It Really Speaks To The Continued Expectation Of Women’s Emotional Labour And Physical Sacrifice That

"For the last few years I’ve been trying an experiment. I speak at a lot of feminist events, and often these involve an all-female panel. Often, a man pops up in the Q&A, or buttonholes me afterwards to ask why feminism has to make men feel so unwelcome. Aren’t men’s contributions valuable? Absolutely, I cry with all the fake enthusiasm I can muster – and there is one, huge contribution that men can make to feminism: the washing up. Or the laundry, I’m easy. Or going part-time while the kids are small.

At this point, the light in their eyes tends to die. It turns out that when they said they wanted men to be involved in feminism, what they actually meant was “have someone listen to their ideas about what feminists are currently doing wrong”. Not do a load of boring unpaid work in return for absolutely zero praise."

-Yes, there is one great contribution men can make to feminism: pick up a mop, by Helen Lewis

why can't i mock your religion lmao U literally think i'm going to hell

I struggle to throw myself into traditional black power spaces not just because they are either unrealistic or overly confident in the power of assimilation. But because in a lot of instances, one of the most core issues is not being properly addressed or solved: the safety and prosperity of black womyn.

Too many times, these groups want to reestablish conservative control of womyn (stay home, have babies, "the black family," stop "acting like a man",) but just hang a pan african flag on them. Never mind that in so many instances, the first man to hurt a black womyn is a black man. Be that in parental neglect, sexual abuse, public degradation, and the ever popular sport of comparing black womyn to other races of womyn. You want this "black family" to preserve the black culture in the U.S. and want to restructure the very framework of the U.S. (which, yes, good) but don't want to chide and punish the men in the movement who are able to commit violence of varying forms against black womyn without much more than a "be better, my brother" or telling his victims to forgive.

I'll get more into traditional black power groups when the black men start whoopin the asses of the other black men abusing their "black queens." But until then, the only black power movements I'm interested in are the ones led by and, at this point, entirely composed of black womyn.

here’s your reminder that a lot of the violence against women and homosexuals in africa is perpetuated by white christian missionaries.

white christian missionaries are responsible for the death penalty of homosexuals in uganda. they keep going over there and reinforcing the believe of homosexuality being a sin.

it’s their fault that some african girls and women have experienced unfathomable acts of violence — by constantly influencing them to engage in purity culture.

death to christian missionaries and anytime they go to a country or tribe where they are not welcome and get killed for it, i laugh and smile. :) remember to persecute your local evangelical fundie. <3

Yea, next question.

… Food metaphors really are perfect. You don’t like raisin cookies and do like chocolate chip cookies. Your friend baked cookies, ‘oooo chocolate chips cookies!’ You’d say. If your friend is good and cares about you having a good time eating they’d say, ‘actually these are raisin cookies’, but instead they say nothing leaving you to go, ‘oh- these are raisin cookies, sorry I don’t actually like raisins.’

‘But you like cookies, you’ve eaten other cookies before I’ve seen you.’

‘I like chocolate chip cookies. Sorry.’

‘But the dough is really good and it’s well baked!’

‘Raisins really just ruin the experience of eating a cookie.’

non-transfem lesbians are always trying to tell me why it's actually fine for them to have genital preference but for some reason I never hear any of them saying "I would be so grossed out if I had to fuck a vagina"

The appeal to tradition is so funny- the amount of people who the past was good for is so small. "It's been around for ages" a lot of terrible shit has! Slavery wasn't a new invention, it existed for ages. Marital rape existed for ages. Dictatorships and monarchies existed for ages. The past is filled with hot garbage.

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[TW rape mention, sa mention, sex work]

so people who can see the exploitation of women in industry and they don't like it are "puritans" now. What's the point we missed? That women are sold into this industry, forced, and raped on camera? What's the point we missed? How can you be sure that these women aren't on drugs? I saw an interview with few of the sex workers and one said that she couldn't do that until she was on drugs and all her colleagues endured it and received physical and psychological traumas. What's the point we missed?

Y'all will be "listen to sex workers!" Until thousands of them come out and say they were exploited, abused, and traumatized, and then you tell them to "shut up!" and just ignore their experience, you are not "progressive", you just hate victims and women.

‘Why I never want babies’

An increasing number of South Korean women are choosing not to marry, not to have children, and not even to have relationships with men. With the lowest fertility rate in the world, the country’s population will start shrinking unless something changes.

“I have no plans to have children, ever,” says 24-year-old Jang Yun-hwa, as we chat in a hipsterish cafe in the middle of Seoul.

“I don’t want the physical pain of childbirth. And it would be detrimental to my career.”

Like many young adults in South Korea’s hyper-competitive job market, Yun-hwa, a web comic artist, has worked hard to get where she is and isn’t ready to let all that hard graft go to waste.

“Rather than be part of a family, I’d like to be independent and live alone and achieve my dreams,” she says.

…

When I put it to her that if she and her contemporaries don’t have children her country’s culture will die, she tells me that it’s time for the male-dominated culture to go.

“Must die,” she says, breaking into English. “Must die!”

"Your rights as women are inextricably tied with the rights of other minority groups, which means your liberation is too" Sure, makes sense, but why is it that I literally never see anyone saying this about other minority groups' liberation movements without getting (rightfully) smacked down for trying to All Lives Matter a minority-specific issue? This literally only happens with feminism. Bffr.