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push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

since i know a lot of you like to have something playing while you study or do homework i decided to just make a masterpost of some playlists and other stuff i like listening to while doing stuff

study like you’re in harry potter

hagrid’s hut

hogwarts express

potion class

dumbledore’s office

no.12 grimmauld place

weasley’s place

slytherin common room

gryffindor common room

ravenclaw common room

hufflepuff common room

hogwarts library

lord of the rings

rivendell

hobbit hole

the green dragon inn

doctor who

in the tardis

game of thrones

castle black

meereen the great pyramid

littlefinger’s brothel (lmao)

collections of study playlists

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just classical

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I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

real examples of job interview questions from my boss:

three years ago, when I interviewed for my current job, questions came from a long list that my boss had written himself. I found that list recently and trimmed it down to what I believe are the hardest/trickiest questions to answer so that maybe you guys can think on them and be prepared for your next job interview! best of luck!!

please describe for me a typical day on your past/current job

why did you leave your last job?

how do your previous work experiences prepare you for this position?

give me an example from your current/past job that demonstrates your persistence.

how do you organize yourself for day-to-day activities?

when you are assigned to work with new people, how do you go about getting to know them and how they work?

what type of person is the hardest for you to get along with?

how do you handle conflicts, like with a co-worker or boss? how do you resolve them?

how would you define a conductive work atmosphere?

what do you want out of a job?

what makes a job enjoyable for you?

what is your greatest strength? worst deficiency?

how do you take direction?

what do you do when things are slow at work?

what do you do when you’re having trouble solving a problem?

what kinds of decisions do you find particularly hard to make?

why is it important to prioritize?

why do you think you’ll be successful in this job?

what are your goals - both short term and long term?

how do you cope with the inevitable stresses and pressures of the job?

what kinds of things would you want to avoid in future jobs?

what reservations do you have about working here?

what ways do you find work interferes with your personal life?

define cooperation.

how can we best reward you for doing a good job?

2017 MONTHLY CALENDAR PRINTABLES!

Seeing so many printables on tumblr, I’ve finally made my own!!!! Here are 3 designs that I made (from scratch) and love love love- now you can download your own for free too!

Each month has 3 designs you can download as JPG files:

Google Drive 2017 Printables

If you try these out and love it as much as I do, tag me with #heyaestudier and I’ll reblog as many as I can! (Disclaimer- These are all made by @aestudier and is for personal use only.)

A side note: THANK YOU FOR 17k+! I started this study blog almost a year ago not knowing how well it would go and that I would meet some of the most inspiring people here ~~ It blows my mind that there are over 17,000 people that view my stuff !!! ｡：ﾟﾟ(´∀｀)･｡

How do you find the motivation to study?

Hi there lovely! Oh, goodness, motivation can be such a tricky thing, can’t it? I’ll be honest with you: it took me the longest time to realise that I wasn’t always going to be motivated to study. I mean, sure, there’s the days where things go exactly as you planned and you cross a million things off your to-do list - which, in turn, makes you super motivated - but it’s mostly about the days where you just can’t seem to find any motivation to get anything done. 

So here are some tips to get you through days like that:

Write it off as a “Dark Day”. When things get super overwhelming and you can’t find any motivation to get anything done and it’s possible, it might be time to have a break. Don’t do anything, and just enjoy time with a good book or your favourite TV show and your favourite snacks - have a dark day! Sometimes, it’s just what you need and I’m a really big advocate for taking days off!!

Try the Pomodoro method. Okay, so you might not always be in the position to take a day off but you still need to get stuff done and you’re super unmotivated. One of the things that’s always helped me on days like that is the Pomodoro method. Basically, you set a timer for 25 minutes and commit to studying for just 25 minutes. Don’t do anything else. Just sit down and study. I’ve found that getting started usually helps me get into the groove and say, okay, I’ve already started, let’s continue. You can also start with 10 to 15 minutes, if you feel more comfortable with that.

If neither works, promise yourself a reward. Sometimes, it’s as simple as saying, okay, self, so that thing you’ve been coveting forever? You get it if you study all week. All week, no excuses, just sit down and get your work done.

I’ve also got a whole tag dedicated to motivation - I hope this helps a little! xx

sehun is unlikely to let this one go

Take the time to love yourself, okay? :))

gentle reminder for when you feel demotivated

there’s nothing wrong with feeling demotivated, so please don’t punish yourself for that – everyone, even the most successful people in the world, can fall into a slump

you can do it

i believe in you

it’s not going to be as bad as you think

don’t place too high expectations on yourself, especially when you’re feeling low

set small and specific goals – little steps are always important

print out or write down what you need to do and put that note where you know you’re going to see it

set yourself a specific time for when you’re going to start working on something, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself if you’re unable to

see what others are doing and achieving, and use that as motivation instead of comparing yourself to them and putting yourself down

call for help from others to cheer you on when you can’t do it on your own

counter your negative thoughts with positive ones

think about the benefits of doing the task, instead of the difficulties it will take to get there

take deep breaths and take a step back when things become too overwhelming or the stress takes over (here’s a written breathing exercise, or a gif you can breathe along with)

take breaks, don’t overload yourself

if you think that your schedule is becoming more and more of the same thing every single day, that can heavily impact your motivation - so try your best to try something new, or even just do something that you would usually do in a different way, or with a different outlook; it doesn’t matter if the change you make is big or small, because every attempt goes towards progress

when you’ve completed what you needed to, or even just worked at it a little bit, make sure to congratulate yourself, because you’re trying and i’m so proud of you for that

try your best, because your best is good enough

you got this