Since COVID, I Have Been Working From Home. I Do Miss The Indirect Temptations, Knowing We Both Think

This is the fun and joy I always want in my home. Who wants to dance with me?

What a lovely way to create self confidence.

Honestly, most relationship problems can be solved by a little lipstick. A little lipstick and the idea that it’s his job to lead, and yours to look good for him as you follow.

I'm re-blogging this as a reminder to myself and much as it is informative to others.

Basic Rules for a Dominant

Basic rules for a Dominant

by Whips, Chains & Duct Tape on Saturday, August 25, 2012 at 10:34pm ·

Basic Rules for a Dom (Not written by me)

1. The submissive’s SAFETY will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally.

2. ALWAYS respect and honour a submissive’s safe word and never put him or her in a position to be afraid to use it.

3. Just as submission is a gift to be treasured, Domination is a talent to be mastered so BE educated and experienced at dominating BEFORE you take on the responsibility of another’s life.

4. Don’t be too arrogant to be able to listen and understand your submissive’s viewpoints and needs. You might just learn something from them. After all communication is the foundation of a strong D/s relationship and can not be obtained if it is all one sided.

5. Never punish a submissive by withholding your affection, this is emotional blackmail.

6. Provide guidance and support when needed and stay tuned in to your submissive’s moods. In return you will gain a submissive that is eager to please and serve you because they feel of value.

7. Provide your submissive with negotiated guidelines to stay within and when the submissive steps out of those guidelines CONSISTLY apply punishment.

8. Understand that just as a submissive’s trust must be earned so must a Dominant earn a submissive’s trust. This does not undermine your control but strengthens it.

9. Enjoy and use what is offered to you with kindness, harshness, pain and pleasure and have the wisdom to know when to use each one.

10. Never be too full of pride or blinded by your own “power trip” to admit when you have made a mistake and to even say “I’m sorry”. Just as no submissive is perfect for their Dominant 24 hours a day; no Dominant is perfect either.

11. Don’t be afraid to extend trust. Just as you prove that you are trustworthy only when the submissive trusts you, so you can only develop your submissive’s trustworthiness by being willing to extend trust. Failure to do so may poison the relationship, either by setting the submissive up to “cheat” or by suggesting to the sub that he or she may not *be* trustworthy, or by creating distrust for you in a reciprocal action.

12. Nurture your submissive. The more the submissive knows and can do, the more valuable your sub is to his- or herself as a person, and the more valuable his or her submission to you will become to you both. It is more satisfying to have a strong person trust you by yielding control than to have control over a person who is a “doormat.”

Sigma Male

I figured it out. I’m a Sigma Male personality type. Now I need to find the right lady who wants a Sigma. 

I didn't realize how much I am into recognizing traditional gender roles.

A Wife’s Duty Is To Please Her Husband.

  (After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting)

Always greet him at the door with a cheerful face and a soft, loving voice.

Clean yourself, put on makeup, powder and perfume.

Good news first, grievances (administered gently) after a nice delicious dinner. Always dress to please your husband, and only your husband. No one else.

Reserve a special soft voice that is used only when communicating with your husband.

Always be thinner than necessary to promote fragility.

Dress for your husband. Use the perfume your husband likes.

Don’t dress for other women’s approval.

If you have to clean, cook, or do work that requires physical exertion, wear appropriate clothes, but bathe and change into feminine delicate clothing before your husband returns.

Exchange loving and affectionate words with your husband: always make sure he knows you appreciate his hard work and hsi role as head of the household.

Put your husband’s hopes and interests before yours.

Don’t ask your husband for many unnecessary things. Consider his needs before yours.

Always try to please his guests and his family members.

Do not continue friendships with people he does not want you to be friends with.

Never allow strangers or other men to be alone with you when he is not around.

Always display hospitality to his guests, making them feel comfortable and well attended to.

Be patient in difficult times.

If your husband wants something done, or wants you to do something, do it with a smile. Only say no if you feel it will bring irreparable damage to your body, psyche, and morale.

If your husband is angry, keep silent. Don’t question him or try to find out why he is angry.

Always be the first to apologize.

Apologize for your husband’s distraught at other people’s misdeeds and mistakes

Do not leave the house without his permission. If you have to leave, call him and let him know where you will be.

Don’t be on the defensive when he is in a ill temper or treat you poorly. Always answer with obedience and a submissive desire to put him in a good mood again.

Wishing women could figure this out, the divorce rate would plummet :)

I'm looking forward to the season change. Hey maybe one day, this will be the view of where I live.

I’m beginning to recognize that real happiness isn’t something large and looming on the horizon ahead, but something small, numerous and already here. The smile of someone you love. A decent breakfast. The warm sunset. Your little everyday joys all lined up in a row

Beau Taplin  (via wolozo)

One of the reasons I took up dancing.

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