “high needs.” We know that we often require the same conversations over and over. We know that we need a lot of affirmation (and re-affirmation, and confirmation, and re-confirmation, of things we have already covered.) We know that this kind of interaction requires a lot more engagement than might be required of you by someone else. We know that even the things we enjoy in bed (or over a table, or over your lap) take more time than what any of us have ever gotten in most vanilla sexual situations - a spanking alone might take more time than an entire sexual encounter for someone else, and it’s only the warm up. We know the world is busy - we know your world is busy - and we try to be careful with your time. On the flip side of the coin, we think nothing of spending extra time on things that might please you - doing our hair a certain way, carrying out a requested task, and so on - but we can’t relate that giving your time to us feels as rewarding as when we do it for you. 

3) We don’t tell you everything we want to. 

If we sent you a text every time it occurred to us, you’d come back to a screen at the end of a couple hours with about 400 messages on it: I miss you. What do you think of these shoes? God I can’t stop thinking about that thing you did that day, remember that day when we went to that restaurant and I was wearing the red skirt? I miss you. I wish you could spank me right now. I think you’d be really proud of this thing I just did. Want to hear about it? Need you. Want you. Did I mention that I need you? Oh I read the best book, you’ll love it. I miss you. What are you thinking about? Are you thinking about me? Of course you’re thinking about me, I’m awesome. Hahah. Just kidding. Um you know I was joking about that awesome thing, right? Sigh. Oh it’s sunny out! Um, I’d like you to tell me how to dress today/what to do at the gym/what to eat. Did you know it’s only eight sleeps till I see you? I got a new bra, want to see it? I know it’s random but I’m really grateful for you. I’m grumpy. Need you. Did I say that already?

Not only do we not send all those things because we’re thinking about your time (see #2) but because we worry that something we say will sound crazy or silly or frivolous, or worse, demanding (see #1). 

4) We need to hear it a lot. All of it. Yes, even that thing you told us just yesterday. 

It’s not that we have a memory problem. If anything, we remember too much, every small detail. We keep memories like a dragon keeps gold: a treasure horde that we keep with us all the time. 

So, no, it’s not that we forgot when you snuggled in close and said that sweet lovely thing. It’s not that we forgot how aroused you were when you saw us all tied up and waiting for you. It’s not that we forgot that you rearranged your schedule for us. It’s not that we forgot when you explained for the billionth time that we’re really definitely important to you. 

We didn’t forget at all. But we still need to hear it again. We need to hear ALL THE THINGS, ALL THE TIME. We need to hear that we’re vital to you, and in what ways, and why. We need to hear that you miss us. That you think we’re cute or sexy or funny or smart or interesting. We need to hear that you worry about things too, that you think of us at random times. We need to hear why we make you laugh, when we make you smile, and how you like that odd little freckle that we fret about.  

Most of all, we need to hear that we make you proud, that we did good, that we pleased you. We need to hear that life with us in it is better and brighter and easier, and without us … well, that even pondering such a thing is unpleasant. 

Yes, we know you just told us yesterday. And the day before. And maybe the day before that. We still need to hear it again. But we won’t TELL you that, because … well, see #1. 

5) We love what we do together, but sometimes it still makes us feel weird for a little while

We all know that we’re doing things we’re not supposed to. We are very good girls, who understand all too well the cultural norms that we live in, and the consequences for breaking those norms. If I told my friends that I let you slap my face, or that you put me over your lap and spank me like a naughty child, or that you call me your fucktoy while doing terrible things to me all tied up in your bed and holy shit I love it so much … well, you can imagine what they’d say. The world is very loud about what is right and wrong, good and bad. 

We know that the things we do with you are consensual and considered, informed and engaged. We know that we’ve talked about it. We know that we both want it, enjoy it, need it, thrive on it, mutually, and that we are better for having each other. We know that we get off (and get off hard) to some of the things we do behind closed doors. We know that we don’t want to stop. 

But sometimes … not always, but once in a while … we feel weird. Which can lead to #6… 

6) We’re super fucking competent. Annnnnddd we still want your help. 

