Literally I Have So Many Issues And Problems But That’s Not Going To Stop Me From Being Kind To People.

this actually is rewiring my brain as we speak

there’s got to be at least one trans woman named eve out there whose deadname is adam. and she’s the funniest person to ever grace this earth with her presence.

i want to personally thank etc for being there for me when i don't feel like listing more things

i can't wait to be 60 so i can tell my life story in the youtube comments section of my favorite songs

sometimes i think the world is bad and everything is awful and then i read something nice that someone has written and it’s like… ok… maybe there is some joy in this stupid world… might fuck around and take pleasure in the little things…

—The Picture of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde

The pain is more incredibly annoying than unbearable

Harry Potter 20th Anniversary: Return to Hogwarts (2022)

honestly, why is the only language we have for sexual trauma that of rape and assault? there are so many kinds of sexual trauma that are done a genuine disservice by trying to grapple with them using the language of rape.

there's "i consented to this for self-destructive reasons," there's "i didn't know what i was consenting to because i didn't have enough experience to tell that i would be upset by this thing," there's "i initiated something that i now regret," there's dozens, even hundreds, of sexual situations that are traumatic and that need community support and care and some real trauma work to heal from, that just aren't accurately described by the language we have to discuss rape.

and like, trying to shoehorn them in under the umbrella of rape and assault often does a disservice to the victims trying to heal--trying to cast a sexual partner as a malicious perpetrator retroactively is often really psychologically damaging to someone who is experiencing a complex trauma around an experience they consented to, especially when the trauma victim themselves initiated the experience.