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next to you  —  little big town | requested by anonymous

EXPECTATIONS:

REALITY:

. . . that meant everything

Toxic Positivity

I feel like toxic positivity is really prevalent in the New Age and Manifestation communities, and I just want to show people what it is and how to avoid it.

Toxic positivity is the assumption, either by one’s self or others, that despite a person’s emotional pain or difficult situation, they should only have a positive mindset. - Dr. Jaime Zuckermane

Signs of Toxic Positivity

Hyperfocusing on positivity

Pushing away negative emotions.

Classifying certain emotions as bad and certain ones as good.

Not allow yourself to feel "bad" emotions.

Believing the right mindset can cure physical/mental illnesses or disorders.

Hiding your negative emotions.

Feeling guilty when you have negative emotions.

Dismissing other people's negative emotions and thinking they just need to be more positive.

Ignoring problems in hopes they go away.

Examples of Toxic Positivity

Manifest positivity!

I am in control of my destiny and will be cured (of physical/mental illness) if I manifest it!

Everything happens for a reason.

If I can do it, you can do it.

You have so much to be grateful for!

Positive vibes only!

Quitting is not an option.

Smile, crying won't help.

Being negative won't help you!

Everything will work out in the end.

Don't think about it, stay positive!

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“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”

— Lao Tzu

“Just because I said nothing doesn’t mean I didn’t notice.”

— Unknown

Is is possible Tezca taking Alex has nothing to do with Michael, considering in the next episode Bonnie says Tezca wanted her to kill Michael? I don't see why Alex would be needed as leverage against Michael if she wanted him dead.

Also: when exactly are we supposed to be getting this "romantic" storyline for Malex that Chris was so proud of & thought people would "dig," because I'm beyond irritated that Alex is even barely mentioned. The only thing to dig here is Alex's body from the ground. 😒😒

Life is short, right? We both know that. Well, what if you’re my chance? What if you are the thing that’s actually going to make me happiest?

Jojo Moyes

RNM 4X08

So many people talked about this episode as if it was going to pay back for everything lacking in this season, at least for the Alex and Malex part of it.

People hoped for an Alex centric hour, for flashbacks, for feral Michael. Instead, there wasn't anything like this in the episode. Selling it like an episode for Malex fans was unfair, if not a blatant lie. How can it really be about a couple if they aren't the focus? If everything about them is twisted to be a mirror for someone else? There was so much Echo that it was insane. I know they're the main couple, I'm well aware, but can something not be about them? For once? At least in another character's storyline. But then, I ask myself, why am I surprised? Like always, it's Alex's story but it's not really about him. It's about everyone else. Perceiving him is about Maria and her powers, and keeping secret that he's missing is about Max and Liz's relationship. Not even Michael going feral is strictly about Alex but more about the way he reacts to things. All the promised snapping and going crazy lasted the blink of an eye and then it was all good. Michael got level headed surprisingly fast. I mean, good for him. He's really the pinnacle of emotional maturity this year. He even ends up apologizing to everyone, like he is the one in the wrong. But again, when did RNM allow anyone to be really angry? Never. If a character is lucky, it gets to scream a little bit, throw some punches or a few dirty looks around, and that's it. Unless you're Michael and you're angry at Alex. Then it's going to last two and a half seasons. 

So, no Alex, absolutely no flashback of any kind, and not enough feral Michael IMO. So great for an episode that was "for Malex fans". 4x08 was hyped to be something it was not. It's sad. 

I'm really not capable of considering Alex's ghostly self like it's enough. I don't really know what to do with it, and with that entire music scene. I would love to be moved by it but it doesn't work for me. Great scene for Michael, but for Malex? I want to see them play together, both physically present, not like this, with a scene that's just a cheesy attempt at pleasing Malex fans. I mean, it's an alien show, it's not like I ever expected it to make sense, but I personally draw the line at this level of cheesy. It's just on the wrong side of ridiculous for me. To be fair, the same concept worked wonders for me in "Ghost", but in that case the ghost was visible. So, maybe my problem is that Alex is still nowhere to be seen, so I don't really feel anything for this "presence". Totally my problem, I get it. I was hoping for so much more in this episode, instead the only good thing that came out of it was Michael's return of perspective on the Oasis question Vs his life with Alex (and his final breakdown in Max's arms). Took long enough. 

Everything else was underwhelming for me, even other people's concerns. I didn't fully buy it, but I guess it's normal in a show where these same friendships are nonexistent since season 1. It's a struggle trying to fully believe any of it. And, even so, half of the characters don't really care for Alex, but for what he means for Michael. So, like I said before, it's a great season if you're a Guerin's fan. 

I'm happy for the fans that are enjoying this season, I really am. I envy them. Watching RNM would be so much more pleasant if I was capable of doing the same. Sadly, I'm not, and I watched 8 seasons of Arrow and 7 of Agents of shield, so I'm used to a crazy amount of angst for my favorite characters. I'm even used to not seeing my favorite for a very long time. The point is that RNM did an awful job handling Alex's situation. And I don't want to hear anything more regarding the actor's availability. It doesn't matter when the writers can't come up with a compelling solution, and they didn't here. 

Let's hope for 4x10 now, maybe we will see a glimpse of Alex at least. Or maybe not, who knows. I really hope so, though, even if I don't believe he will have any real importance outside of Malex in the rest of the season. Still, we'll have to cherish that, even be grateful for it, because it will be the only thing with Alex in it. Disappointed is not enough to explain how I feel about this. And I will still feel the same if they end up married. As the saying goes, it's not about the destination, it's about the journey… and I don't think it has been a great journey so far.