To all who identify with the feminine~
Oh my, I believe this qualifies as “relationship goals” <3
I finally watched The Sound of Music and like I get it now, I get it.
It’s a beautiful two hour love story of a strict man finally opening his heart again and then a fifty minute public service announcement to hate the nazis. Brilliant.
Love is love, no matter the decade!!! ❤️
Photos of gay couples from Sage Sohier’s 1980s collection At Home With Themselves
Love to see some public broadcast television defense of trans rights, especially in the sports section! This stuff gets swept under the rug by sexist coaches and toxic sports culture way too often, and it’s really nice to see someone--especially as @kuriquinn said, an old American white dude, the demographic probably least likely to put out that defense--stand up for Mack Beggs like that!
People don’t always have to understand, so long as they are understanding and supportive.
This was going to be the year that I started trying to make more friends too, as well as looking for potential partners, because ideally my plan was to have a kid in the next couple years after I get my BSW, and there are, ahem, preceding things that need to happen for that. Looks like those plans got cancelled for this semester, and I only hope this all blows over by the fall semester for that reason. I don’t want to be the girl who’s pushing marriage and kids a few months into dating someone!
I’ll start. My petty gripe during this whole thing is that I was saving up to buy a computer and some nice software so I could teach myself special effects and advanced video editing for my backup career plan and now that my job is shut down I have to keep all my savings to apply for grad schools next year and since my summer job got cancelled I might not even have enough for that.
Also my favorite taco shop is shut down and I’m pissed about it!
The basics of growing food
So, growing food sounds very intimidating, and in reality, it’s something people knew how to do thru all history, and it’s made even easier by new methods of ‘no till’ and ‘no dig’ garden. I didn’t know almost anything about it until 3 years ago, when I got a plot in a community garden and started growing food with no experience. Still it went good! Here’s what I learned:
The basics are as simple as 'if you put a seed underground and keep it wet, it’s going to come out.’ If you start off from that, even if you know nothing else, eventually you will succeed. The additional stuff is done to ensure success. The biggest actual issue of gardening isn’t how, but when. When are you supposed to put all the seeds underground to get good harvest? For most of the plants, it can be as simple as 'Spring’. For others, it’s very important just when in the spring you plant it.
Let’s say you want to start your first garden, you want to plant some onions, lettuce, peas, green beans, tomatoes, peppers and zucchini. All of these can be planted in the spring! But these plants are sorted in 2 categories: Those who can survive a frost, and those who cannot. We call these 'frost hardy’ (those who survive the frost) and frost-tender (those plants will die if they’re exposed to lower than 0 temperatures). From the ones I listed, onions, lettuce and peas are frost hardy! It means you can plant them very early in spring, such as February and March, and they can be hit with snow and ice and be just fine. They can also be planted in autumn, and they only really start growing in the spring.
Green beans, tomatoes, peppers, and zucchini are frost-tender, meaning you absolutely can’t grow them before the chance of freezing temperatures is gone. This is known in gardening as 'the last frost date’. Every area has a different last-frost date, so it’s good to google yours to be sure you’re planting these when it’s safe to do so. For me it’s mid-April.
Now, since it’s a long time to wait for your plants to grow if you’ve only planted the seeds in mid April, people have found a way around it by planting the seeds in little containers inside of their house, or in a greenhouse, so they grow in a nice warm place on a windowsill, and are moved out in the ground when it’s warm and safe. This is a very fun thing to do as you will have bunch of little plants growing in your home. Important thing to know about it is to use really light and airy soil, not garden soil, (you can use forest soil!) and to make sure you’re not over-watering them and you give them as much light as possible.
Soil is another big thing in gardening, the grass grows so easily from it, but you can’t exactly plant your seeds into the grass; they will get suffocated. For a long time people have tilled the ground to make it empty of all the weeds and easy to handle; however this isn’t healthy for the soil, because it ruins the quality of top-soil, exposes it to sun and wind erosion, and it dries up very easily. Here are some beneficial methods of gardening: mulching and no-dig. Mulching means adding stuff like hay, straw, tree leaves, woodchips, pine needles on top of the soil. You’re protecting your soil from sun, wind, erosion, drying out, and if your mulch is thick and dark enough, no weeds will grow in your garden. You are gardening by science.
