Been Reading Ur Blog. U Need To Stop Calling Urself A Dom. All This Lovey Crap Makes Real Doms Sick.

A bug on my window screen

There has been a bug on my window screen for 3 days. Every time I look up, it is in a slightly different place. I never see it move. It is like it is waiting for me to look away... QUICK!, he is looking away, move now!!... FREEZE! He is about to look over here!

I'd love to see how wonderful she'd look doing a tango or salsa dance.

10 Reasons I’m a Submissive

(in no particular order)

1. Because his pleasure is my pleasure.

There are lots of things in life that bring me pleasure. A perfectly roasted chicken. Unicorns. Glitter. Tootsie rolls. Fairy lights. Getting an A+. A really good action movie with lots of explosions and guns and violence and goofiness. Debating ridiculous philosophical and political and other stuff with my best friends. Traveling. Getting the perfect messy bun. Literally, the list goes on and on and on.

But nothing brings me pleasure the way that his pleasure does, the way my Dom’s pleasure does. And I’m not just talking about sexual pleasure – I’m talking about all kinds of pleasure. Sucking his cock and taking it all the way down my throat over and over until he feeds me his cum and tells me what a good girl I am for him and getting to revel in the fact that I’ve given him such pleasure that he couldn’t help but cum brings me such tremendous pleasure. But you know what else brings me pleasure? Knowing how pleased he is when I serve him his favorite dinner. Knowing how much it pleases him when I fold his t-shirts the right way. Knowing how much he loves and gets pleasure out of watching me sing along (badly) to my bubblegum pop playlist while I wash the kitchen counters. Watching his face light up when I meet him with a drink and a smile when he gets home from work. Kneeling at his feet and leaning against his leg so he can pet my hair while he reads or watches TV and giving him the comfort of knowing I’m there, knowing I kneel for him, knowing I serve him, knowing I love him, knowing that I’m his with that very simple act.

And when it’s sexual? The way he chuckles when I’m tied to his bed and writhing beneath his touch and whimpering and begging for release? It makes me smile inside. The way it turns him on to deny me? It makes me even wetter. The sick and twisted joy he gets out of ruining an orgasm or denying me one? It makes my girl parts tingle and makes me beg even harder. If he didn’t get pleasure out of the things he did to me? It wouldn’t be the same. I get turned on because of his dirty words and his talented fingers and the way he fucks me until I can’t think straight, sure – but, even more, I get turned on by knowing how much pleasure he gets out of watching me whimper and moan and beg and cry and do what I’m told.

It’s all kinds of pleasure. Any pleasure I give him, any way I please him, any way I make his day better or make him happy or make things just a little bit easier for him brings me pleasure. It pleases me to make him feel good. It makes me happy to know that I’ve made him happy. It makes me feel whole and safe and happy and good to bring him pleasure. It lights me up inside. That’s why I serve him – because pleasing him is what makes me the happiest I can be.

2. Because I crave structure and I crave it from him.

I am a person who craves structure. No, I don’t just crave it – I need it. I do better with rules and limits and a schedule in place.

But here’s the thing – I don’t do well with following the rules and limits and schedule when it’s wholly self-imposed. I can create a structure to follow when I have something to answer to (for example: a job). But when I am wholly left on my own I struggle to maintain that balance and those limits and that structure. I do well with picking one thing to focus on and setting up the structure for that (for example: gym and diet) – but when it comes to creating a structure for my overall life I get overwhelmed and tend to withdraw to a day of procrastinating and ignoring the schedule that I’ve tried to put in place for myself.

I am a person who does better when I know someone else has expectations of me. I have such passion and talent and drive – but I struggle with figuring out where to channel all of that without having something to work toward. And my brain works at such a speed and in such a way that instead of being able to focus in on a few options or possibilities I just see all of the options and end up in a never-ending loop of everything I could do and not knowing which to pick. So having someone to help me wade through that, help me set in place the limits and parameters and structure to figure out how to focus that drive and passion and talent… It makes it easier for me to know how to order my day, for me to plan what to get done when, for me to accomplish things and go to bed feeling like I’ve been productive.

So I crave someone who is willing to take on the very heavy responsibility of helping me create a structure for my life and then holding me accountable when it comes to sticking to it. 

3. Because I don’t always do what’s best for me and when that happens I need someone I can trust to point that out to me.

