To add, even back in 2009, there was a push that "bisexuality is transphobic," something that was designed to both attack anyone that dared to think about science (because bisexuality is being able to be attracted to both women and men), and also to wear bisexuals down.
Even on a website where bisexuality was defended, even back in 2009 when that page was published, bisexuality as a sexuality was already massively weakened, where bisexuals were so broken down that they were already tying themselves in knots to not be seen as transphobic.
Bisexuals in general are the absolute worst at defending ourselves and our sexuality, thanks to just how prevalent biphobia is everywhere. It tends to be so much easier for bisexuals to latch onto an entirely different label to try and obfuscate the fact that they're bisexual - both to themselves and others.
What isn't talked about enough is the intersectional bigotry that bisexual women face. A bisexual woman is seen as hypersexual and is presumed to have zero boundaries, so if she dares have any then she's a lying tease who can't be raped because she always wants it, who is both the hateful, lying and homophobic straight woman looking for male attention, but also the closeted self-hating lesbian as soon as she dates a woman and needs to admit to being a lesbian already because denying it is selfish and she needs to think about other lesbians, but if she dates a man after breaking up amicably with a woman, then she suddenly and finally becomes the evil, abusive bisexual lesbophobe that preys on unsuspecting lesbians to use them and deliberately lies to use lesbian culture.
Is it any wonder that bisexuals made up a whole bunch of nonsense labels to avoid accurately being called bisexual, when there's both so much entitlement to our time and bodies purely for existing, and also so much hatred of us?
We talk a lot about how it’s homophobic to tell lesbians that they need to be open to dating males.
But by focusing on on how harmful this is to lesbians, we leave bisexuals behind.
Many trans people have an attitude of “If lesbians/gay men don’t want me, at least bisexuals do.” And that’s just not true, and not fair to bisexuals. It leads to a culture of expecting bisexual women to be okay with any configuration of biological sex, hormonal status, and body parts.
Bisexuals are therefore framed as a group of women who are supposed to be available as a potential partner for anyone who wants them.
So it’s not just homophobic, it’s part of rape culture. Because it aims to teach (mostly) women that they’re not allowed to form their own feelings about their sexuality and their attraction. It teaches women that their sexuality isn’t for them. Their sexuality is a political statement, and there is a right and wrong statement to make.
The fact of the matter is that no one has to date someone they’re not attracted to. No one has to try to develop attraction for someone they’re not innately interested in. No one has to “examine their preferences” when it comes to who they want in their bed. This includes bisexuals.
Yes, women standing up for ourselves does lead to a lot of lonely mtfs who can’t get dates. No, that is not women’s problem.
This affects all of us, but it affects bisexuals in a unique way that’s worth talking more about.
stop rping with ghatgpt. you should be rping with a bisexual internet woman u have a relationship that constantly straddles the line between platonic and sexual with. tyou're ruining the ecosystem
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Not all people who identify as trans are "bad."
As a feminist, I feel grief and anger about the girls and women that identify as trans who are really (in no particular order):
Lesbians or bisexuals who hate/fear their same-sex attraction (and are sometimes pushed into a trans identity by parents who hate same-sex attraction)
Autistic (and otherwise neurodivergent) who are made to feel like they "can't be real women" because of it
Suffering with an eating disorder
Traumatised by abuse
Doing the only thing that they think they can to rebel against deeply misogynistic gender roles
Caught by social contagion and fear being ostracised by their peer group if they don't conform to the current fad
As for men, I do pity the boys and men who are gay/bisexual struggling with their same-sex attraction and otherwise go through something similar to the girls and women above, and who feel that they can't be "real men" in some way, so feel forced to adopt a trans label for themselves etc.
The trans people who are inherently bad are the men who "identify as women" for fetishistic, misogynistic and anti-LGB reasons. The straight men who call themselves "lesbians," the straight men that intimidate bisexual women into identifying as lesbians, the men who are desperate to push into female spaces, etc etc etc - the men who, in short, use women of all kinds as nothing but props and objects to validate them and their porn addicted fetish, and the men who prey on vulnerable teens to push them down a trans path for their own sick and twisted pleasures, too.
If you see feminists criticising trans people and immediately identify with the abusive men that gleefully talk about triggering women abuse survivors by forcing their way into women-only crisis centres and fantasising about swinging their vile penises around, or who eagerly push into women's bathrooms hoping to find a woman that they make uncomfortable because it brings them joy, then trust me, that isn't a feminist problem.
As per your response to someone else: if arguing on the internet with women suddenly makes you want women who are sex trafficked - women that have done nothing to you, who are a mere hypothetical to you - to "get raped and die," then yes, you are bad. Personally.
You couldn't even try the "I don't have to care about feminists" point to argue back. Instead, you rushed straight to an abusive, narcissistic "if a feminist doesn't bend the knee, then that means that I'm justified in hating and wishing the worst things on all women, especially the most vulnerable women."
You don't want feminists to care about you. You just want a twisted excuse to continue to hate women.
I'm so utterly baffled as to why women don't want you in our spaces. It truly is the greatest mystery of our time.
TERFs be like “no no, I don’t hate trans people, I’m not transphobic, I just think all trans people are inherently bad!” And it’s like did someone forget to tell the TERFs that that’s literally what transphobia is. Regardless of if you believe you have “reasons” for it.
bisexual women did you know you can just.. prioritize yourselves? you dont exist to be the lgbt foot soldiers. you dont have to defer to non-bisexual people's ideas about your experiences. you can dedicate your time and energy to things that concern specifically bisexual women it's fine it's not a sin
Couldn't reblog because it's a community post but I really wanted to lol
The beautiful remains of some stained glass in the old church burned down during the world war in coventry...