Let-me-be-ace - The Ace Me

I bought a silicone ring from Knot Theory on Amazon. I abuse the hell out of my hands and I ruined six different rings until I found Knot Theory. They even come in different colors.

new ace and aro rings!! honestly i just want a whole bunch of different pairs to wear every day and alternate and stuff

made by wrapping old, tarnished, too big rings with embroidery floss. it does make them a bit smaller tho. these originally fit onto my thumb (i dont have very thick thumbs tho) and now theyre pretty much perfect on my middle fingers, plus the traction of the thread prevents them from falling down, although i have a feeling they might wear the inside of the surrounding fingers raw. oh well, ill see.

I keep going back to watch this video it just captures my sense of humour perfectly

let’s play a game

how to win: try to guess if i’m a lesbian or not...

how to play: too bad i don’t discuss my sexuality at work, i’m your manager and it’s inappropriate but solid effort with your attempt at discreet questions 

Every time a post on queerplatonic relationships makes its way around tumblr, the comments are inevitably filled with a flood of “IT’S CALLED FRIENDSHIP” or “WHY DO YOU NEED A WORD FOR THIS.”

Do you honestly think society regards friendship as an acceptable substitute for romance and marriage?  The thing is, most aros would LOVE if it could just be called friendship.

Because that would mean a world where:

Friendships are considered equal to or sometimes *SHOCK HORROR* more important than romantic relationships.  This is not an exceptional occurrence.

Romantic partners know that they might not be their datemate’s Most Important Person and are not bothered by this.

People commonly plan major life events around their friends up to and including housing, finances, employment, ect.

It is common for people to be in their 30s, 40s, 50s, hell even old age having lived with friends that entire time and no one has ever asked them why they’re not married.

It is common for people to have a committed lifelong partnership with their friend and no one bats an eye.

Having a life friend is considered something that can be regarded as equally close to marriage.  It is also taken just as seriously.

Until the day that those are true, friendship is unfortunately not an accurate word to convey the types of relationships we’re talking about. 

Having fun with my button maker

Oh the breakup phone calls. How I loath them. I've received so many and talked about so many breakups (weirdly always when I'm sleeping) I thought for a while that I was just jaded instead of aromantic. Now I know it's both.

Social events with friends are slowly turning into a study in frustration and loneliness. An evening with friends now include their partners. Don’t get me wrong they are great people (the partners); but a girl can only accept witnessing so many public displays of affection before she feels really uncomfortable and fairly ignored. I’ve even been skipped on the invitation list because I would arrive unattached. Worse, friends have canceled plans with me because their partner has suddenly become available. I thought I felt loneliness before but this is a whole new level.

this is my FB cover photo, i have zero mention on what the colors are supposed to mean so only anyone already in the know will understand. baby steps

Low key wanna shake things up and make it general knowledge via Facebook that I’m asexual but low key not ready to find out how many of my friends don’t think I exist so

#current mood