🧁🎀QUOTES BY NEVILLE GODDARD🎀🧁

How to balance your own life/self improvement & a relationship?

A guide ~

So this is for me because I’m in a loving wonderful relationship for exactly 8 months today but ever since we started dating I threw all my (very high maintenance) routines out of the window in a way I don’t do them frequently anymore.. and I want to start taking beter care of myself again.

So maybe someone else also finds some tips in this post.

🦢 communicate

I think it’s best to start of with the most important one and that’s openly communicating with your partner.

Which means tell them about your values, dreams, goals..

I personally think that can be a difficult thing because it was for me since my girlfriend has always known me as extremely confident in myself (and I still am) so I didn’t want her to know I too would like to change certain things about my life. But I did end up telling her I wanted to start taking beter care of myself again because I’ve being neglecting my good habits.

And good partners will be supportive of you! She was, so if you’re also struggling with this I assure you it won’t go wrong!

🦢 shared goals

To follow up discuss the goals you might have together.

For example maybe both of you want to start exercising? Or setting some extra money to the side for a vacation?

There might be some things you two can do together if both of you are up for that! Which can be a great motivator for some.

🦢 be a little selfish

No this doesn’t mean doing whatever you want without taking into account your partner’s feelings.

For example it is when you want to have some alone time, that you can do so even when your partner spontaneously wanted to go out. You also deserve some time for yourself.

It’s simply giving yourself some things you enjoyed/did when you were single and still being able to do them in a committed relationship.

🦢 compromise

Following that up, also be able to compromise. You obviously aren’t alone in your relationship and just as you’re allowed to want to do your own thing you’d also have to let your partner do the same.

It will not always be the way you planned it, in those situations you’ll have to compromise with your partners wants.

For example you wanted to give yourself a selfcare day but your partner would love for you to come to this family event. Why don’t you join them to the event since it’s important for your partner and do a selfcare day tomorrow if you have time?

🦢 include your partner

Obviously you’re dating this person, so I’m guessing you want a future with them. Since you do.. and since you and your partner will most likely end up living together just get it over with and include them in your self improvement journey.

It can be little things, for example she holds my hair when I do my skincare at her house and I don’t want to wear a headband. Or she’s just there when I search pilates workouts to do later. As well doing things a little more outside of your comfort zone like for me.. her knowing about this account 😅.

But it’s your partner, the person who will know you best of all. I think including them in your personal journey really will make your bond stronger!

🦢 prioritise your relationship

Lastly, but also very important your relationship should be no. 1 place!

There really is no more explaining to do. Be open with your partner, go on dates, skip a (not yet booked) facial appointment for something important they want to do with you! They’re the person you love after all.

And I run around like a madwoman, begging people to see me, to look beneath my skin, deep into my soul, and love me with my flaws embedded in my flesh.

How to brain dump like a pro

what you need

a messy notebook (I like the Leuchturm bullet ones)

a pen

a beverage for emotional support (or several <3)

how to get started

grab your notebook, and sit down in a quiet moment with enough time so you won't stress even more. The point of a brain dump is to unload all your thoughts, everything that is stressing you is put to paper. not aesthetically, no cutesy Pinterest vibes; we need it plain, unromanticised, and personal.

some prompts to get you going

do I have any deadlines coming up?

have I been making time for myself and my hobbies?

what projects, tasks, appointments, and/ or plans are currently stressing me out?

am I procrastinating anything?

am I properly looking after myself? (mental/physical health, skincare, hobbies, school/work, etc etc)

am I currently working through any challenges, and if yes how is that going so far?

how are my friends/relationships doing?

is there an area in my life that I should prioritise right now?

do I feel confident and comfortable at the moment?

Review and reflect

take some time and go over your writing; you can underline or highlight the points that you find most important. make this whole "brain dump" thing a routine; sometimes it takes a bit of writing until you actually get comfortable with putting your emotions onto paper (it sounds easier than it is..), but the more often you do this, the more comfortable you will get!! <3

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3

love ya ･:*₊‧✩

made a lil thing

youtube channels to motivate you this semester

♡ abao in tokyo - study with me’s & playlists

♡ advika singh - study & productivity vlogs

♡ allie c. - medical school vlogs

♡ carrot td - study with me’s

♡ celine - study with me’s

♡ deaana - medical school, study with me’s, stationary, etc.

♡ dear mimi - study vlogs

♡ dia - medical student vlogs

♡ dr. rachel southard, do - medical school & residency vlogs & talks

♡ emily feng - medical school vlogs

♡ emilystudying - dental school & study vlogs

♡ emma grace - nursing school vlogs

♡ emmalilyn - study with me’s

♡ ginny - study vlogs

♡ hyobin - medical student vlogs

♡ leighton sanders - nursing vlogs

♡ lucky penny - study with me’s

♡ lunardazes. - uni study vlogs

♡ madi’s nursing journey - nursing school & nursing vlogs

♡ mango oatmilk - study with me’s

♡ maria silva - study & hospital interning vlogs

♡ merve - study with me’s

♡ mishujo - study & productive vlogs

♡ nada - study & productivity vlogs

♡ ray hon - study with me’s

♡ sab yang - medical school & study vlogs

♡ sean study - study with me’s

♡ sierra lyn - nursing vlogs

♡ studymd - study with me’s

♡ study to success - stationary, study with me’s, study hacks, etc.

♡ tani study - study with me’s

♡ yours truly, chloe - study vlogs

♡ yulma - study with me’s

Be grateful.

- Why?

Normally being grateful makes us and the universe (or God, whatever you believe) happier.

For example: you give a gift to a person, if they receive it gratefully, you will want to give them more gifts. The same thing happens with the universe, if you are grateful, you will be rewarded.

- How?

We all know that it is difficult to be grateful if we are going through a bad time, we must know that something much better always happens from something bad.

Here I will tell you how to do actions of gratitude:

Express gratitude: Taking the time to say "thank you" to the people in our lives and to the universe itself, you can make it a day or night routine, accompanied with meditation if necessary.

Reflect: Take a few minutes at the end of the day to reflect on the positive things that have happened.

Acts of kindness: Performing acts of kindness and help toward others can also foster a sense of gratitude.

Me saying my morning affirmations be like:

This that pretty girl mantra, this that flaunt ya

Just touched down at LA

Pretty girls don't do drama, unless we wanna

It'll be depending on the day

Pretty girls packed in a Defender, know I'mma defend her

Never let her catch no stray

This that pretty girl mantra, she's that stunna

Make you wanna sing both ways.

Amen

via instagram (creds: girlinbluestudios)

i was meant to be someones spoiled and mischievous house cat