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Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist

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Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

If this hits home, also read Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

I just don't want my country to be forgotten.

I don't want people to forget that Ukraine, as well as Belarus, never wanted to be with russia, NEVER, and never will. russia is destroying everything dear to me.

I wish to see the days when Ukraine is free, with all the territories, with no russian language, no occupiers, nothing russian. I wish to see the days when people start saying Kyivan Rus and Volodymyr the Great. I wish to see Belarus with their REAL flag and official language and without ANYTHING russian. I wish to see people posting Belaruthian writers and artists and call them Belaruthian, not russian. We are not russian. We will never be russian. But we pay a huge price for that.

I want people in this fandom to understand my hatred, to understand what I feel when I read about, for example, russian occupation of Lithuania and Latvia.

I want people to understand what I feel when I search for articles about anything in Belaruthian, and I find NOTHING. Everything is in russian. I want people to understand what I feel when I hear my former classmate telling me that a russian rocket killed her neighbour.

If my land is gonna be forgotten, it means my family is gonna be forgotten, and I am gonna be forgotten. I don't want to be forgotten.

If you think "it's just politics, you shouldn't bring politics" - you are a very fucking cruel and heartless person.

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I Am Not Your Asian American Doll: a comic for AAPI Heritage Month 2023

I usually spend a lot of time editing and fine-tuning my comics so that they come across as polite and inoffensive. But honestly, I’m really tired of the way Asian cultures and countries are treated / talked about while Asian people themselves are excluded, and thought it was about time I really let my rage out lol.

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I myself completely customized this shirt from what was at home. This is the first time. It's a fantastic feeling

Я самі кастомізували це просто зі всього що було вдома це неймовірне відчуття

Роботи Алли Горської / Works of Alla Horska

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Those were great years together with Luz, Eda and King and now it's over... My children have grown up so much...