Hiii!! I Saw You Rb With You Question About Non-sharing Yume, Thought I Could Answer Because I Am (and

Hiii!! I saw you rb with you question about non-sharing yume, thought I could answer because I am (and since you especially talked about popular character (I think he was like 7th on the Tumblr's ranking this year lol) and mine is one too, I feel like my input could help you) ^-^

I'm gonna start by saying that, even if we sometimes forget it because we're deep in the community, yumeshipping/selfshipping is actually kinda niche and most selfshippers don't fandom tag their content or interact with the fandom at all. So even if you do interact with the fandom, there is low chances you'll see a double/dupes there. At most, you'll see a ton of fanboys/girls, so it's mostly about your sensitivity and how non-sharing you are (aka do you accept fangirls even if they don't selfship).

In my current (f/o) relationship. I don't interact with the fandom at all, but it's mostly because I had very bad experiences with the fandom so seing fan content and all kinda triggers me. But with my last f/o, even if I was non-sharing, I interacted with the fandom everyday and even if fangirls sometimes made me uncomfortable, I mostly didn't care.

When it comes to canon x canon ships it's a bit trickier. From my personal experience, I mostly don't care as long as they aren't canon and not too popular. With my last f/o I even collectionned ships art because I just wanted to see him. But in my actual one, the fanon ship is so popular that's its the kind of ship people screams "it's canon" and get defensive about, so I'd rather have nothing to do with it. It used to bother me more, now it only does when I'm already not feeling good. Because to me, I know that in canon there is no romantic implications between them so. But I also know non-sharing yume that would rather not see any ship with their f/o, and that's fair, how deeply it actually bother them is deeply personal tho.

When it comes to what to do when you're non-sharing, it's pretty easy : blocking people + blacklisting tags. Once you get used to curating your online experience, it's like nothing can bother u :3

But I'll finish by saying that, I have seen friends give up on f/os because they were too popular, or force themselves to become sharing. I'd say being non-sharing with a really popular character isn't for everyone.

I hope it kinda make sense lol, you can also ask other questions if I didn't answer everything, I don't mind.

YOOOO YOURE ACTUALLY SO SO COOL FOR ANSWERING THIS !!!! That makes a lot more sense !! Yall seem neat ya definitely dont deserve the harassment I've seen yall get before :( But yeah thank you for explaining this it actually made sense to me and answered a lot of the questions I might have !!!