They’re Not Sending Their Best

Can’t reblog the post going round containing these two screenshots:

So I’ll put my addition here:

This also applies to women who complain about feminism requiring them to work, rather than being ‘ladies of leisure’. Women equivalent to them in the past always worked - who do they think were the maids, housekeepers, cooks, nannies, wet nurses, governesses, washerwomen, spinners, weavers, seamstresses, nurses, midwives, etc - and today’s equivalent of the past’s ladies of leisure can afford to be ladies of leisure now. Feminism fought for women’s work to be acknowledged, valued, and fairly paid, and that fight is still ongoing.

I mean, ‘all work is slavery under capitalism’ is REALLY compatible with ‘“sex work” is bad.’ Like, the obvious logical points would be ‘all work is coerced/slavery in a system where you have to work to eat and live -> coerced sex is rape -> ‘sex work’ is rape and should be abolished.’ It’s inconsistent to say, ‘all work is bad… Except for ‘sex work’. Without a really good reason why this is the one kind that’s not coercive.

i hate when i’m talking to a leftist about why i hate prostitution as a feminist and they hit me with the “all work is slavery under capitalism, you just have a moralistic view of sex” as if i’d disagree.

capitalism is literally antithetical to radical feminism, and i was socialist before i was a radical feminist.

also, why wouldn’t i have a moralistic view of sex? i have a moralistic view of everything; i think everything we do is political, and that includes the kind of sex we have and the rape we find socially acceptable. duh.

to keep it simple, i don't think any abuser deserves the privilege of being able to go "but im sorry!!" and be forgiven by the internet for what they did. i dont think any victim should have to see their abuser be put on a pedestal. only victims can forgive our abusers. and we do not have to

"separatism/anti-natalism is so unrealistic. it won't fix the problem." okay and marrying men worked? bearing their children worked? educating them worked? transing your gender worked? did the patriarchy stop when you wore eyeliner "sharp enough to kill a man"? did it stop when you got a mastectomy? did it come to a screeching halt when you said "sex work is work" and "not all men"? bffr

"We're all born naked the rest is just drag." Doesn't it get tiring? Performing every day of your life for other people, waiting for their applause or boos in judgement, needing to know if you have correctly performed the part of (gender). At least drag people are getting paid for that shit, you're doing it for free. Fuck, you have to pay for it. Backstage is so limited and isolating when the world is a stage.

Most Radfems and the like don’t respect DNIs- which I honestly think kind of sucks in its own way. You don’t owe me or anyone your time or attention and I’m not owed access to your blog. A DNI is a polite request to respect a boundary and you- the person reading this- your right to your own space and your own boundaries matters. Never let anyone make you believe the lines that you place don’t matter.

Sometimes I respond to posts on my for you out of habit though and don’t check blogs beforehand. If I break your DNI, I’m sorry especially if I do so in a way that triggers you. Please curate your online experiences as needed.

”No one is saying you have to-“

Well ignoring the last post that literally said, ‘there is no version of no to a penis that I consider morally acceptable’ - when you call something an ‘-ist’ or ‘ic’ you’re making a negative value assessment of a behavior. If I said, ‘that’s misogynistic’ it is saying that the behavior negatively impacts female people and there’s a moral obligation to change it.

So when you call refusing sex an ‘-ist’ or ‘-ic’ act you are saying there is a moral obligation to have sex with people based on a given trait.

See the thing here is I kind of wish there were numbers on this. If there were numbers that said, “If given the option non trans people would chose to stay their sex regardless of oppression” than there’d actually be something here. But instead it’s just a weird anecdote that even within itself acknowledges that people say ‘yes’ but denies that that yes is anything but a lie. Followed by a failure to acknowledge that some female and LG (no B here because they’d face oppression on the basis of same sex attraction either direction) people might not ‘just chose to transition out of their oppression’ because without a surgery that won’t actually magically change your sex and will fuck up your body, everyone will be able to tell anyway.

Dear god, I thought shitty modern art would stop at "banana taped to a wall" but now it's escalated to "keep three piglets caged in an art gallery and make them slowly starve to death in front of audiences".

they've been doing that sort of thing for a while, there was one maybe ten years ago where someone displayed a bunch of individual goldfish in powered blenders that the audience could choose to turn on or not

the thing about this sort of stuff though is that the audience response and the audience response TO the audience response is also part of the art, so "me beating your ass in an art gallery for liquifying a fish in front of me" is now a commentary on the the place of individual choice in a larger society.

also someone broke in and stole those piglets, which is an even funnier response, because now this art piece is a commentary on general human decency and there's nothing the artist can do about it

not even lukewarm but cold take: if you're a childfree woman that experiences opposite sex attraction you should only be with men that are VEHEMENTLY child-free. Men who get a vasectomy or refuse to have any sort of sex without protection. Any man that's on the fence while you're strongly convinced about the fact that you do not want children, will eventually turn on you and want children.