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Essential Feminist Texts Booklist

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

A Vindication of The Rights of Women by Mary Wollstonecraft

Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by Bell Hooks

Feminism is For Everybody: Passionate Politics by Bell Hooks

The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for Feminist Revolution by  Shulamith Firestone 

Sexual Politics by Kate Millett

Full Frontal Feminism by Jessica Valenti

Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner 

Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape by Jessica Valenti

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez 

Bad Feminist by Roxanne Gay

The Color Purple by Alice Walker

Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall

Men Explain Things To Me by Rebecca Solnit

The Female Gaze: Essential Movies Made by Women by Alicia Malone

Girlhood by Melissa Febos

The Story of Art Without Men by Katy Hessel

Is This Normal?: Judgment-Free Straight Talk about Your Body by  Dr. Jolene Brighten

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jennifer Gunter

The Pain Gap: How Sexism and Racism in Healthcare Kill Women by Anushay Hossain 

Unwell Women: Misdiagnosis and Myth in a Man-Made World by Elinor Cleghorn 

The Turnaway Study: The Cost of Denying Women Access to Abortion by Diana Greene Foster, Ph.D

Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath

Self Concept Affirmations —☆

i easily get everything i want in life.

i always get what i want and better.

i manifest my desires quickly and easily.

i am a master manifestor.

i get everything i desire instantly.

everything always works in my favor.

The world revolves around me.

i can be,do and have anything i want.

i am the main character.

i am the only creator of my reality.

i am in full control of everything and everyone in my reality.

everything and everyone conforms my every desire instantly.

i have everything i desire and more.

All my desires are mine and here right now.

i never chase after what's already mine.

my desires shows up in my 3d extremely fast.

manifesting is always easy & instant for me.

my 3d instantly reflects my desires.

my 3d always conforms my every desires.

i am always in the state of wish fulfilled.

my self concept is perfect and strong.

For me, everything is possible and easy.

i am god, my manifestations are inevitable.

nothing can ruin my manifestations.

my imagination is the only real reality.

i easily dwell in my imagination.

i know my 3d is only the reflection of my 4d.

i am free from fears,doubts and worries.

i only have positive thoughts.

my physical reality only reflects my desires.

my life is rigged in my favor.

only good things and miracles happen to me.

i deserve only the best in everything.

i have healthy self esteem.

i believe in myself and trust myself.

i am absolutely limitless and powerful.

i am perfect and flawless.

everything about my life is perfect.

i am extremely confident and fearless.

i love myself unconditionally.

i am highly favoured,loved and respected.

i always win and succeed at everything i do.

i am smart,intelligent and talented.

i am extremely wealthy and rich.

my negative and intrusive thoughts never manifest.

negativity and failure does not exist for me.

my mental and physical health is always top tier.

i am the most prettiest and beautiful girl ever.

be the main character of your life, stop comparing yourself to others!

every time you compare yourself to another person you lose your power and give it to others.

be aware of your own value

the value you give to others, give to yourself multiplied!

if there is something you don't like about yourself try to change it from compassion and self-love, don't judge yourself for it, we all have the ability to change

recognize that comparing yourself with other people is something negative and prevents you from growing and evolving

you are the main character of your life, no one else, that's why it doesn't matter if you "believe" that someone else is more handsome or smarter than you, it's not, it's you, because it's your life, think about this every time you compare yourself

recognize when these thoughts come to your mind and focus in turn on something positive, something good about your day or something you like about yourself

don't compare chapter 20 of a person with chapter 3 of your life

focus on learning and not comparing yourself

turn comparison into admiration

be aware of the damage you are doing to yourself when you do this

write down everything you like about yourself and everything you would like to have or be

practice self-love every day, treat yourself with love

focus on you and your growth not on what others do

focus on what you like about yourself and not on what you don't-

recognize that you are the main character of your life, the life you are living right now is only lived by you so it doesn't matter how other people are or how they live their life, it doesn't hurt you, focus on you and your growth, you are unique and valuable you don't have to be like anyone else

some ways to practice self-love ( i will write another post on this)

forgive yourself

take care of your physical and mental health

avoid toxic people

connect to your feminine energy and make rest a priority when you need it

use positive affirmations every day

talk to yourself and treat yourself with love

do things that make you proud of you

post that i recommend you if you found this one useful 🤍

Wish this wasn’t true

How to become a bad bitch & completely revamp your reality.