It’s true. I have a habit of spiraling and, when I do, sometimes I can recognize it and set myself back on track and pull myself out of the hole. But sometimes I make a bad decision. And then I make another. And before I know it I’ve set myself on the path to a cycle of self-destructive behavior.

And then that happens, I need someone who can gently but firmly sit me down and talk me through it and help me set myself back on the right track. I want him to help me set limits. To help me set-up the rules. To, once again, help me create that structure - or alter the structure that’s already in place.

I need him to be my voice of guidance when I can’t guide myself. I want to know that he has my back. And I want to know that he’ll put limits in place for me when I can’t do it for myself. 

4. I need someone to hold me accountable. 

I am a people pleaser. I like to please people. And, true, if my mental health struggles and therapy have taught me anything it’s that you can’t live your life entirely focused on pleasing everyone around you. But having a set person in my life who has agreed to be in a relationship with me where he holds me accountable and gives me rules and structure and sets expectations for what he wants from and requires of me gives me a way to feed that people-pleasing need without going overboard and feeding my anxiety.

But it’s more than just feeding that people-pleasing need. It’s about being held accountable. It’s about knowing that if I say I’m going to do something or if he asks me to do something or if he sets me a task or a rule or what have you – that he’s then going to follow-up to ensure that it’s done and, if it’s not, that there are going to be consequences and those consequences are going to come from him.

It’s part of the structure that I need. And I don’t want to put this on someone who doesn’t want to provide that kind of structure or who doesn’t want to take on that responsibility – I’m looking for someone who gets a sense of fulfillment out of taking on that role. Who enjoys providing me structure, who enjoys holding me accountable, who enjoys leading me. Because knowing that he enjoys that helps me feel pleasure, helps me feel calm, helps me feel at peace.

I need to be held accountable. I need to know that there will be consequences for my actions. And I need to know that that accountability and those consequences will come from the person that I respect and trust most.

5. Because I want a relationship that’s a give and take.

So much of what you see on tumblr has to do with the Dom being responsible and taking on all the control and having to set in place all the rules, limits, and boundaries, and having to be responsible for the welfare of their sub and on and on and on…

But that’s not a real D/s relationship. At least not to me.

A real D/s relationship is about a give and take. Both (or all) parties take on responsibility. Both parties are responsible for watching out for the other, for caring for the other, for protecting and respecting and loving the other. Both parties are agreeing to act like adults, to handle disagreements with maturity and within the parameters set-up, to respect the limits and boundaries and rules put in place. 

Your Dom takes care of you, yes. Your Dom agrees to hold you accountable. Your Dom agrees to lead you and pleasure you and take on responsibility for providing for your needs. But you take care of your Dom as well. I am responsible for watching out for him, for making sure he’s happy, for ensuring that he’s reaching his full potential and that I’m helping him in whatever way I can. I am responsible for talking to him, for telling him what I think and how I feel and for making sure that I share my problems and worries and issues with him. I am responsible for remembering that he can’t read my mind. I am responsible for asking him if he’s okay. I am responsible for listening when he needs to share his problems and worries and issues with me. I am responsible for taking care of him. I am responsible for loving him and respecting him and being the best I can be for him.

Because when he agrees to take on the responsibility of being my Dom – I, at the same time, am agreeing to take on the responsibility of being his sub. Because the responsibility of a D/s relationship doesn’t belong to just one party – it’s shared between both of us. It’s a partnership, a team, a unit. It’s a power exchange. An exchange. Which means there’s give and take. And I want that. I want to give my partner as much as he allows me to take from him. Because that’s the only way that both of us can remain healthy and whole.

6. Serving gives me pleasure.

Serving him gives me pleasure. Making a home not just with him but for him. Making it pretty, making it pleasing, making it a warm and happy place to come back to every night. Making him dinner. Doing his laundry (but not the ironing!). Making sure his shirts are all hung-up in the proper place when they come home from the dry-cleaner. Bringing him his favorite drink at the end of a long day. Washing him in the shower. Worshipping his cock. Keeping our home clean. Making sure I pick up his favorite snacks at the grocery store. Making sure he remembers to grab a water before he leaves the house for the gym. Serving him in so many ways.

Doing the little things (and the big ones!) that makes his life happier and calmer and altogether just a little bit easier – that makes me happy. Knowing that I’m helping him and making it easier for him to go through his day makes me feel complete.

