To all the aphobes who say queerplatonic relationships aren’t real, who say we’re the ones who make friendships out to be less than, let me tell you something:
I love my friends, from the bottom of my heart, I love my friends, I’ve told them that, on multiple occasions
I’ve cuddled with friends, I’m a cuddly person, unless it’s a friend who isn’t big on touching, I’ll cuddle them and hug them, I like being close to people, it’s where I feel comfortable and my friends know that
I’ll sit in my friends laps, usually when there are no other seats available and we both want to sit, sometimes just because
I’ve shared beds with my friends, I really don’t get why this is awkward for some people, I heard people freak out over the idea of sharing a bed with anyone other than their romantic/sexual partner, you’re literally just sleeping next a person, why is it a big deal
Every present I get my friends is chosen with care, none of that last minute, didn’t even bother wrapping it crap, one of my friends and I actually have a tradition of handmade gifts, not that I don’t hand make gifts for my other friends, but we exclusively give handmade gifts to each others, it’s kinda our thing
I share deeply personal things about myself with my friends and they do the same, we are each others emotional anchors
I recently had a friend cut me out of their life, no reason given, no good-bye said, we’ve known each other over a decade and I had to find out they left the country from a family member, it broke my heart, I’m still in pain over it, I really loved them and it hurts deep to know they didn’t feel the same
My friends mean the world to me, they are some of the most important people in my life and I feel so lucky to have each of them, but:
I don’t plan on permanently living with any of them
I don’t plan on having a joint bank account with any of them
I don’t plan on raising kids with them
I don’t plan on making all my all my life plans with them
If things change, if I wanted this with one of my friends, I wouldn’t consider it a friendship anymore, it’s something different
Not more than, not less than, different
I love my friends with my whole heart, wanting a life partner doesn’t change that
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you dont have to answer this if you dont want to, but i was wondering how your could be aroace and bi?
Oh no, this is a perfectly okay question to ask! I’m fine talking about it.
So I think you’ve probably heard by now that asexuality and aromanticism are both on a spectrum.
I’m guessing you’ve at least heard of greysexuality (extremely rare instances of attraction) and demisexuality (attraction being experienced only after forming a strong connection with someone, and an inability to be attracted to strangers or people you don’t know well like most people can be)
In my case, I’m 100% asexual and never experience sexual attraction at all.
My romantic orientation and aesthetic attraction (the types of people I simply find nice to look at) on the other hand are a bit more complicated.
The best way I could be described probably would be greyromantic. I almost never get crushes on people and I’m probably attracted to people less often than most, but I’ve still had crushes and stuff before.
However, I know from experience that in those rare instances that I have left romantic and aesthetic attraction, it has been towards more than one gender, which would therefor make my attraction bi.
But instead of saying that I’m a grey-biromantic asexual, I prefer to just say that I’m bi aroace because I just find it easier and shorter.
I’m also not afraid to openly talk about experiences being bi, on the aro spectrum, and being asexual on their own because I am in fact all three of those things.
I hope that answers your question as to why you might sometimes see aroaces with an additional orientation.
If AO3 had a dark mode version, I would probably never stop reading
gender, sexuality, and the lack thereof
props to @crowbian for their amazing zine
Where did the hype go? We can’t stop now guys.
I am an aroace person who knows that if they could, they would have the passion to romantically love enough for a million people.
Gods fear what I would be able to do if I could romantically love.
It would be stronger then the suns, stronger than the seas and the stars.
So I spend my days alone knowing if I could, I would love so hard the world would buckle under the weight of my sheer will.
So, the next time you think of yourself as an alien, for not loving, don’t.
Your romantic love would be too strong to let exist in the world.
You are no less human then they are. You just would love too strong for the world to withstand.
Delinquents 💀👽
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