Law of assumption:

Before I start giving you guys my tips, I wanted to let you all know that I follow the law of assumption. Meaning a lot of my advice is going to be surrounding this law, which basically states that your thoughts and assumptions about yourself and your reality, manifest.

Leading us into TIP #1:

Accepting your truth as the creator of your reality.

It may feel like things are permanent and impossible to change right now, but that’s only because you’ve deemed them to be that way. It’s very easy to fall into the “victim mentality.” This way you can spend the rest of your time on this earth blaming the world for the way your life is, instead of taking both, responsibility and control over your reality.

Whether you believe it or not, YOU ARE THE ONE WITH THE POWER, except you’ve been giving it all away to your outer world by caving in and falling victim to whatever your shitty circumstances may be at the moment. And that is where you’ve gone wrong.

Your circumstances do not define you, you define your circumstances.

If there’s something that you want to change, you CAN change it; right now even. The only reason you’re having difficulty with this, is because you’re limiting yourself. So stop doing that and realize that there are no limits.

Everything you see in the outer world today was once only a thought. Anything you can imagine or create in your inner world, CAN and WILL reflect into your outer world if you deem it important enough.

The reason I say that is because whether you want something or not isn’t always relevant; if you dwell on it enough, and put a lot of your energy and focus onto that subject, it will manifest. This is why if you have an assumption like, for example, “all guys/girls are the same,” you will begin seeing a pattern in the type of man (or woman) you attract. Even if you find someone you think is perfect, if you still have that same underlying assumption patiently waiting to manifest when you least expect it, it sure as fuck will. You’ll then see that same perfect person slowly but surely turn out to be just like everyone else, because that’s what you decided they were gonna do.

However, don’t freak; you can change this by changing your assumptions, which I’ll dive deeper into a little later.

Moving onto TIP #2:

Getting out of your slump.

Taking breaks to reevaluate yourself and your life, and to work on your mental health is perfectly okay, until you use that as an excuse to completely give up. Sometimes shit can be hard, losing motivation is normal; which is exactly why you cannot rely on it to be the only time you choose to put in effort.

I know just how hard juggling both your depleting mental health and your mess of a life can be, which is why I’m not asking you to disregard your needs or to act like nothing is wrong. I’m asking for you to do the exact opposite, I’m asking you to take care of yourself.

Again, I know that it can be extremely hard, but at some point you are going to have to get out of bed and show your mind and body the love that it deserves. No step is too little, baby steps matter too; what’s important is that you try. Whether your accomplishment of the day is brushing your teeth, or reaching out to a close friend you’ve unintentionally isolated from, self care is self care & I’m proud of you.

Things you can do to feel better and be more active in your life:

Develop a routine— this builds self discipline and can help you feel more organized.

Make daily “To-Do” lists— this especially helps those who feel as if they’re being unproductive or wasting their days away because at least now you’re getting the things on your list done. And even if the things on your list are things you may view as small, they still count. They don’t have to be chores or something boring either, in fact, I recommend you putting things down that you like. Something productive and fun like drawing, maybe reading a book or finishing that show you ghosted last month.

Declutter your space— I believe that messy physical environments are most likely a result of a messy mental and emotional environment. Doing things like cleaning your room or not letting the trash pile up, shows that you aren’t going to give in to the laziness and that you are willing to make a change.

Declutter your space pt. 2— meditating and journaling can help you release the things casting shadows over the space inside your heart and mind, therefore giving you a safer, more calm and peaceful mental environment.

Find new interests/Break bad habits— get a hobby, indulge in things that bring you enjoyment and raise your vibrations. distance and detach yourself from people who keep you feeling low, and stressed out & change the music you listen to to songs that have a more positive message to them.

There are obviously way more things you can do, but I chose to list only the ones I feel are the most important so that this wasn’t too too long.

The last thing on the list is complimenting yourself— the way you talk to and about yourself is literally everything…which I’ll explain next, but no seriously, talk kindly to yourself. stop indulging in self deprecating jokes, and don’t surround yourself with people that do. building confidence and falling in love with who you are is definitely one of the best things you can do for yourself, and simply giving yourself a compliment each day is a nice start to making that happen.