So what does this mean for you, when you’re standing before a patch of grass, thinking of turning it into a garden? You need to do this months before the actual planting, using time to your benefit is the smartest thing a gardener can do. You pick a patch of land and bring in everything you can on top: cut grass, hay, tree leaves you raked or found, straw if you have any, woodchips, anything that will stop the grass from growing. If you really want to build up your soil you can bring in compost too! All that organic material will eventually turn into compost and fertilize your garden as it degrades to soil. It’s important to not mix it with the soil, and to only keep it on top of the plants. Mixing it will deplete the soil of nitrogen, and you need nitrogen to grow anything green. If you keep bringing in organic material for years of gardening, and on top of that put some compost as well, in 3-5 years your soil will become so rich and soft you will no longer have to use tools to plant in it.
But, hey, if it’s your first time, you don’t need to aim for perfection. If you didn’t prepare your soil in the fall, whatever! You can still pull the weeds, dig around a little to make some clear soil, and plant your stuff! I’ve done this last-minute planting and it works just fine. Mulching and adding organic material is only the easiest, most scienc-y way to garden.
The next big thing in gardening is spacing and depth: how far apart should your plants be? And how deep to plant them? For depth, the rule of the thumb is 'twice as deep as the seed is tall’. But I’ve seen people pull various shit in this area and succeed so do what you want. As of spacing, I would also say, try out what fits for you. It takes a year of gardening to get a sense of just how big the plants get, and what would be ideal spacing for each of them. I decided only on my third year to plant tomatoes VERY far apart, because I realized in this case, one plant will give me more than 8kg tomatoes and it’s much less work than planting 3 times as many plants that are close together. Peas seem to like to grow close tho, for some reason. Sometimes you can decide you want a bunch of tiny plants because you’ll eat them young, so you don’t space them on purpose, people do that with lettuce, leeks, spinach. If you want your plants as big as possible with as much yield as possible, give them half a meter and see what happens.
Fertilization is another big thing in gardening; if you add a lot of compost and mulch your garden consistently, you won’t need a lot more; however there’s a cool free trick you can do (if you’re not currently sick): you can mix your urine with 10x water, and water your plants with that. And I really mean mix it with 10x water! Plants can get very fried by it and start to wilt if they’re bombed with too much fertilizer at once! There are rules for this: use it when you want your plants to grow a lot of greenery, not if you want them to flower or produce fruit. This fertilizer is rich in nitrogen, and nitrogen inspires plants to grow more leaves! If you wanna fertilize them later in their growth, put a lot of nettle plants in a big container with water, leave it in the sun for 10 days; when it starts to smell real bad, it’s ready. (you can also do this with comfrey). Also dilute it with 10x water! Don’t use these fertilizers on bean or pea plants, or any legume, they don’t like it.
Now I’ve given you so much info at once, you’re probably struggling to take it all in, so here’s a good youtube channel where I learned all I know: Roots and Refuge. If you watch this lady garden for long enough, she will tell you all of the secrets.
I remember being a first time gardener overwhelmed with worry; what if I fail, what if nothing grows, what if I kill all the plants, what if I have a black thumb, what if the plants die because I am stupid, what if I put all of this work in and get nothing, what if people make fun of me, what if I run into problems I won’t be able to solve. Here are some of the answers to these!
