So Many People Who Claim To Care About Trans Issues Will See Conservative Transphobes Rave About "cutting

So much queer discourse is just "i like pancakes" "so you hate waffles?" Type shit

"I believe mspec lesbians are valid" "so you think lesbians just need good dick?"

"I believe trans men can identify as lesbians if they want" "so you think trans men are women?"

"I believe transandrophobia exists" "so you think transfems oppress transmascs?"

No bitch that's a whole new sentence wtf are you talking about

Diversity win! Transfeminists™ now claiming trans woman is several men pretending to be a woman!

i like it when trans men and transmascs exist

i think there should be more trans men and transmascs

This isn't hate mail this is love mail but most times when I see stuff about this trans infighting the transfems are usually posed against transmascs. It's understandable as theres bad apples on both sides and im not surprised people run to protect their own, but I'm incredibly glad to see a trans feminine person advocating against this infighting and for ALL trans unity. I hate to see transmascs bully transfems even though it could be self defense, and vice versa. It feels like all huge trans bloggers both men and women have this idea that we must all hate each other so it's good to see a blog promote positivity on BOTH ends. thank you for fighting for us transmascs, and as a transmasc I need to work harder on ignoring the divisive posts and focusing on fighting for my sisters too. The world is a scary place and we need to be together more than ever before.

I love all my trans siblings and will do my best to defend every single one.

It is very funny that I have never met a trans woman irl who has been disbelieving or surprised that I, a non-passing FtM, do not feel safe in female only spaces. Maybe confused or curious but if I explain "well a lot of people will read me as a butch lesbian" not a single one has ever gone on to try and explain that actually I am still perfectly safe, because they understand that the "wrong" kind of woman is also deemed as dangerous. And when you are seen as dangerous you are yourself in danger.

I have faced violence specifically *for* being the "incorrect" type of "female" in a female only space, I have faced this before I even came out, before I realised I was not a girl. I know plenty of other trans men have, it's not splash damage, it's all punishment for existing outside of "safe" normality. A punch does not hurt less because the person who threw it thought I was something I'm not.

A lot of trans people on Tumblr talk about it like it's just, utterly impossible for trans men to also be unsafe in both single sex areas similarly to how trans women are, and while I'm glad that some of us *are* safe it is not a universal guarantee. The issue is that as long as we exist in a society where certain presentations and appearances are read by the majority as sexually threatening, then none of us are truly safe from the danger that represents.

If you claim to support trans rights, but deny transandrophobia, you don't actually support trans rights any more than a TERF supports trans rights.

honestly I hate how the "amazon basics skirt and thigh socks" thing went from an in joke that gently teased baby trans girls and encouraged them to get bolder and develop their own sense of style to a much more universal and mean spirited put down coming from people who don't understand how that phase of trying the easiest feminine clothes you can get your hands on in the safest place possible is nevertheless important for so many trans girls

The thing with like aphobia and transandrophobia and stuff is like

sometimes. you are going to see people complaining about oppression. and it's going to make you feel bad and uncomfortable. because you yourself are oppressed and in these circles you are used to being The Oppressed One and seeing these other complains about People Including You reminds you of actual bigotry in broader spaces, or makes you doubt your own oppression, or just makes it feel like you're being told you 'have it easy'.

but. that's not what's happening. what's happening is just that other people also have systematic problems and deserve to talk about it.

that is not an attack on you.

oppression is not a zero-sum game. Aspecs, or trans men, being better acknowledge as suffering from oppression, does not mean that you have it any less bad than you have known yourself to do.

it doesn't even mean that they have it 'worse'. It means exactly what I said: that they also have issues that they need help with and are worth discussing.

If that upsets the basis of your own understand of your oppression... yeah. maybe that means your understanding was wrong. sorry.

but it's only the THEORETICAL UNDERSTANDING that has been upset. your oppression is still not in any kind of question.

is that easy to understand or carry forth? no.

but it's necessary.

and it has happened, over and over again. When gay people and trans people were at head to head, both presenting the other as predatory sexual deviants and themselves as 'normal'. When gay men diminished lesbians' suffering because they were less likely to get on the news for being murdered than gay men. when bisexuals (within Tumblr's own history!!!!!!) were widely panned as possessing 'straight-passing privilege' and therefore never in the same 'category' of oppression as gay men and lesbians.

it happens over and over and over again. and it's always hard. but it always needs to happen, morally.

even if the people expressing their oppression are 'too aggressive'. even if their arguments make you feel uncomfortable and scared. even if the place you belonged no longer feels like home anymore.

it'd be nice if every time something happened that made you feel bad, it was because of somebody Bad who needs to be Stopped and/or Punished. but that just isn't the case.

an oppressed group (and we can judge this by statistics; it's really not that difficult) talking about their oppression is not causing actual harm to you. and even if they were, they still deserve to be able to do it.

They say we can't reclaim "tranny" as if they haven't called our voices "tranny voice" for years, as if they haven't called us "tranny dykes" forever, as if cis people actually care who they hit with that word. I have been called "tranny," I have been called it in multiple languages, in many ways, people in my high school used it to attack me like any other trans person, queer people did. People used it to mock, to hurt, aggrivate, to try to bond.

But they push us out of feminist spaces because suddenly we don't understand anymore, they push us out of sapphic spaces because they deem our bodies gross, our self-expression wrong, and now they push us out of trans spaces because we don't suffer enough. I wonder how much more pain I am supposed to shoulder before it will be enough for it to be deemed worth talking about, for it to be deemed worth discussing, reclaiming.

Because we have the bi experience, the ace, and inter experience: every side turns us away. We're too queer and too damaged, and then we're not queer enough, haven't suffered enough.

All this when you won't even let us talk about our pain in our own voices. How will you ever know it if you never listen; if you make us afraid to talk?

saying ‘trans men aren’t oppressed for being black because black men aren’t oppressed for being men’ is definitely a choice because if you for once in your life tried to crawl out of your stupid echo chamber to learn anything about any of the groups your referencing you’d know that black men are oppressed for being BLACK MEN. do people cross the streets when they see black women at night? do people automatically assume all black women are part of a gang? do black women suffer false rape accusations at the same rate as black men? do people come up to black women talking about how they’re huge fans of bbc? no. because black men suffer an oppression that is exclusive to their sex just as it is to their race. but of course you think black men aren’t oppressed for being men so that’s why you can say the same stupid shit about trans men