For a group of people who willingly let themselves be helpless and vulnerable and lacking entirely in control, we are actually an incredibly competent group of women. We are good at what we do - not just THIS part of us, but all parts. And you know what we’re the best at? Taking care of ourselves. Most of us figured out how to the hard way - because of how we grew up, or someone who broke our hearts, or simple necessity. And we are so fucking good at it. 

When we are having a bad day, when our heads are not on quite right, when we are “off kilter,” when we’re feeling weird (maybe because of #5), we will probably want to just do our own thing and manage it. We won’t want to ask for your help (see #2) or take up your time (see #1). Even though you’ve told us all the good stuff (see #4) we might be second-guessing ourselves. We will just close up shop for a couple hours or the whole day, and we will manage our shit without any help. 

But we will still want your help, too. 

When we say “I’m ok” we really mean it. When our coping mechanism involves being quiet, we usually really do need to just be quiet. But we need to know you’re there, too. Poke at us. Be present. You don’t need to fix it but we want to know you’re willing, if we want you to. 

7) We are grateful for you. So, so, so fucking grateful. 

We don’t mean just in the lovey-dovey “so glad you’re part of my life” way. We mean grateful that your quirk is the mirror image of our quirk. We’re grateful for the ways you offer structure and mentoring and leadership and support. We’re grateful that you want to be in charge - because honestly being in charge sounds like so much work it’s hard to remember that you even want to be. We’re grateful that you want to do the heavy lifting (sometimes literally) of being the dominant to our submissive, the wolf to our rabbit, the master to our slave.

And, yeah, sometimes we feel weird about the stuff we do (see #5) but we also know that sometimes you might feel weird, too. You do things to us that we want you to do, but that might in any other context be deemed abhorrent or abusive. We know that when you see the way we respond after our time together, if we cry or shut down or need to cuddle for a half hour while shaking, you might wonder if you went too far, did too much - which brings us to the next point… 

8) Our drop is not your fault. 

You didn’t go too far. (***see below) You didn’t push too much. You didn’t cross the line. Sometimes we drop just a little bit, sometimes we drop hard - harder than we expect to. And sometimes we need to recalibrate, come back to normal, and it takes time or tears or strangeness to get there. But we never once think it’s your fault. We never once think the drop is not worth everything else. When we cry, you haven’t made us sad - the intensity of our time together has brought all the things that might make us cry, right to the surface. When we turtle, you haven’t scared us - the enormity of release just requires some time to stabilize. You’re not bad, or wicked, or uncaring. And we know that, without ever needing to talk about it. (***Assuming a consensual, safe act that everyone was on board with.) 

9) We don’t care about your super-domly bod. 

We’re not here for horse-sized cocks and pro wrestler muscles. We’re here for you. And yeah we might get off on the visual parts of you we like best (sometimes things you don’t even think are particularly appealing about yourself) but the stuff that does it for us is in your head and your heart. And we know the same is true in reverse. But we forget, a lot. So yeah, remind us, that our imperfection is as desirable to you, as yours is to us. We know already but, well, see #4. 

10) We are kinda magic, even though we don’t realize it.

We’re a bit weird. Quirky. Strange. We see the world a little differently. 

But we see you a little differently than others, too. You’re the Sir, the Daddy, the Master. You might think that you’re the protector because you’re the boss - but we’re protectors, too, in our own ways: we see you, we accept you, and we understand you better than you realize. We know that you need us to kneel so that you can stand. We know that you need us to give so that you can take. We know all that and then we do what you need and then we ask: what more can we do? Call it whatever you want but this is a kind of magic - to be seen, to be known, to be given what you need. 

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Well, we did go on a bit longer than we meant to. Anyway, that’s about all we wanted to say. Obviously by this time next week, we’ll have pondered a whole new pile of things and what they mean and how we feel about it - because that’s our thing. But for now, this will do. 

Oh wait: one last thing, a final PS, the last thing you should know … 

#11) We are always always always trying to be the bestest. 

The root motivation for every single thing on this list is to the best, for you: your best girl, best partner, best sub, best friend, best lover. 

Because that’s just how we roll. 

Love always,  

Your Subs xoxo