A part of what you grow will DEFINITELY DIE. I can guarantee it, it happens to everyone, every single garden in the world has had plants die, sometimes for no reason at all, but in no case will EVERYTHING die. We all count on a part of our plants dying, becoming slug food, not doing well in general, and we always plant 30% more than we absolutely need. Even if you are personally responsible for killing the plants, the plants will not hold it against you! Plants appreciate you spreading their seed regardless of success, they understand that by trying multiple times you will eventually succeed and they absolutely want you to learn thru occasional failure. The answer is again to plant a lot, and it never ever happened that nothing came out of it. Most often, it’s not going to be your fault at all. Sometimes the year will be good for tomatoes and carrots, and bad for peas. It’s all okay! Because you just planted extra peas, and you’ll get more tomatoes than you expected to have.
If you have the desire to plant food, you do not have a black thumb; the green thumb is in the heart that yearns to grow. You’re not stupid if your plants die, plants die for everyone. And people are likely to come at you with million advice; listen to no one, try everything yourself. If they make fun of you, they’re gonna look real stupid when you have home-grown food. Any problem you might run into while gardening is google-able! Or you can join a page of gardeners and they’ll be happy to identify the issue.
The real main issue with gardening are slugs and bug-type pests, and that is a problem for another day because all I know to do is to yeet those away by hand and shake my finger very sternly at them. Hope this helps!
Homesteading survival knowledge
Growing Food:
The basics of Growing Food
Crops to grow for Maximum Production
Seed Starting Plan
Grow transplants for free
How to get Seeds for Free
How to find good soil for Free
Amending the Soil
How to Collect Seeds
Re-potting and care for tomato transplants
Growing dry beans
Growing Garlic
How to grow a lot of Leek
Plants going to Seed Explained
Food you can grow and eat in the Winter
Climate change and Food Security
Plant Lemon Trees from Seed
Why is rain much more effective than watering?
Stashing Food
Storing the Food from your Garden
Living in nature and food conservation
Making a Meal from foraged and Garden Food in Winter
Sun-drying Strawberries
Sun-drying Cherry Tomatoes
Citrus Tips
Canning
Blackberry Jam
Strawberry Jam
Salsa (tomatoes, peppers, onion, garlic)
Đuveđ (mixed vegetables preserve)
Ajvar (preserved peppers)
Preserved sugar Cherries
Foraging:
Edible Mushrooms that grow on trees
Edible Wild Plants to Forage for in Spring
Make Honey out of Dandelions
How to cook with Nettle
Incredible value of Pine Needles
Herbalism
Rose Water
On herbal infusions and poison tea
Herbs to Collect for Tea
How to safely make Elderberry Syrup
Yarrow and Lemon Balm
Basic Medicinal Herbal Tea Uses
Tree Care:
How to grow trees
Where are the Tree Roots?
What is Root Flare
Tree Pruning Mistakes
Types of Pruning cuts
How to Prune Correctly
Other:
Building a Cob House
How to make Earthen Floors
Cooking with minimal use of heat
Processing Forest Clay
How to hand-work clay
How to make laundry detergent out of conkers
Creating baskets out of Newspapers
How to keep your space cool during heat waves
How trees create a living atmosphere
How to get rid of ants
Survival Recipes
What garden plants can be used as poison
Morning skincare:
Cleanse
Tone
Serum
Moisturise
Sunscreen
evening skincare:
Cleanse
Exfoliate
Serum
Moisturise
Sleep mask or oil
Happy Passover! ~Canary
Chag pesach sameach!
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Nicely put! Too many worry that they’ll be called catfishes if they aren’t 100% dressy for their SO all the time, but it’s unreasonable to expect constant prim and proper from everyone all the time.
if your husband cannot bear to see your bare face, then he does not truly love you. if you fear his reaction to when you don’t wear makeup, then he does not truly love you. he should love you in all your forms.
Canary, she/her, they/them. 23, wlw. I created this blog as an oasis from the toxic parts of the tradfem community on here, and I hope that I can inspire others unlike me and provide a haven for those like me. Asks are open, but if you have a problem with me or something I posted, please read my About page. Hopefully we can avoid some drama this way. Feel free to send the ask anyway, but be aware I might redirect you to my about page if I explain my stance better there. I am always looking for ways to better myself as a person. Please enjoy your stay.
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