It's very often far easier to care for others:
than to be the one to receive care:
The latter is often scarier; you feel a lot more exposed and vulnerable. And it doesn't require competence. It requires that you just "be" and sit with the emotions, some of which can be in waves, very foreign, and difficult to handle. Whereas when you're looking after someone, you at least feel a sense of control and that you're achieving something.
Many abused kids would rather believe they themselves are bad or not good enough:
than believe their caregiver has wronged/violated them and will continue to do so:
It's less frightening to believe you are unlovable than believe your parent/guardian does not show you love.
The latter would be too much to handle and would change their world in an instant once they entertain such a belief. Too much to handle, maybe till they're as ready as they may be.
Perhaps all this is what Season 3 might look into, since it'll surely be exploring the Grimwalkers and Caleb further, which inevitably links back to Hunter. His trust is healing in that he can be there for Gus and his friends. But will he receive more and more love as he looks deeper into his pain?
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What if Beths original Rick is the one that killed our Ricks Beth and Diane?
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i fucking love that c!tommy is aggressively a Teenager because. gafghafsga. in general if you were a teenage character in a piece of media but you were hard to love? if you weren’t the cowed, polite, and quiet type but you acted in all the “negative” or “ugly” ways teenagers do sometimes? you get like. vitually no depth or sympathy or any redeeming qualities. c!tommy, for example, has a lot of these less palatable trauma responses — lashing out, rebelling, cursing, not listening to authority, talking back, fighting, generally things that are rough and abrasive — so he basically gets crucified as “throwaway destructive lost cause who likes being an asshole.” with no depth and zero humanity like a lot of characters do. it really unfairly vilifies a lot of things that he does because he’s hurt that are really just poor coping mechanisms and boil it down to “teenager does bad things because they are a teenager and they are immature and dumb.” and look. i am not saying you should be forgiven automatically for hurting people just because it’s a coping mechanism. this goes for teenagers too. i’m just saying, a little understanding goes a long way. tommy is usually mean/destructive to himself or in relatively harmless ways or as a defense against people he perceives as trying to hurt him or those who have more power. he consistently regrets it and tries to make amends. it’s not for no reason. a lot of it is just from being confused and hurt with no guidance. teens are usually not assholes for the hell of it.
i really like that c!tommy is allowed to be a little shit and a bit of an asshole who scams and fights and questions authority and lashes out and makes mistakes but also it’s well understood that he has a heart of gold? that he tries his best? that he loves his friends? that he feels lost and alone and hurt and he’s not just destructive because he’s “immature” or for the fucking fun of it, but because he had to learn how to survive? that he feels like he has the weight of the world on his shoulders and everyone who was supposed to look out for him left him behind? that he genuinely wants to be good? he has a very quintessential growing up story and i love it so much. it’s important to me that c!tommy is allowed to be imperfectly a kid — clumsy, mean, loud, scared, angry — and also shown to be incredibly big-hearted and brave and human. his character sends the message of “just because you’re a kid who fucks up sometimes, doesn’t mean you aren’t deserving of love.” and “teenagers can be dicks sometimes but that doesn’t mean they don’t care about things or try to be good.” like he can be an Annoying Teenager and also full of love. that coexists. and i think that’s epic.
Chainsaw Man Cards
september 29, 1998 ⋯ the cop inside me died that day.
Oshi no Ko - Opening Theme "Idol" by YOASOBI Jacket Illustration. Release: 21 June 2023
Since its that time of year again, I’ve been thinking about Over the Garden Wall, and I think one of my favorite things about it is that, other than the fact that they’re lost in some strange woods, their problems are so normal. Like, in so many shows the problems are things like “both of my parents are dead and their last wish was for me to do this really emotionally taxing life long quest” or whatever, but Wirts biggest problem is that he cant tell a girl that he likes her, and that his mom somewhat recently remarried, and his half brother is kind of annoying in that little kid way. They’re just such normal problems, and it feels like its one of the few heroes journey sort of tales where the main character is just some kid. Hes not some chosen one, hes not the most popular kid at school, but hes obviously not outcast because pretty much everyone who sees him in the Halloween episode greets him in a friendly way and try to include him. He’s just a normal kid, but he still has these unique little traits that make him interesting, like that he plays clarinet, and writes poetry, and is kind of a pushover but is also really passive aggressive when he wants to be. Its just such a good show, and every time I rewatch it I find another little thing that I love about it.