And I know a lot of people will read this and ask what he’s doing to make my life easier and happier and calmer – and the answer is this: he’s doing so much. He’s holding me accountable. He’s providing my structure. He’s giving me a healthy and safe outlet for fulfilling my needs to please people and to serve. He loves me. He helps me make sure that I take care of myself – and takes care of me when I can’t do it. He gives me just as much as I give him. In his way, he serves me too. It’s a different kind of service than I give him. But it’s still service. Like I said, it’s a give and take.

7. Because kneeling for him brings me tremendous peace.

I suppose this could fall under service but it’s such a distinctive act that brings such tremendous fulfillment and peace that I felt like it deserved its own number.

It really is that simple: kneeling for him brings me peace. Kneeling for him makes me feel safe. Kneeling for him is fulfilling. Kneeling for him is a privilege. Kneeling for him is calming and pleasing and a position of both pride and complete and utter joy.

I love kneeling at his feet. I love kneeling in front of him. I love kneeling in the center of the room so he can watch me. I love kneeling simply because it’s where he wants me to be. It’s like meditation and prayer and supplication all rolled into one. I enjoy taking a position of worship on my knees. I enjoy worshiping him. I enjoy bestowing that honor on him time and time again. And I feel so tremendously lucky every time he allows me the privilege of kneeling at his feet. 

It makes me feel safe, it makes me feel whole, and it makes me feel lucky to take my position at his feet. Because it is a physical, positional reminder of who owns me and it gives me the time to reflect on exactly why I picked him.

8. Because I don’t want to be in charge.

It really is that simple. I don’t want to be in charge. I am in charge of so much in my day-to-day life. I take on so much responsibility. I care for my friends, I care for my family, I feed the people I care about, I have tremendous responsibility in work, I am responsible for teaching new hires, I am responsible for providing advice on this blog (and yes, I am aware that is a self-imposed responsibility). And there’s more – so, so much more.

And when I’m done with that I don’t want to make decisions. I don’t want to have to make the rules. I don’t want to have to be responsible for what happens next. I want to be told what to do. I want to be told what is expected. I want to be told how to please someone and how to do it right. I want to submit myself to someone else’s control. I want to hand myself over to him and his decisions and his direction. I want that peace. I want that safety. And I want to end each day with that sense of fulfillment.

9. Sexually, I find far more pleasure in cumming for him than I do in cumming for myself.

Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I really fucking love to cum.

But cumming for myself just doesn’t give me the overwhelming sense of pleasure (emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually) as cumming for him does. When he tells me how to get there, when he tells me what to say, when he makes me beg and cry and whimper and scream and tell him all of my darkest, dirtiest, most depraved fantasies while I try my hardest not to cum without permission… When he makes me wait for it, makes me edge over and over and over, making me hold off… When he finally tells me to cum. When he finally gives me permission. When he finally tells me to let go… It’s unlike any other feeling. Because I know I have earned that orgasm. Because I know he’s allowing me to have that orgasm because I’ve pleased him so much that I’ve earned the gift of it. 

Orgasms are great. They really, really are. But orgasms are even greater when they’re a gift from him.

10. Because I love being told no.

I do. I love the reminder of who is in charge. Or who I have trusted with my welfare and my care and my pleasure and my safety. I love knowing that he’s paying attention to me. I love knowing that he’s watching what I do. I love knowing that he’s making sure I’m staying within the lines – because it reminds me every single time of how committed he is to me and to our dynamic and to the promises that we’ve made to each other. 

And I love knowing that he’s in charge. And that he knows he’s in charge. And that he wants to remind me he’s in charge. Because it makes me feel safe. And, tbh, it makes me pretty damn wet.

Learning the ropes

How to Tie Flogging Cuffs - KnottyBoys 

I would love to give someone this experience.

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Options to consider. 

Consider others input but make sure you are the one deciding on what you want to do and are comfortable doing. Be comfortable in your own skin. :)

Steps to Becoming a Bimbo

So, I have posted some different thoughts on bimbo and what I think means to be a bimbo. A lot of the responses I have received is that a bimbo is whatever you and your man want it to be. So, with that thought in mind, I have decided to post what I think a bimbo is, along with steps that I took and am taking to become a bimbo. Some of these steps I took before I decided to become a bimbo. So, with further ado here is what I think of a bimbo. I think a bimbo is a naturally happy girl who is submissive. She appears ditzy and unintelligent as she is more focused what brings her pleasure than scholastic endeavors. She is focused on her looks and is always trying to look sey that she is willing to put herself through plastic surgery to fix any flaws she might have, And finally, she is a girl, she epitomizes stereotypical feminity. So now that we know what we are looking for, we can now figure how to reach that goal. So here are MY steps to becoming a bimbo.

