My Life Was Never The Same After Reading “the Only Trick Of Friendship, I Think, Is To Find People

the idea that your friends won't like you if you're too weird is wrong for example one time I told a friend whenever I was losing my mind I laid down on the floor under my desk and stared at it until I was better and next time she visited me she taped a bag of salami snacks to the underside of my desk with a message saying "going insane all by yourself, handsome?" which I only saw months later when I had a breakdown. that's friendship.

—The Picture of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde

mmm can’t wait for my next cigarette

Fun history facts: One of the 31 people arrested at Stonewall on June 28th 1969 was American folk singer Dave Van Ronk, who was not at the Stonewall Inn at the time and was cis & straight as far as I'm aware. He'd been eating dinner at a nearby restaurant when he noticed a riot happening, said "Well I suppose I should go see what the fuss is about," stepped outside, and immediately started throwing bricks at the cops.

literally i have so many issues and problems but that’s not going to stop me from being kind to people. i’m not bringing that on others unprompted. it takes so little and can mean so much. you have to fucking be kind. we are not making it out alive without common courtesy and compassion

honestly, why is the only language we have for sexual trauma that of rape and assault? there are so many kinds of sexual trauma that are done a genuine disservice by trying to grapple with them using the language of rape.

there's "i consented to this for self-destructive reasons," there's "i didn't know what i was consenting to because i didn't have enough experience to tell that i would be upset by this thing," there's "i initiated something that i now regret," there's dozens, even hundreds, of sexual situations that are traumatic and that need community support and care and some real trauma work to heal from, that just aren't accurately described by the language we have to discuss rape.

and like, trying to shoehorn them in under the umbrella of rape and assault often does a disservice to the victims trying to heal--trying to cast a sexual partner as a malicious perpetrator retroactively is often really psychologically damaging to someone who is experiencing a complex trauma around an experience they consented to, especially when the trauma victim themselves initiated the experience.

Nobody is immune to the neck kiss

i finished a little life 💔💔💔

“Give your friendships the magic you would give a romance. Because they're just as important. Actually, for us, they're way more important.”

- Loveless, Alice Oseman (2020)

people who upload movies online for free shouldn't face legal action they should get their peanus sucked everyday.....??