My Parents When Pregnant With Me (probably): We Don’t Care If It’s A Boy Or A Girl. We Just Want

To all the aphobes who say queerplatonic relationships aren’t real, who say we’re the ones who make friendships out to be less than, let me tell you something:

I love my friends, from the bottom of my heart, I love my friends, I’ve told them that, on multiple occasions

I’ve cuddled with friends, I’m a cuddly person, unless it’s a friend who isn’t big on touching, I’ll cuddle them and hug them, I like being close to people, it’s where I feel comfortable and my friends know that

I’ll sit in my friends laps, usually when there are no other seats available and we both want to sit, sometimes just because

I’ve shared beds with my friends, I really don’t get why this is awkward for some people, I heard people freak out over the idea of sharing a bed with anyone other than their romantic/sexual partner, you’re literally just sleeping next a person, why is it a big deal

Every present I get my friends is chosen with care, none of that last minute, didn’t even bother wrapping it crap, one of my friends and I actually have a tradition of handmade gifts, not that I don’t hand make gifts for my other friends, but we exclusively give handmade gifts to each others, it’s kinda our thing

I share deeply personal things about myself with my friends and they do the same, we are each others emotional anchors

I recently had a friend cut me out of their life, no reason given, no good-bye said, we’ve known each other over a decade and I had to find out they left the country from a family member, it broke my heart, I’m still in pain over it, I really loved them and it hurts deep to know they didn’t feel the same

My friends mean the world to me, they are some of the most important people in my life and I feel so lucky to have each of them, but:

I don’t plan on permanently living with any of them

I don’t plan on having a joint bank account with any of them

I don’t plan on raising kids with them

I don’t plan on making all my all my life plans with them

If things change, if I wanted this with one of my friends, I wouldn’t consider it a friendship anymore, it’s something different

Not more than, not less than, different

I love my friends with my whole heart, wanting a life partner doesn’t change that

He’s got a point, to be honest.

I had a sort of revelation recently. A lot of scenes Ive seen on tv were not as strange as I thought, I just wasnt picking up on the ~sexual tension~ and it made the scenes a lot more awkward and weird than intended lol

mhm yeah I see this played out two ways with aces. Either they are HYPER aware of it or woosh over their heads and it always makes the situation have like a stat boost to awkwardness either way lol 

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Hey, hey. look at me

Bitch.

click for better quality! something a bit different, here's my sdv oc beau 👨‍🌾

TIRED BOYS! 😴👉👈

-The three will sometimes sleep separately- since Kokichi kicks a lot.

-But, they’ve got a huge bed for times when everyone’s feeling more.. tolerable.

-Shuichi and Kokichi fight over who’s in the middle 🥺💕

-“B-But, you got Kaito Cuddles last night!”

-Kaito goes on strange, mumbled rants in his sleep.. 👀 sometimes it’s clear enough for Kokichi and Shuichi to listen in.

-Kaito is always embarrassed when the pair recall his dreams in the morning 😳

-Shuichi’s dreams are.. not as pleasant. He often stirs from nightmares, ranging from a brief, startling disturbance to a full-blown panic attack.

-Kaito and Kokichi are highly skilled at soothing The Detective 😔💕

-Kaito knows how to calm Shuichi, what to say- whereas Kokichi is more there for comfort, rubbing his back, touching his hair.

-Kokichi has spells where he’ll neglect sleep for days, or is extremly restless.

-“Psst.”

-“Kaito.. ‘you awake?”

-“Kokichi.. it’s 3AM.”

-Quite opposite to Kaito and Shuichi, who take frequent naps on the couch.

BONUS!! ⭐️⭐️⭐️

-Kaito has THE BEST bedtime stories.

-There’s little, glow-in-the-dark stars stuck up above they’re bed.. Kokichi likes counting them before sleeping.

-Shuichi needs to sleep under a weighted blanket 🥰 it makes him feel safe.

Confession: An action RPG involving the V3 survivors would legitimately be pretty cool, with them helping out in certain “classes”, with Shuichi learning more combat/equipment forging skills.

watch out for rogue snowballs this winter . happy holidays from emerald trio (: !!

Does anyone else on the arospec feel incredibly isolated from almost everyone? I don’t mean in a, “they can bond over same-sex relationships/being trans” way, I mean in a, “I no longer see things through an amatonormative lens but almost everyone I talk to does” way. 

The entire concept of love has been shifted drastically for me, but for other people, it’s rigid, inflexible, set in stone; romance is romance, friends are friends, there’s a line, it’s absolute, it’s simply the way things are. 

But so much of that confuses me, now. How can something be inherently romantic? How is teasing and complimenting people considered flirting, which is considered being romantically interested in someone? How is acting or looking at someone in a certain way somehow different between friends, lovers, family? How is platonic intimacy considered simply a stepping stone to romance? How is being emotional with people a sign of attraction? How?

I just don’t understand. And not being able to understand these things leaves me isolated from others, sometimes entirely, and it can be so exhausting sometimes. It’s exhausting to always have to justify why you don’t see things the same way they do, because the way they see things is “right” and “that’s just the way things are”, because “it’s a part of being human”. 

And, unfortunately, a lot of that comes from the LGBTQ+ community, especially when it comes fandom spaces. If you speak up about a same-sex/gender couple perhaps not being romantically interested, or you headcanon someone as aro, it’s always, “why does this happen when it’s a sapphic/mlm couple/lesbian/gay headcanon?” 

The implication that we are homophobic because we don’t see love in the same way others do hurts. The way that so many people see fans who want aromantic representation as simply not supporting gay people. Or when we speak up about people continuing to ship a confirmed/implied/coded aromantic character in romantic relationships, and we’re told to “stop taking it so seriously”. 

Arophobia is isolating, and unfortunately, it’s everywhere. The way society has regulated people’s lives, telling us how to be happy, who to be happy with, the rules of happiness, has long-since ingrained internalized arophobia into everyday life, and it’s so hard when you’re aware of it, but can’t do anything about it because no one wants to step away from their easy, comfortable ideals.