One Season A Year, I Turn Into A Wet Sock And My Skin Feels Like It's On Fire.

I’m still mad about something that happened on tiktok last week and I want to do a post about it and explain an aspect of transphobia I’ve observed.

A cis user made a video asking that trans people share more banger music that they make, but clarified saying “by trans people, I mean trans women” because trans men only make that “sad ukulele” music. There was much discourse, he doubled down and said trans men couldn’t take a joke, other trans people threw the offended transmascs under the bus, or insisted that they can also make club music, yada yada.

I want to know if the queers who haven’t been queer as long as I have know that this exact drama was had with gays and lesbians. Do you know that some transphobia is repackaged homophobia and lesbophobia? I feel like that’s something we should be allowed to say and examine without someone shutting you down and insisting you’re conflating the gays and transes.

But yeah, for decades the joke has been that gay men are the fun flamboyant ones that make good art and dance music, and that lesbians are angry and dress ugly and make sad folk music. It’s pretty much an identical bias and resulting disrespectful jokes.

And it’s shit! I’m not going to let anyone, let alone a cis person, get away with transphobia just because it’s directed at trans men. It’s rude and harmful to devalue our art, and our art doesn’t need to be easily consumable to you. We’re allowed to be pissed and offended when you write us off, minimize the harm you’ve done, and exclude us from the conversation. It’s obvious when you only tolerate the queers who can serve you, and that you don’t actually care to listen or learn about our lives, struggles, and art.

fwb who don't even include the "friends" part <<<<<<<<

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Please, for the love of god, leave me CLEAR INSTRUCTIONS!!! If you think it’s implied, I promise you that to me it is not. If you give me poorly worded or vague directions I’m gonna spend half an hour stressing over the potential different ways to interpret them and either become paralyzed with indecision or inevitably interpret them the least correct way possible

reblog if you:

- are aromantic and want to kill

- think aromantic people should be allowed to kill

- think fish are pretty cool

• Fidgeting and stuttering do NOT always indicate that someone is nervous.

• Avoiding eye contact does NOT always mean someone is lying.

• Having a hard time focusing does NOT always mean someone is lazy.

• Carrying around a stuffed animal or blanket does NOT make someone childish.

• Poor motor skills is NOT a direct indication of intelligence.

Not everyone fits into your box. Deal with it.

truly i dont want to hear anymore about how terfs are so nice to transmascs from people whose only interaction with terfs is reading their propaganda online. like some of you are earnestly like "wow, do you really think an anti-trans hate group would do that? just go on the internet and tell lies?"

i had a terf physically assault me in the bathroom of a bar because she recognised me from some stupid facebook post where i disclosed my gender identity (wasn't even a man then! just a """theyfab"""!) and after she was done smashing my fucking head against the wall and groping my crotch she told me so smugly that "no one will believe you" about the assault. isn't that so funny.

and no, she didn't "mistake me for a trans woman". she very angrily informed me that if i thought i could "escape what it means to be a woman" that i had another thing coming- that thing being corrective sexual assault and a concussion, it seems.

*queerplatonics all your love songs*

if you’re gonna have a big celebrity voice a character in your animated movie you should show it to a test audience and if they can correctly guess who the celebrity is you need to fire the celebrity and hire a real va