Which brings us to TIP #3:

Developing a healthy relationship with yourself.

Realizing your worth: quit settling. be picky, have high standards bitch that’s okay!!! you shouldn’t have to lower your bar for a bum EVER, when there are people out there that WILL meet your requirements & give you the treatment that you deserve.

Setting boundaries: set boundaries with yourself and others, make it clear what you will and will not be tolerating. stop condoning behavior that the version of yourself you dream about wouldn’t.

Creating a good self concept: self concept is your belief system surrounding, you guessed it, yourself. think about who you want to be, what you want to attract, and start thinking from the perspective of that person because you are that person tf?!

What you think about yourself WILL manifest, in ways that you might not even notice you’re the one causing. Even saying something like “I have bad luck” is going to make bad things happen to you, at what you feel to be random times, but it’s not random; you manifested it.

Having a good self concept is essential. It’s not an option. I know a lot of people in this community say it is, but I’m telling you right now, it’s not. You shouldn’t want to hate yourself goofball. Stop making shit harder than it has to be and develop a healthy relationship with yourself right tf now.

TIP #4:

Affirming accordingly / keeping your thoughts in check.

This is VERY important okay? You MUST keep your mf thoughts in check because your reality is a direct reflection of your subconscious mind, and it will always be that way. You can’t affirm for a day or two and then fall back into that self hating rabbit hole and expect to see changes weirdo.

Stop over complicating affirmations. You’re constantly affirming just like you’re constantly manifesting, the only difference now is that you’re aware of it. For example: you ask your mom for McDonald’s, she says no, you accept that as true and go “damn, guess I’m not getting McDonald’s today.” And then boom, no McDonald’s for you. But if you were to have persisted in the assumption that you were getting McDonald’s that day, and she did say yes, then guess who tf is getting McDonald’s?! Yeah exactly. I’ve done this multiple times so I’m speaking from experience.

Some people like to loop their affs robotically, if that works for you…do that. If rampaging and ranting to yourself in your head, or outloud in the mirror works for you, then do that. If saying your affirmations as complaints works for you, THEN DO THAT!!!!!! you make the rules babe I really don’t gaf how you do it, just affirm for your shit and persist in that new mindset. For me, I recommend saying blanket affs mostly, affs that cover everything like:

Manifestation is so easy for me.

Everything always goes my way.

I have everything I want and more.

My life is perfect etc etc…

& then whenever you think of a specific desire you have, like clear skin for example, affirming for your clear skin:

“I love having clear skin” “my skin is flawless” and so on.

Remember that you can’t just do this for a week or two, and then when you get your desire you drop all of the work you were doing to fix your mindset and then slip again. NO. This is your new story, your new reality; you MUST persist in that shit always, just like you already do with the old story that doesn’t serve you.

So if you’re manifesting clear skin and you see a pimple the next day, you don’t go “man this ain’t even working. fuck this, I’m never getting clear skin” because that’s literally the opposite of what you’ve been affirming, and it’s a belief you already had impressed into your subconscious so further affirming for it just overwrites that affirming for clear skin you did the day before.

You are god. Anything you could possibly imagine can be yours if you really wanted it to be. Absolutely nothing is off limits. Period.

TIP #5, the fifth and final tip:

Carry yourself with confidence and know it’s done.

This means you do not react when something doesn’t go your way, that’s impossible. Just adapt the new mindset that everything always works out in your favor, because then the 3D has no choice but to conform to that fact.

You want to go to that party tonight but your parents said no? So? You are going to that party. Don’t sneak out or put yourself in a possibly dangerous situation, just know that you are going despite what they said. Mentally make them tell you yes, affirm that they did and go get ready bae.

You want that promotion but your boss is an asshole? No he’s not, he’s nice and he respects you. You’re literally his favorite employee, which is why you are getting that promotion.

Get it?

Don’t stress out about outer circumstances cause all that shit is temporary, it’s literally just a reflection of your old story. Write a new one, be confident in your power, and know that shit is done; everything you want is already yours.

My dear friends: When a librarian or teacher says "Audiobooks count as reading", we do not literally mean that audiobooks are the same as decoding visual meaning via symbols representing sounds. We mean, among other things:

Audiobooks can expose listeners to new vocabulary and forms of syntax.

