If You Sincerely Want Me To Fuck Off, Say It Again In The Next Reply Or Don’t Reply At All. It Seems

I don’t care if a woman is amongst the worst human beings to walk this earth, if you believe that writing or imagining rape and sexually violent fantasies is an acceptable response to their actions you should stay far away from women. I don’t care if they’re transgender-exclusive, I don’t care if they’re conservative, I don’t care if they’re a criminal. Your fantasies reflect what you’re capable of thinking about all women.

In the spring of 2023, several news outlets reported the heart-warming story of a fourteen-year-old autistic boy who made a poster and presented it to a female classmate, asking her to be his valentine. The girl said no, whereupon the boy's mother took to social media, recounting the tale and emphasising just how 'shy and socially awkward' her son was. The story got national attention and 'the next day at school, a number of [the boy's] classmates approached him with kind words and offers to be his valentine'. One girl 'presented him with a poster like the one he had made to ask the girl the day before'. He became a high-status victim, at least for a day; the girl he had initially asked out, a heartless bully. Yet what exactly had had she been supposed to do? Say yes when she didn't want to in order to spare him humiliation?

The story illustrates many of the problems with 'just' being kind. In the eyes of some, the boy's autism elevated him above the other boys who pressure girls to do things they do not want. His shyness and social awkwardness were problems the original girl could have solved simply by saying yes. Maybe she judged boys like him just because they were different. Her rejection became, not a simple expression of her desires – just as his choice to ask her, rather than another girl, had been – but a judgment on his worth as a human being, one which the rest of the world set about correcting. To some, the boy had a right to kindness and validation which the girl was withholding. But what of her right to have her needs respected? There's a suggestion that while all girls have the right to say no, it would make life a lot easier if they could train themselves not to, coupled with the old message that girls are better than boys at manipulating their desires – see how many of them were willing to approach the boy the next day! There's so much prejudice in the world, but if girls agreed to offer themselves to the boys who felt most left out, we'd have begun the work of removing it. Taken to its logical conclusion, this is incel thinking.

– Victoria Smith (2025) (Un)kind: How 'Be Kind' Entrenches Sexism, pp. 105-6.

‘This is just like if there was pushback against not being attracted to <insert any other kind of person>’

Yeah I actually find those, ‘if you find yourself not attracted to <group> check yourself’ posts gross too actually. I’m a believer in radical consent: You’re allowed to say no at any time, to any person, for any reason and no one should ever be shamed for denying someone access to their body. Sorry if that upsets people but I’m not sorry for holding to that belief.

Criticizing the flaws of your own side does not automatically make you a member of the oppressor. I am not anti-black if I point out that the Blank Panthers were hypocritical and violent towards their own womyn. I am not a conservative for pointing out that the left is too obsessed with perfect victims and perfect representatives. I am not anti-feminist for pointing out that womyn often play a part in their own oppression.

If you think in black and white like this, you are asking people to ride on a boat with weak spots in the name of blind solidarity.

What the actual FUCK.

NPR.org

What Happens When A Country Bans Spanking?

Researchers look at countries that have prohibited corporal punishment for kids and their rate of youth violence.

Now a new study looking at 400,000 youths from 88 countries around the world suggests such bans are making a difference in reducing youth violence. It marks the first systematic assessment of whether an association exists between a ban on corporal punishment and the frequency in which adolescents get into fights. 

Can’t reblog the post going round containing these two screenshots:

So I’ll put my addition here:

This also applies to women who complain about feminism requiring them to work, rather than being ‘ladies of leisure’. Women equivalent to them in the past always worked - who do they think were the maids, housekeepers, cooks, nannies, wet nurses, governesses, washerwomen, spinners, weavers, seamstresses, nurses, midwives, etc - and today’s equivalent of the past’s ladies of leisure can afford to be ladies of leisure now. Feminism fought for women’s work to be acknowledged, valued, and fairly paid, and that fight is still ongoing.

When people die, others tend to ignore all the bad they did and act like they're saints.

So I just wanted to say that the catholic church protects pedophiles