1. Smile more…I had a picture recently that goreanmann(another great blog), tifhat said nothing sexier than a great smile. I could not agree  more, but a smile is not all, what does the smile represent. it should indicate…

2. Cheerfulness…So, gret you are smiling, but if the smile is one that I am going to slit your throat, well that is not really bimbo, so just be happier. Do things that will make you smile

3. Worry less…Become more oblivious to the worries of the world, this kind of goes with step 2

4. Focus on what brings you pleasure. Again this goes with number 2, but even if what you want to do is may get slightly ridiculed do it anyway if it makes you happy, and employ step 3 and just not worr what others think.

5. Say Yes..Now I am ripping off AnniDoll’s blog…I was going to say try new things but saying yes helps on two fronts…One it helps you find new things to bring you pleasure and two it makes you more submissive…Again, you may need to use step 3 if it is something that you are uncomfortable with.

6. Giggle, not laugh…Now that we have worked on part of the personality, let us try some behavior things. Instead of laughing, just let out a giggle instead. A giggle is a softer more girlish version of a laugh, you know it when you hear, and try and giggle more, see step 2.

7. Make up…Now I know some expect me to say, start applying your make up like a whore, but no, you want to take small steps, start with a little more, or if you don’t wear any at all, just add a little bit of blush, maybe a tinge of gloss.

8. Knickers…So we are feeling beautiful on the outside, you would expect that continue. But no, in my experience I feel that it can be uncomfortable to dress as a slut at first but no one know what sort of naughty girl you are if you start wearing sexy knicker first.

9. Exercise/Diet…This is more of an option step.. Let us say you are comfortable wearing some more revealing things but do not have the body for it…So just tone up, you want to look your best so treat your body right…Plus you will have more energy to be happier

10. Dress/Skirts…Skirts and dress are decidely female clothes, so start adding them to your wardrobe, and even wear stockings, underneath for that sexy look

11. Heels…Now that we are in a skirt, let us done some heels. Heels make your legs and bum look better. Start small if you are not use to wearing them. I have a post in my bimbo writing that kind of glosses over how to walk in them.

12. More Makeup…So, here we are, a knee length skirt some heels, stockings and possible a cute blouse. Our face is a little done up, we just need to add little more make up, really gloss those lips, add some eye shadow etc

13. Revealing outer wear..Now we can get to some of the more clothes, nothing to extreme, but maybe that knee length skirt becomes an inch or two short, that blouse loses a few buttons up top, or if not at work, maybe becomes a tank top that shoes a little belly and cleavage.

14. Degrading comments…This is the hard part…So here we are at a bar, wearing decent make up, rocking a mid thigh skirt, tank top, 2 inch heels and stockings. Well, that is going to attract some unsavory comments, go with step 1 2 and 3. Just smile, giggle, thank them and go on your way…Some will be usy I always recommend using my boyfriend is over there.

15. Orgasm…So far I have left off anything actual sexual…The reason for this is I want you to feel comfortable in your own skin…So now that you can take damn girl you got a nice arse, I think you feel good about yourself…so start, some of you may already have one, a routine of orgasming twice a day, three times if you can manage it..I always orgasm at least twice a day…once in the morning and once at night…If you do it in the morning, it make the entire day just happy.

16. Porn/Sex toys…So let us say you are fairly inexperienced in sex, just a few romps with some boyfriends that left you not to excited about sex…Watch porn, study, see some of the stuff that they do, if you have a boyfriend watch it with him…maybe you can try some stuff see if that excites you. I listed toys as part of the orgasm, if you having trouble with getting off with your fingers try some toys…

17 Accessorize…Now we get to doll ourself up like we did our barbies as a child…Some of you may wonder why this is so far down the list…so what if I am wearing some bracelets or ear rings…Well when I think of accessories I think of more body modification sort…Such as ear rings but maybe have a belly ring,  tongue ring, or add some extra ear rings…Stuff that is considered trendy

18. Sluttier Dressing So now we re getting more and more comfortable let step it up a notch…Wear skirts that show of the top of your stockings. wear tube tops, etc You should be proud of your body at this poin show it off.