Audiobooks can present listeners with long-form fictional narratives with engaging characters, interesting literary devices, and poetic turns of phrase.

Audiobooks can teach listeners new information in a long-form manner that goes into depth or wide breadth on a particular subject or subjects.

Audiobooks can help listeners' verbal comprehension skills.

Audiobooks can do all these things without presenting the same difficulties to blind, low vision, partially sighted, visually impaired, or dyslexic listeners; listeners with ADHD; listeners who experience physical difficulty with holding a book or e-reader; or listeners who are disabled in a host of other ways that a physical book or e-reader might present.

The written word is not specially imbued with magical noble worth above the spoken word, and if you think it is, you may have some ableism and/or racism to deconstruct.

INTELLIGENCE SKILLS AFFIRMATION

~ i have infinite knowledge, i have a succesful mind, i always have the answer for everything, i have the mindset of a winner

~ i have an exceptional focus and concentration and high self-control, i enjoy of an amazing mind clarity

~ i can learn tons of new skills and talents easily and effortlessly, my ability to be the best in whatever i do is so powerful

~ i have a fast learning ability, insanely good memory and i can understand easily the most complex topics

~ everyone is fascinated by my talents and capacities, i am the most brilliant genius

~ i am extremely clever, my intelligence level is absolutely amazing, my brain is the most sophisticated machine

~ i am the smartest human on earth, my capacity and abilities are incredibly powerful

~ my intelligence increases exponentially all the time, my brain capacity surpass its limit

~ i have a genius mindset, i have a supernatural intelligence, i always use my brain to its fullest

~ i manifest the best potential of my skills, i am constantly improving myself to the best version

~ i am unique and original, i have an endless creativity and i master everything i do with perfection

Radical Feminism Beliefs: the basics

“Radical feminism is a perspective within feminism that calls for a radical reordering of society in which male supremacy is eliminated in all social and economic contexts. Radical feminists view society as fundamentally a patriarchy in which men dominate and oppress women.”

Prostitution

Purchased consent is not consent, it’s coercion. Sex work is dehumanizing and traumatizing for women, and fueled by sex trafficking. The commodification of female sexuality is a mix of misogyny and capitalism.

Pornography

Prostitution on camera. See above for key points. Additionally, female sexuality should not be monetized and sold for male entertainment. The industry is rife with rape, abuse, coercion, trafficked women, drugged women, and CP. It harms not only the women involved in the videos (physically and mentally), but it also harms the viewers in the long run.

Surrogacy

Similar to prostitution and pornography in the sense that women’s bodies become acquirable products for sale or rent. A woman's organs should not be for rent, as it creates a perverse incentive. Most surrogacy is outsourced to disadvantaged women in developing nations, where they are made to sign contracts they can't read and undergo poor treatment.

Bodily Autonomy

Understanding that a woman should have complete and utter control of her reproductive system; including abortion, birth, and sterilization. Understanding a woman should have access to informed and accurate medical care. Understanding a woman should have complete control over when and if she engages in sex with a partner. Understanding that PIV is often an unequal act.

Nuclear Family

This allows for the isolation of women, both emotionally and financially. The family unit, ideally, includes a large safety net of family and friends who assist in child rearing. Women should not be financially dependent on men, as this open the potential for abuse and difficulty leaving via power imbalance.

Capitalism

The system that allows the commodification of women and their bodies. Women shouldn’t have to sell or rent out their bodies in order to survive.

BDSM/Kink

Wherein the majority of subs are women and the majority of doms are men. Fetishization of slavery, power imbalances, rape, incest, pedophilia, and abuse. Hurting your partner does not suddenly become healthy if you can orgasm to it. Power imbalances that lead to physical and emotional abuse and trauma.

Patriarchal Religions

All holy books were written by men and serve to maintain and legitimize patriarchal power structures. Patriarchal religions falsely attribute the gift of creation to men when in reality every man on earth was molded from the flesh of women.

Postmodernism/Queer Theory

Radical feminism is based on materialism. Women are oppressed because of their biological reality, which is not subjective, subjectable to changes or personal interpretations. Postmodernism and queer theory are.

The Beauty Industry

Fills up the pockets of men who make money by ever-changing standards of female beauty. Keeps women insecure, low self-esteem, their value and self-worth forever dependent on their physical appeal (to men). Demands women change how they appear (makeup, shaving, dieting, cosmetic surgeries) to appear prepubescent (lithe, hair free, firm not soft) which is a part of what we identify as 'pedophilia culture'.

