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Mistersbeard.tumblr.com presents: THE MAD DADDY

At the heart of every man there are a few core elements that make up who he is. One of the largest elements is pride. A man’s pride can drive him to do many things, and it all depends on the way in which he handles and negotiates the feelings that come along with his pride.

Now don’t get me confused… 


There is a good pride but there is also a very bad pride. And that very bad pride can often lead to a disgusting and dark disease known as anger.

Anger is a daddy’s worst enemy and it is something that can make or break not only the man, but it can also make or break a little.

There are many characteristics and traits that make up a great little… And there are also some very well expected ones. At the same time, a daddy is made up of some expected traits, and when your little is seeking one out she expects that she will find certain elements and things within them that will make them a suitable daddy for her.

Anger, maliciousness, selfishness in a bad way, and other dark and disgusting character traits are not the things that she looks for… and so often, the angry or mad daddy will hide these things until he has her locked in. However, the mad daddy is also easily recognizable , as there are a few things about him that are unmistakable with even the slightest of detailed observation.

The mad daddy has very little patience, he has very little restraint with the way that he makes you feel when he’s making you feel down… His words his actions and his ability to combine the two to make you feel like the lowest form of anything are a pretty good sign that he is a mad daddy.


Have you ever heard the phrase “making a mountain out of a mole hill”…


The mad daddy is very good at this…

Examples: if you are not performing the way that he expects you to, doing as he says, giving him what he wants… he will blow the situation out of proportion. mad daddy gets angry for no reason.He gets angry over the littlest of things because in his heart he is a severe control freak and narcissist.

NOTE: Now, there is good narcissism and there is bad narcissism. And before you go off thinking that I’m saying that being a narcissist is good,slow yourself down and actually read what follows.

The phrase “it’s not bragging if it’s true” works well to separate and differentiate the two.

Good narcissism is confidence combined with patience. It’s building yourself up by recognizing what you’re good at, what you’ve done well, the accomplishments you’ve made… and then using self affirmation to gain confidence and strength through that. It’s looking in the mirror and telling yourself “Hey, I can do this!” And then doing it again. It’s about reminding yourself that you’ve got the ability to succeed, lead, achieve, etc in a way that brings on more positivity and possibility. This behavior also motivates others around you and improves them as well.

On the other hand….

Bad narcissism is what we call swagger combined with immaturity. It’s false confidence and wrongly directed pride in the form of manifesting a narcissist attitude because of ones own shortcomings and failures. It’s projecting negativity onto those around you… and then grinding them down with your false image and self idolatry. And at his core the mad daddy is all of this and has no business being in control of anyone.

The mad daddy will make you feel down by putting himself down…

It is a narcissistic disorder in which the person wants to turn himself into the victim, while at the same time making you feel like it’s your fault. This is a classic pattern amongst the mad daddy… And he will use it often in order to keep you in submission to him.

The mad daddy has a hard time showing compassion and expressing forgiveness when you make a mistake. 


He goes from 0 to 100 in an instant when he doesn’t get his way… Much in the way that an immature child will throw a fit if they do not get that toy they want at the store or their cereal is too warm or something just isn’t fitting in the way that they want it to be. Then he will spend an extended amount of time berating you and putting you down and making you feel like garbage while jamming his finger into your already open wound… while at the same time turning it around on himself to make himself look like the failure so that you will express your compassion towards him and forgive him at the same time that he is crushing you into the ground.

The mad daddy always gets his way while taking away yours.

If he wants to play video games or go out with his friends instead of cuddles or Skype.. Its happening. Raise a fuss about it and he pulls the victim card out of his deck about how he works so hard..he does this..he does that, and he never gets to do what he wants. When turned around… He uses that same card to make you feel guilty about what you want to do, because all he wanted was to spend time with you ….and you never take his feelings into consideration when making plans… And then he becomes not good enough for you… And you don’t love him… And he’s so alone.. Nobody understands.. Blah blah blah…

The mad daddy has serious codependency issues.

When upset, he will go on and on about how all his life he’s always been given the short end of the stick, how he doesn’t understand why people keep leaving him, how he can’t ever keep friends…. And of course, none of that is his failure… Its theirs.

The mad daddy is an abuser.

Abuse doesnt just come in the form of physical. He uses his hands, fists and cold callous words to hurt you… And When he’s finished he apologizes, following it up with a jab about how it was your fault. “I’m sorry I did xxx… But sometimes I get so frustrated when you xxx…” as well as the classic “because of you, I did this..” and “I didn’t mean to do that…I love You.. But you…” and so on.

We are the least inhibited and most honest with our actions and words when we are angry.

So you often find yourself unable to speak. unable to act. Unable to be yourself… And you end up conforming yourself to the person he wants to crush you into.

This isn’t submission…. Its slavery.

The mad daddy will eventually grind you down until you feel like you can’t leave…. Until you become a slave to his behavior and end up being the caregiver instead. And soon you find any act of aggression makes you instantly fearful… Instantly unable to function… Instantly shut down… Scared… You might even feel like if you leave… He will either kill you or himself.

But the mad daddy is also something else…

He’s an immature coward. A child in an adult body looking for the mother that never loved him enough… And he’s searching for a victim to take it out on. - A coward beats a woman in anger. - A coward makes empty threats. - A coward manipulates and destroys another human being while being consumed by his inferiority complex.

Love doesn’t break your nose. 


Love doesn’t break your bones. 


Love doesn’t leave you with a black eye. 


Mad daddy’s are a factory that produce broken littles.

You feel like you can’t escape. But you can. All it takes is that first step. Your submission is a gift. Not his right, not his privilege.

End your suffering. End your pain. End your slavery.

You feel like you can’t escape…. But you can.

Someone out there is waiting for you to reach out. You have the internet and resources in the palm of your hand.

The mad daddy is a stubborn rotten tree infesting the beautiful garden you know exists in your heart. ….Chop it down. Today. Right now. Save yourself.  Mistersbeard

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