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You all need to be reminded that Queerplatonic Relationships are long term committed relationships that originated from aromantic people who want the consistency and loyalty in romantic relationships without the expectations of performing romance. If you don't want to commit to a platonic relationship, then you don't want a QPR ("platonic" word here is used as the opposite of "romantic" instead of "sexual" because some queerplatonic partners can be sexual and others can be non-sexual).

QPR is not just a quirky term for intense emotional friendship because any friendship can have that intimacy but not all friends commit to each other in the way that makes the relationship queer. The queerness in queerplatonic means we have a relationship that's so devoted and yet platonic because we are debunking amatonormativity here that dictates to us (by society) that romantic relationships must be the priority.

If you just want to kiss and hug your friends and hold their hands or anything else intimate but you don't think you can be committed to that friendship, it's not queerplatonic relationship you want. If you're misusing queerplatonic term, you're erasing the meaning of this word that helps aromantic people communicate our boundaries, expectations and experiences as queer people. Please just respect us. Treating QPR like it's just a "friendship" is as rude as treating it as "romance lite". I want a commitment but no romo. It's that simple.

Friendly reminder that Will Byers biked home from his best friend Mike’s house one night only to be run off the road by a monster, chased through the woods, fled to his shed and gripped a gun with shaky hands to defend himself, only for all of that to be for nothing, and taken to a strange, dark world with no one else around where he had to fend off and hide from other monsters. A friendly reminder that he survived an entire week there by sheer willpower, something no one else has ever done before. A friendly reminder that he did all of that while looking like this.

some of u reblog the most ableist posts without even realizing n it's so sad.

"you're depressed bc ur an adult who doesn't exercise n u only eat pre-made meals which is also why ur in pain all the time" bruh have u heard of being disabled? if i exercise i will get worse. regardless of food (which takes a lot of time/money/energy to prepare, not to mention food restrictions some of us need to find a way around!!) or exercise i am still in pain every day.

i was in pain when i played basketball at a national level at 14 and when i ran over 1h every day and also went to the gym at 21 and when i rode my bike a minimum of 40km up and down hills daily at 23 AND i am in less pain now at 25 bc I've learned not to push my body beyond it's limit.

"you're depressed because adult humans need to have sex" like that's the most ridiculous take I've ever heard lmao maybe U need to have sex to avoid depression and maybe some of us cannot have sex for traumatic reasons which will trigger even more depression. maybe things aren't black n white u should not be spreading such misinformation?

i beg yall ableds to pick up a book on the relation between trauma & pain & capitalism and also, while I'm at it, to fucking stop putting neurodivergencies on the same level as for e.g. spinal cord injuries. it ain't the same!

obviously a balanced diet + physical exercise can seriously improve some people's lives but not all of us have the capacity to make that happen. not all of us have the self sufficiency let alone external help to enjoy such privileges. just... be kinder & be careful with the info ur putting out there?

Tbh I feel like a lot more trans mlw would want to identify as transhet if yall didn't treat straight trans men like absolute shit. Like, me and multiple other transmascs I know tried to force ourselves to be comfortable identifying as a lesbian because we didn't want to become straight men, friends had told us we better not end up being straight men, we didn't want to lose our queer identity but straight masculinity is seen as incompatible with queerness. So we tried being lesbian trans men. And exclusionists would rather scream "male lesbians are bad and evil" than address and try to dismantle the transandrophobia that leads so many trans mlw to identify as lesbians rather than straight trans men.

(For clarity, not all lesbian trans men identify that way out of external pressure or internalized transandrophobia, and i don't think every one of them should switch to identifying as a straight trans man. I just find it interesting that exclusionists would rather spew hate than actually help trans mlw)

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When I knew Will was gay in 2016, during the first party scene, it wasn't because of some stereotype. It wasn't anything he said or the way he looked or his mannerisms or whatever.

There are just certain behaviors that a queer person can recognise for what it is. That simple act of telling Mike it was a seven behind the party's back told me all I needed to know.

Because as a queer person, I've done that.

I've looked for that extra attention, that special connection, that idea of 'us two against everything else', even our other friends. Especially at that age, when you didn't even know yet what it meant.

And sure, it could be nothing, there could technically be another explanation. But ultimately it's a clear as day sign of young love as Lucas and Dustin stalking Max. Specifically, young queer love, which looks slightly different from heterosexual crushes.

So yeah, when straight people are able to 'tell' whether a person is queer it's usually based on stereotypes, because they could never get it, but that doesn't mean it's the same for queer people. That's ultimately what 'gaydar' has always been - recognising behaviors that make you go "oh they're like me" not the typical "oh they're wearing this" or "floppy hands" or whatever. Not "oh they cuff their jeans!" or "finger guns!".

That's why 'Byler is the gay ship for gay people' - queer people recognise their behavior for what it is. That's why the GA can't connect with Mike.

They can't fathom the fact that Mike wouldn't call Will at all if he had a crush on him. But as a queer person, you recognize how figuring out your feelings often means distancing yourself from them. Both because you're fighting your queerness and because it just hurts to be around them, even - especially - if they are your best friend.