Marriage

Marriage would be described by some as the wheels on which patriarchy is carried onwards. Historically, marriage has been nothing but a transaction: a daughter, who belonged to her father, now belongs to her husband. Her reproductive labor, domestic labor, emotional labor, and physical labor all at his disposal. This is how marriage continues to work and act culturally in a majority of societies

Individualism

As opposed to class analysis. Arguably the most overlooked and hardest ‘’issue’’ to overcome. It’s understandable that most women gravitate towards liberal feminism because they don’t have to analyze the reasons behind their actions, they don’t have to come to difficult and unappealing conclusions, they don’t have to feel the need to take action and stop engaging in whatever they are doing that’s harming women as a class. Known as 'choice feminism', which affirms any choice as a personal one, despite what influenced that choice or how it may affect the female class at large (see: plastic surgery, "makeup makes me feel confident!", "I like being hurt during sex!")

Gender Critical/Gender Abolitionist

Gender is a social class applied to biology. Each individuals sex is innate, and gender is the series of roles, expectations, socialization, cultural practices, and personality traits applied to that sex. Sex is "this baby has a vulva" and gender is "so give that baby a pink blanket and a dolly". Therefore, radical feminists understand that gender is a means of oppressing women. They wish to abolish gender. This creates clashes with pieces of trans rights activism, which upholds ones gender as innate. Read more here on this topic.

The main clashing beliefs are as follows:

-Being dysphoric doesn’t automatically means trans, since transitioning is only a way of treating dysphoria, and there are many reasons someone might be dysphoric.

-Instead of “identifying as a man/woman/nonbinary”, we should abolish gender altogether.

- Males remain male and females remain female, even if they’re dysphoric/gnc. Biology is innate. Therefore, for example, a transwoman that rapes someone, is an male abuser. It is male violence.

- Males have male privilege, regardless of how they identify, because society is built upon upholding and amplifying males.

- Females will be opressed, regardless of how they identify, because society is built upon the females-as-a-resource model that holds us as sexual and reproductive resources for male pleasure and male heirs.

Radical Feminist Goals

Women's liberation via the dismantling of male power structures, and the rejection of a woman's "role" within society as a lesser class.

Ways to Achieve This

Separatism/Male Exclusion - simply deciding to center one’s life and actions around females in all possible aspects. The keeping and protecting of female only spaces. Ultimately, this might look like a female-only society that any girl or woman could enter or leave at will.

Introspection - analyzing one’s actions and maybe asking oneself: why do I want these things? What's drives this action? Is this the healthiest option for me, physically and mentally? Am I hurting a woman or girl if I partake in this option?

Raising Awareness - of all the issues mentioned above. Talking to women and girls about radical feminism. This is not a solution but a step towards finding or creating more solutions as a community.

Being Politically Active - political agency and action is essential for female liberation; especially concerning topics such as reproductive rights, legislation of prostitution, electing representatives ETC.

Male Reform - investing time and effort into making men aware of the issues, in the hopes that they’ll do their part for the liberation of women and do the same with their fellow men.

Childrearing - Focus on advocacy and action around raising girls and boys the same way, to begin to treat the class divide at the root. This is very difficult without full societal support.

Conclusion

Radical feminism is for female people, by female people. It's ideology goes beyond these tenets, but the ideas presented above should allow you to derive answers as to what that might be. Radical feminism is also referred to as second wave feminism, and is compatible with Marxist feminism and the original principles of intersectional feminism. Thank you for reading.

if you're on a path of self-growth and self-improvement I would like to advise you to keep private about it. I'm not saying to keep it a locked secret but don't go around talking about it. I learned it the hard way that speaking freely about our plans to improve ourselves results in bringing out the worst in so many people. people who you have no reason to distrust suddenly will actually wish you ill, because your progress will intimidate them, make them feel inferior, make them face their own insecurities and desires. and the kind of energy that these people produce is the kind of energy that can be a hindrance for you without you even noticing. suddenly you'll be exposing your dreams to an emotional vampire who will, even unconsciously, try and sabotage you. you don't need to share your plans and projects: just show up with the results and it will be enough said 🌸