“When A Flower Doesnt Bloom, You Fix The Environment In Which It Grows, Not The Flower.”

Sorry to break it to you but you literally have to face your fears and slaughter them. Otherwise you will live a small life that you do not want. You literally have to view your biggest fears and attack them head on. You have to fall into the abyss to find your way out. The easy path does not exist. There is no get out of jail free card. You have to allow yourself to die a spiritual death over and over again in order to reinvent yourself into the person you are actually supposed to be. And you have to be painfully honest with yourself and the people around you. It’s horrible but it’s truly the only way.

me every three seconds when i'm not in the mood for studying:

ꜱᴏᴘʜɪᴀ ᴡᴇʙꜱᴛᴇʀ ᴄʜɪᴀʀᴀ ʟᴇᴀᴛʜᴇʀ ꜱᴀɴᴅᴀʟꜱ 🏹 🩰🦢

You either go for what you want or take what you are given.

You can't mess up anything that is meant for you.

Constant chaos in life will have you confusing peace with boredom. Keep life as simple as you can and find joy in the mundane things. Train yourself to sit in peace and enjoy peace because it is truly a privilege. Not everyone gets to experience it often in their lives.

random make up tip because I was experimenting last night: make your nose look smaller by making your eyes look bigger and your eyebrows looking full. Volumising mascara, falsies only at the ends of your eyes, concealer in the inner corners of your eyes + powder for a very natural look. Draaag it out towards the bridge of your nose and under the beginning of your waterline. bake under eyes, elongated wing and nothing on the waterline. Don’t go for the Nike justdoit eyebrows, but make them fit your face correctly and are as full as your face structure will allow.

this placement of the inner corner thing not with white shimmery eyeshadow but with your concealer and powder.

YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA

You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it

Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle

You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control

When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again

Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body

We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc

You don’t need another explanation

You need a hug

A deep breath

A new boundary

Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault

Because it wasn’t 🤍