19. Schedule appointment at salon…The reason I am doing salon, is because a lot of girl’s do not know how to do their nails, or do real heavy make up. Schedule an appointment at  salon, let them take care of you, you deserve…But while you are there ask them questions, like how do you do this what do you recommend when I do this…Most will be more than happy to answer you…(this is were I added streaks of blonde to my hair)

20. Have more sex…This is preferable with a significant other as there are some weirdos…If you have a man try and have sex once a day if you can spare it…just get use to having sex it is great for tension.

21. Learn more about sex…If you have sex once a day it can get kind of boring so spice things up, try new position, try some light bondage, spanking etc…just never let it become dull

22. Become comfortable with sex…So now that we having more and more sex and trying new things…You should already be pretty comfortable with sex so some one make a raunchy joke that normally you would have been awkward with just giggle at it, or even tell your own stories…If you bf wants his cock sucked in the mall parking lot…remember lways say yes and just do it…

23. Hair colour….Remember this is just my steps…But go ahead dye your hair something exotic remember we are doing it to look our best, so if your man like a red head go red, or whatever colour excites him.( this is where I am at)

24. Reassess…The step after this is to me one of the biggest and is the last one, so before we do it , let us make sure we can lie with being a bimbo…Can you live with people thinking that you some what slutty, can you live with people treating you like a ditz…Can you live with your man telling you. not asking but telling you to suck their cock…If yes proceed to step 25 if no reasses if you will ever be able to…Once you come to grips you can go to step 25, if you never can but are comfortable with what you are now then just live happy, or maybe change your look.

25. Extreme Body Mods. Now by extreme I do not mean getting GG sized tits but I mean go get surgery done, if you boobs to small get them up a size, need better,as goreannman puts it, thanks my man calls them this, cock pads plump them. Nose to big shrinking it. Do whatever you think will make you look pretty…Also, twat piercings and tit piercings are apart of this because these are more sexual piercings than the others. Disclaimer, I know a bimbo is submissie but this is decision that should ultimately be yours…You will be the one who has the boobs the rest of your life…Let your man hve osme input but make sure you are the one deciding.

So here are my 25 steps…I did not mean it to end up 25 I just thought of all I have done along with stuff I written down when younger….If you have any suggestiong please feel free I am certain I forgot something. or maybe did not add it to one of my posts such now that I think about it the giggling…When you do not understand something just giggle Remember the first two steps Smile and be cheerful…if being a bimbo does not amke you happy do be one…

Let me know if you agree. I'd love to know your opinion.

An Open Letter from the Sisters in Denial

Dear Gentlemen, 

So, you’re here because you want to try Female Orgasm Denial, but you don’t know how to bring it up to your partner, or you don’t think she’ll respond well.

We’re here to help!

Print out the below or hand her your phone and let us explain the benefits instead.  

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THE BIMBO GAME v.1.0

I didn’t exactly come up with the idea. Inspiration came from here: http://permission2cheat.tumblr.com/post/112829708475/good-luck-cumswapwithus

Readjusted the rules though and fixed the general balance, lost the cheating themes and made it more fitting for my Doll and her training.

This is the first version. Feel free to use, reblog, comment and suggest changes. I’d appreciate it if you left me in the credits ;)

Good Girls love doing their hair and makeup everyday.

It’s about being pretty. Wearing makeup is about crafting your look and maximizing your best features, while minimizing flaws. As a woman, you’re going to be chiefly evaluated for your appearance, so make it the best it can be.

Good Girls always strive to look their best.

It’s an art. Your face is a canvas that goes everywhere you do. Display your ever-improving skill at creating impressions and capturing attention.

Good Girls love to be pretty, be sexy, and be noticed.  

It improves your confidence. It returns your focus to maximizing your appearance, and leaves you feeling more confident and put-together. That will carry over to your behavior as well.

Good Girls love doing their hair and makeup everyday

It shapes your mindset. Not feeling sexy? Do your makeup!  It’s well known that when a routine is done regularly in a given mindset, simply doing that routine can begin to cause that mindset.

Good Girls always strive to look their best.

It shows you care.  When you’ve done your makeup, anyone seeing you knows that it‘s important to you to look your best.

Good Girls love to be pretty, be sexy, and be noticed.