If I Have One More Kinky (sometimes Underage??) Top Trans Man Like My Dating Profile Stating I Am A LESBIAN

Y'all know you can draw a butch woman engaged in sex without giving her a penis, right? To REALLY challenge yourself, draw her without a strap, too! It's just important to me that y'all know these are very real possibilities.

you say you're a writer! so am i. what are you writing?

I’ve actually got several projects going!

My current one, (and the one I plan to release to the world first however I end up doing it lol) is called, “Therese” and it’s a butchfemme lesbian second chance romance, and musings on how it was growing up in deeply conservative areas of America as a lesbian who didn’t realize she was a lesbian. It’s contemporary but also purposefully left without markers of exactly what time period it’s set in (because that blurs when you get to farm towns and they can end up recycling a lot of beliefs that people thought we left back in the 60s)

Basically it follows the path of Therese through the eyes of her childhood best friend Phoebe, as they grow up together and Therese (butch) begins rebelling against what she’s been taught in a more loud and aggressive manner, while Phoebe feels too petrified to really do anything. They end up realizing their feelings for each other but it doesn’t work out because Therese wants to leave and Phoebe still has a lot of guilt due to religion so she stays and they lose touch for several years. Eventually Therese returns and Phoebe pursues her again because she doesn’t want to lose the love of her life the second time around.

I also wanted to push back at the Butch=cold, mean, uncaring sort of stereotype I often see both in media and in characterization of lesbians within fandom, so Therese, though she is loud and opinionated, is also consistently characterized by her kindness and care. Phoebe is the one who struggles with more bitterness, which made more sense to me considering the lesbians I’ve met in my life who came out later often have a lot more pent up resentment (myself included) than those who came out earlier. Though Phoebe also learns over the course of her life that the pursuit pushed on women to be quiet and calm and never angry is ultimately misogynistic in nature, so she embraces her anger too.

I’ve also got a fantasy series I’ve been working on for like 4 years but the world building for that one goes DEEP so in nowhere near done with it 😭 so “Therese” is definitely going to be the one i release first

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i love shitty DIY projects

make ur own jacket!! make ur own patches out of whatever u have and sew em on however u can. use what u already own or find things at the thrift store or borrow stuff from other stores! the possibilities are endless!

shitting on other people's diy is probably one of the least punk things u can do imo.

it is so much cooler to wear shitty diy than any piece of fast fashion.

Ugh literally. Like as a writer and aspiring author myself (it’s my hope to get a novella self published within the next year, even if that’s just uploading it to Wattpad bc idk how I feel about self publishing through Amazon like many ppl do) I’m going to go out on a limb and say that reductionism isn’t even necessarily bad. It can be a literary tool, and the problem is overusing it, like any other literary tool. The reductionism of the one girl being different was supposed to make a sense of isolation easily understood by the reader, and oftentimes it wasn’t meant to be a direct mirror to real life. It depends on your audience and what you’re trying to do but I don’t even think it’s always bad.

And just as you said, nobody cares about reductionism unless it’s to point out a problem, reductionism that benefits the status quo is completely fine.

I know there are a lot of complaints about the “Not Like other girls” era of books aimed at women, some I disagree with, some I don’t. But I’m rereading one of those types of books right now (technically re-listening bc I’m using an audiobook but same idea) which I absolutely adored the first time I read, and honestly I kind of miss that time period.

Like sure it was reductionist at times, but at least the women were unabashedly themselves and pushed back against gender stereotypes. This book is set in a fantasy past based off of Medieval Germany (from what I can tell) and with that obviously comes the sexism of the period, and she had actually realistic feelings on the matter. She thinks about how she wishes she’s a boy because she wants to have a career, specifically a farrier or a hunter, and criticizes the fact that she’s living in a society in which her value is through marriage. She’s practical minded, she looks up to her father and male relatives because she wants the freedom they have, but also feels a sense of displacement and disgust from them because of their sexism, and in general just has so much more energy as a character than I often see in more mainstream books now. And she’s STILL a woman and eventually finds her power as a woman.

Idk this is just a personal pet peeve of mine but I don’t like our current idea of rejecting surface level femininity = rejecting womanhood, either positively or negatively. On the one side you get shamed for it because you’re a pick me, on the other side you get told you’re just a man. And it’s made characters really really bland.

(Also maybe I just am the problem, idk, but I have had the experience of feeling left out and not like my female peers growing up because they were content to uphold patriarchal ideals and I wasn’t. I still put up a good effort when it came to talking about crushes and doing all the fun sorts of “girly” things they liked, but I had trouble finding anyone who reciprocated that energy towards me when I wanted to talk about my interests that didn’t necessarily fall into that category. So imo there is a kernel of truth in the “not like other girls” stereotype, not because other girls are INHERENTLY bad, but because of how our current societal pressures work on young girls.)

Type shit

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to stop the abuse and violence they go through daily

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating for them not to be subjected to sexual illness or infections on the daily

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to stop them being trafficked and forced into the industry

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating for them to be given higher wages to help them out of the industry

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to just have them treated as human beings

What I would giveeeee to have a woman do this to me 😭😭😭

Love being possessive but not jealous like yeah babe you can talk to her, you can hang out, just let me give you a hickey, leave my lipstick on your cheek, i know you’re mine, so does she and i know she can’t have you like i do so why would i worry

Literally fixed my mental health by so much 😭😭 I didn’t realize how much forcing attraction to men was weighing me down and causing me to be out of touch with a lot of the rest of my personality because I would be constantly questioning my likes/dislikes. Now I just exist as myself and it’s amazing.

realizing I was a lesbian literally felt like this

I’m abt to hit the crash out phase I can feel it approaching