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I think a lot of Doms or “Doms” if you will... look at the concept of ownership in the lifestyle as though it were some kind of status. As if one takes great status for “owning” their submissive as though they were a collectible or a trophy on their mantle.... a head mounted to a plate on the wall...

And there’s much lugubriousness in displaying yourself in such a way.

To consider that ownership means you treat that which is yours as some kind of trinket or novelty object, it’s detestable at its core.

True ownership in this lifestyle?

It’s taking control of your maturity. Is owning not someone as property, but owning up to your shortcomings and limitations and not compensating by abusing another individual either physically, mentally, emotionally or all three.

It’s realizing what an incredible responsibility it is to actually care for someone else and grow them when you recognize they can’t do it on their own... and not only being there for them when they’re obedient, but also navigating your own patience, strength and willpower when they’re not.

It’s about wearing the very heavy albeit sacred and prestigious mantle as their owner, master, caregiver, Dom etc...and realizing not that it was your right to have it, but that it was graciously given to you as a sign of their trust in you.... trust that says “when I’m sad they will be there.”.... “when I’m hurting they will make it better”.... “when the monsters come, they will be my knight in shining armor and chase them away”... that mantle isn’t some kind of status you brag about in locker rooms as though you’d triumphed in some kind of conquest ... it’s not a notch in your belt... is the highest rank you could hold, given to you by a queen who sometimes feels like a peasant who needs a hero.

It’s not taken by you... it’s chosen for you by one who designated you out of all others to be their lighthouse in a raging dark sea called life.

If you only drive the car and never wash it... never polish it... never clean it or check it’s fluids or fill it with what it needs to move forward... if you constantly crash it or ding it... if you leave it parked in the rain with the windows down... if you only use it when you feel like... ignore it... abuse it... or treat it like less than it’s worth.... it’s not going to last you very long. Because ownership is about so much more than simply turning a key and expecting it to do everything you want it to do.

Ownership is not about calling yourself daddy... or master.. or sir or Dom...

It’s about BEING those things. Fulfilling expectations. Owning up to your mistakes. Realizing your limitations.... taking control of yourself in mind, body and spirit... and loving someone with the utmost of your ability and being while guiding, growing, providing safety and security and being the example for that other person.

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